How do you delicately tell an interested party no...

californiadon · 05-12-2010, 03:06 AM

This past weekend, at an enjoyable party in Irvine, I watched a woman have a lot of trouble telling a few guys no. From my persepective, it seemed awkward for her to tell these guys that she was not interested in them at that time.

I walked over and and ran interference for her for about an hour. We chatted about mundane things and she had an excuse, until my partner pulled me away to help her with another person.

Anyway, how do you (or would you) be firm and yet keep it civil?

DiscreetDesires · 05-12-2010, 10:32 AM

It really just depends.

Sometimes a polite "No thank you" will suffice, but other times it's best to keep a friend by or be in a group to help with the unwanted attention.
Was this a single woman? If not, where was her husband?

I prefer to know the people that I play with, so unless I know them, that is what I tell them. If they would like to get to know me, that's great! If not, then they will never know the pleasure of my company sexually.

padoc · 05-12-2010, 12:36 PM

A simple "no thanks" should suffice. We've found that if we have to go beyond that, the other couple is either shallow or rude so civility quickly becomes unnecessary.

AskMeOk · 05-12-2010, 05:21 PM

Just say, "No." should be enough. If that doesn't do the trick, it is time to talk to the host/hostess.

xxxboxy · 05-12-2010, 05:42 PM

Mrs. xxxboxy's response in person is: "Oh, that's so sweet...but no thank you." If the pester she follows up with "Please don't make me be rude."

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05-12-2010, 03:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
californiadon Registered Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 3 Location: Pacific Palisades Status: Single Male Swing Lifestyle Name:californiaswinger	How do you delicately tell an interested party no... This past weekend, at an enjoyable party in Irvine, I watched a woman have a lot of trouble telling a few guys no. From my persepective, it seemed awkward for her to tell these guys that she was not interested in them at that time. I walked over and and ran interference for her for about an hour. We chatted about mundane things and she had an excuse, until my partner pulled me away to help her with another person. Anyway, how do you (or would you) be firm and yet keep it civil?

05-12-2010, 10:32 AM	#2 (permalink)
DiscreetDesires Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 122 Location: Houston, Texas Status: Married Couple	Re: How do you delicately tell an interested party no... It really just depends. Sometimes a polite "No thank you" will suffice, but other times it's best to keep a friend by or be in a group to help with the unwanted attention. Was this a single woman? If not, where was her husband? I prefer to know the people that I play with, so unless I know them, that is what I tell them. If they would like to get to know me, that's great! If not, then they will never know the pleasure of my company sexually.
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05-12-2010, 12:36 PM	#3 (permalink)
padoc Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 155 Location: FT Myers Fl Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:padoc	Re: How do you delicately tell an interested party no... A simple "no thanks" should suffice. We've found that if we have to go beyond that, the other couple is either shallow or rude so civility quickly becomes unnecessary.

05-12-2010, 05:21 PM	#4 (permalink)
AskMeOk Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 155 Location: Greensboro, NC Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:askmeok1	Re: How do you delicately tell an interested party no... Just say, "No." should be enough. If that doesn't do the trick, it is time to talk to the host/hostess.

05-12-2010, 05:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
xxxboxy Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 360 Location: Near Seattle Status: Male half of couple Swing Lifestyle Name:xxxboxy	Re: How do you delicately tell an interested party no... Mrs. xxxboxy's response in person is: "Oh, that's so sweet...but no thank you." If the pester she follows up with "Please don't make me be rude."

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