From wife's point of view

[happycouple5047]

We have had exactly 1 (one) swinging experience. Just to preface.

My wife related this tidbit to me on a long drive one day.

As a couple, I'm the one who initiated the idea, she wanted more research, we did the research, we agreed it might be fun, and we played with another couple. We were new and inexperienced..still are, but we plan on curing that..

Of the two of us, she is the least (and I mean very) least experienced with sex in general. Her actual sexual experiences are restricted to husbands (2 including me), so she knew very little in the way of sex outside of a loving married situation. I on the other hand have had in my younger days, many experiences outside the boundries of marriage/love.

I'm also the visual one, and the fantasies I visualize in my head involve her being with others sexually. She has had no such definitive fantasies, and this leads me to the point (finally).

What my wife seems to think is kinda cool about the swinging world is that you can have good sex outside of the conventional married setting. You can enjoy being "taken" in a different way than you're used to. You can help your husband realize his fantasies without feeling bad about it. You can be a "bad girl" without feeling bad about yourself. You can have a secret, just between the two of you, (in our case anyway) that none of our closest vanilla friends, or our families can ever know about. You can send flirty texts to the spouse of another lady without repercussions, because the two couples are in on it equally. You can (after your husband has told you time and again) realize you are not just attractive to him because he loves you with all his heart. Lots of folks find you desirable, and they don't know you like he does.... She likes the fact that nobody who knows her within her circle of friends and family would ever believe in a zillion years she has actually done something such as swinging, so far out of her character. She doesn't even swear... ever.. for goodness sake! She also likes that she can be persuaded to step over the line by her "bad boy"... me!

And what she really likes is that she goes home with me, and loves me 'till we can't see straight... just like we would have if we never participated in the first place. .

I like that part, too.

[GerdOEvert]

Really on the mark.

Hit the needs fo us.

[Newpants]

Hmmm, she sounds kinda like a swinger to me.

Welcome to the club

[LFM2]

LOVE this post! Thank you for sharing!!

[Brian and Jo]

Great post. She has hit it right on the nail.

[willyoats]

Very thoughtful post. It's wonderful that you two can enjoy guilt-free love and sex, share with others and go home with a smile on your faces.

It's a little like our experiences, i.e., not much outside of the marriage until we started swinging and our horizons opened up to infinity.

I wonder if it's the Indiana air. We lived there for 20 years which included 10 great swinging years. I notice another guy, Bbarnsworth, who usually writes thoughtful posts, is also from Indiana.

There's an old Letterman (another Indiana guy) joke: Do you know why Indiana is called the "heartland of America?" Ans: "Because it sure as hell isn't where the brains are!" Happycouple5047 sure puts a dent in that accusation. And, they have heart, too!

[Coffeeblack]

Great post!!