Why is it so difficult for people to understand....

[Erotics]

We've been together as a couple such highschool and today 20 years later we are just as in love and horny about eachother as then.

The reason we've entered the swinging scene was to enhance our already healthy sexlife.
From the beginning it was always an idea that we should be enjoying it together and not apart. That means that we don't really just to partner swapping for the sake of swapping.
I don't mind her being ravished by another male or female or even a couple, but I want to be part of it.
If she's got an expression of pleasure on her face, or her body is trembling with an explosive orgasm.......I want to see it, I want to experience it.
She feel 100% the same about me.

Why is it so difficult for others to understand this ?
We've even been called "weird" straight to our faces

[slevin]

Originally Posted by Erotics

We've been together as a couple such highschool and today 20 years later we are just as in love and horny about eachother as then.

The reason we've entered the swinging scene was to enhance our already healthy sexlife.
From the beginning it was always an idea that we should be enjoying it together and not apart. That means that we don't really just to partner swapping for the sake of swapping.
I don't mind her being ravished by another male or female or even a couple, but I want to be part of it.
If she's got an expression of pleasure on her face, or her body is trembling with an explosive orgasm.......I want to see it, I want to experience it.
She feel 100% the same about me.

Why is it so difficult for others to understand this ?
We've even been called "weird" straight to our faces

Called weird by who?

[LagniappeDC]

This is the reason why so many of us keep our involvement in the lifestyle a secret. A majority of society just isn't ready to accept it. Attribute it to religion, insecurity, jealousy...whatever. Even without the swinging aspect involved, you wouldn't believe how many comments we get about the fact that we like to go out, stay in shape, etc. We love our kids and family life and give our vanilla life plenty of time, love and nuturing. The fact is we are still sexual beings and swinging is part of that. We think some are jealous that we still have that connection and find time for each other. Enjoy the ride and don't worry about those other "weirdos" lol

[VegasLee]

Originally Posted by Erotics

Why is it so difficult for others to understand this ?

People within the Lifestyle do understand and what does it matter to those out side of the lifestyle?

Your borrowing trouble. This is supposed to be about fun, not drama. Why deal with it?

[realcplub2]

I would ask the same question that Slevin asked

Called weird by Who?

Seriously, If We understood the gist of your writing, people giving you BS over being same room only?

Browse ANY of the sites, in a 5 minute period, of going thru profiles its much more difficult to find people who ARENT than are..

But more importantly, if it works for you, who gives a shit what anyone else says

And a side note.. We are the same as you, same room, hell often same bed swap ONLY

[JustAskJulie]

Are you referring to people outside the lifestyle not understanding your desires? Or people inside the lifestyle not understanding that you only want to play together?

[Erotics]

Obviously it is about people within the lifestyle.....

All the couple we meet just want to do partner swapping and not even same room, which is unacceptable for us.

[VegasLee]

Originally Posted by Erotics

Obviously it is about people within the lifestyle.....

All the couple we meet just want to do partner swapping and not even same room, which is unacceptable for us.

By your first post is was not Obvious. That is why people asked.

Well, it is not a problem with you except that you are picking people that are not your style.

Each person/couple in this Lifestyle has their own style. None of them are wrong but could be wrong for you.

Do what works for you and don't worry about what others think. It is your life.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Erotics

Obviously it is about people within the lifestyle.....

All the couple we meet just want to do partner swapping and not even same room, which is unacceptable for us.

It wasn't obvious to me. I thought you were talking about people who don't swing.

I hope you have better luck in the future finding couples who are a good match.

LM

[realcplub2]

Erotics, It may be WHERE you are, in the states its not a standard

but more importantly, if these people want to be with you and your significant other.. they follow YOUR RULES..

it doesnt matter if its in regard to same room play, or making them wear CLOWN SHOES.. if they want you, they will comply

OR find someone else