When worlds collide

[Coupleerotic22]

We have not had any major run ins yet, but a couple of close ones. What has been the reaction from people you meet in the lifestyle that you already know from outside the lifestyle?

My wife met someone online that it turned out she knew from high school.
I met a couple online that I found out our children go to school together. Still don't know who it was, but we both gently backed away from each other.
We ran into one a couple at a party, I know him, but not sure how.

Part of me says it is not a big deal, and part of me want to keep the two worlds completely separate.

How do you look at this? Has it caused any problems when the two worlds do collide? How do you handle the situations?

[curiousagain]

I have ran into co-workers, parents of my children's friends, and children of friends. Sometimes we played sometimes we didn't. Sometimes there is an awkward moment, once everybody figures the other isn't going to freak out, there is laughter and jokes, stuff like "I just knew" "You gave off that vibe", etc.

They are on the site or at the meet up or party for the same reason you are. I wouldn't play with someone if it would make vanilla interactions awkward. But, otherwise, it sure does cut down on the time it takes to get comfortable with and get to know someone.

[LFM2]

They're there for the same reason you are... I wouldn't freak out about it. I've met up with old high school friends, etc. There's no embarrassment. Only awe because we met up at a swingers party.

[Brian and Jo]

One of Brian's colleagues at work replied to our ad a few years ago. We only found out who she was when we met her and her husband for drinks one evening. It was a bit embarassing at first but when we all realised we were looking for the same thing everything was fine. They were attracted to us and vice versa and we played with them many times before she was transferred to another city. We have continued to keep in touch and when she visits our home town we usually get togther to play in a threesome. We have also met a couple where the wife worked in the same government department as Brian. In that case we did not know her before we started to swing with them but knowing she worked close to Brian was not an impediment to us developing a close friendship which has lasted to this day.

[TnHappyCpl]

Saw this in Playboy Advisor this month...Daughter gets engaged, takes mom and dad to dinner to meet fiance's parents. Mom and dad realize they have met this couple before, in a swing club, and had sex with them. Mom and dad say its history but wonder what the other couple thinks..LOL

[charms123]

So we are at the club, and there is a hallway that separate one part of the club and the bar. Hubby and I are walking up the hallway to the bar and he turns the corner and I hear ahead of him,

"Hi "M", ahhhh how are you tonight?"

"Ahhhh good "K" an yourself? Ahhhhhhhh" from hubby.

I come around the corner and there is the nurse from our primary care doctor. Her first time in the club. We nearly shit! As did she. But hey, what is she going to say? and what are we going to say outside the club. we are both there for the same reasons. We saw her later in the night wearing only her thong and heels! Very nice boobs she has!

We later exchanged emails and met at the club a few more time. We never played and she stopped showing up. She was dating a guy that was a member and she wanted to try it out. He is a loser and they subsequently broke up.

But you never know do you?

N

[Newpants]

Originally Posted by Coupleerotic22

Part of me says it is not a big deal, and part of me want to keep the two worlds completely separate.

How do you look at this? Has it caused any problems when the two worlds do collide? How do you handle the situations?

If you are going to be running for any kind of office or holding any kind of job or position where you would end up on 60 Minutes if the story broke is one thing. If you are a regular every-day citizen that is something else.

We try as best we can to keep the two worlds apart. Not that either of us are politicians or anything but because we keep our private lives private. We don't tell our friends/family/coworkers about our vanilla sex life either.

But, at a fundamental core level, if you are going to swing in the physical world then you are going to have to meet people in the physical world. You do run the risk of running into someone.

Our preplan if we run into someone is to request that they keep our private life private and we assure them that we will do the same for them.

It has happened once. We ran into a lady Mrs New worked with at a party out of town. They both had a little freakout and Mrs New wanted to run from the party. I said it was better to deal with this upfront at the party rather than deal with it at work.

We each agreed to respect each others privacy and all was good. The only problem was they were hot and it was just too freaky to try to play with a coworker.

Fast forward several months and Mrs New gets laid off. It dawns on us that they are no longer coworkers so we called them up and got together

They are now one of our closest lifestyle friends and we hang out with them in the vanilla world as well as in the lifestyle.

[Newpants]

Oh another thing. We don't worry that much about going to lifestyle clubs and such because if you run into someone face to face there, it means that you are there for the same reason and you each jumped through the same hoops to get in there. If it happens you can just agree to respect each others discretion and privacy.

Where you need to be really carefull is online. Any Tom, Dick and Harry as well Tommy jr, Richy jr and Harry jr can get access to your online profile and information. We have even seen one profile that stated up front they weren't real swingers but just seeing if they could find any neighbors, coworkers etc on the site.

Be mindfull of that when it comes to sharing pictures or other personal information online.

[Coupleerotic22]

Update: My wife and I started separate accounts when we first started swinging. One of those accounts she maintains because she has made friends on the site. No real world meeting have come out of it.

Recently she was contacted by a guy that lives very near to us. He clearly did not read her profile because he kind of freaked when she said I would be there, ie. a threesome, he thought that was kind of creepy.

Usually she just tells me what is going on, but since this guy was my age and lived in the same city she wanted to look at his photo to see if I knew him. Sure enough he had been my best friend in elementary school. We had grown apart, ran with different crowds etc., I run into him from time to time when I am out at the store of something and we catch up.

I laughed when I saw the photo, it was at least 12-15 years old and other parts of his profile were not accurate either. Needless to say any remote interest my wife had evaporated. Yesterday, while out driving we ran into him. He has no clue about us, but my wife could not believe it was the same guy.