should i feel bad about about rejecting someone?

[jhitch82]

i went to my 1st party the other day... there was an indian couple there who spoke little english and were shy. shortly after the party started. the gentleman running the party and two single females called me over to the other room. with the couple both standing there all three of them asked me if i would fuck the wife right now. all three of them were kind of laughing while doing this. they were a really odd couple and after having to a babysit them and breaking rules they were asked not to come back.... anyways i kinda chuckled and said nah im all good and walked away. should i feel bad that i rejected her? should i feel bad about the way i rejected her? is there a proper to reject someone? all suggestions will be helpful thank you

[ebsfgncu]

Being polite and honest is the best way to reject someone. Laughing or being rude is not acceptable. As a single guy, your reputation is everything. If you're seen as an asshole you won't be invited back.

My two cents.

[exploringRM]

Even though it's part of the lifestyle, I always feel bad about rejecting someone, especially if the reason is just lack of interest. But we are not here out of charity so that's just they way it is.

[Newpants]

I'm kind of wondering if you were being played for a fool and instead of feeling bad about rejecting someone, you maybe should be feeing a bit ticked off and disrespected. something fishy was going on there.

I think you would have felt a lot worse if you hadn't extricated yourself from that situation.

Something was wrong there and I'd think long and hard before ever going back to that party again.

[Alura]

I think Newpants is right; you were "being had" and perhaps tested.

I can't imagine a party host with any experience at all in the lifestyle allowing himself to become involved in a situation such as you described.

I think you're very lucky you didn't say, "Come on; let's go!" The punch line was yet to come, in my opinion.

Alura

[JustAskJulie]

You said they were laughing as they asked you? It sounds to me like something more was going on (like maybe they were fucking with you). As to your question about feeling bad for saying no, as long as you did so politely then no you shouldn't feel bad.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by jhitch82

...they were a really odd couple and after having to a babysit them and breaking rules they were asked not to come back.... anyways i kinda chuckled and said nah im all good and walked away. should i feel bad that i rejected her? should i feel bad about the way i rejected her?

I'm not following everything.

You are referring to the Indian couple as being "a really odd couple" - correct?

Were you babysitting them? If not, who was? And exactly what do you mean by babysitting?

What rules did this couple break? [I'm finding it hard to imagine a shy couple who doesn't speak english being able to break many rules]

Did all of this rule breaking and babysitting take place before the host and the two women asked you if you would fuck the wife?

Did you actually reject the Indian woman, so that she was aware of you rejecting her? Was she hearing the conversation between you, the host, and the two women?

I'm trying to get a clear picture of what transpired.

LM

[xxxboxy]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

You said they were laughing as they asked you? It sounds to me like something more was going on (like maybe they were fucking with you). As to your question about feeling bad for saying no, as long as you did so politely then no you shouldn't feel bad.

Exactly. Always strive to be polite, even if you've been given a reason not to be...

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

I'm not following everything.

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I'm trying to get a clear picture of what transpired.

LM

Same here. Would like the OP to clarify the situation for me.