Why is laughter such a problem?

NCfuncouple98 · 05-01-2010, 04:29 PM

Mr NC and I were just reflecting about our experiences over the last (almost) 2 years.

IF it's a couples situation, and both men are aroused, not overly drunk, and in the mood, it can be an amazing time all-around!

I consider myself to be a fun kinda gal - love to laugh, joke around, and just generally have a good time. But we've noticed that if laughter is involved, sometimes it causes another male partner to either completely lose interest, or become almost angry, to the point they don't want to continue. Literally, twice, I have had men use the phrase "You are laughing at me". No, no way, I am not laughing AT anyone - I am enjoying myself, having a good time, and I tend to laugh, giggle, and enjoy myself.

Mr NC knows me well, and after all these years together we laugh at everything. I mean sexual or non-sexual, we just like to enjoy life and laugh.

What makes laughter such a turn-off? Seriously, do I have to teach myself to be so serious and not laugh? Isn't sex supposed to be fun?

redsticktwo4u · 05-01-2010, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by NCfuncouple98

Mr NC and I were just reflecting about our experiences over the last (almost) 2 years.

IF it's a couples situation, and both men are aroused, not overly drunk, and in the mood, it can be an amazing time all-around!

I consider myself to be a fun kinda gal - love to laugh, joke around, and just generally have a good time. But we've noticed that if laughter is involved, sometimes it causes another male partner to either completely lose interest, or become almost angry, to the point they don't want to continue. Literally, twice, I have had men use the phrase "You are laughing at me". No, no way, I am not laughing AT anyone - I am enjoying myself, having a good time, and I tend to laugh, giggle, and enjoy myself.

Mr NC knows me well, and after all these years together we laugh at everything. I mean sexual or non-sexual, we just like to enjoy life and laugh.

What makes laughter such a turn-off? Seriously, do I have to teach myself to be so serious and not laugh? Isn't sex supposed to be fun?

Yes! I don't consider myself an Adonis, so the first tool I have in my belt is an ability to make women laugh, at least some of them. I love it when my partner is laughing...it lets me know I'm on the right track.

Fundamental Law · 05-01-2010, 05:09 PM

Somewhere during the transition between childhood and adulthood, we lose the idea of "laughing with" in favor of "laughing at". Parse the comedy of adult stand-ups, and most of the jokes are derisive at their core. Small wonder that the typical adult view of laughter during sex is that someone is being laughed at.

Fact is, sex is not only fun but also pretty funny. It's also sticky, sloppy, messy...and pretty wonderful.

Laugh on.

NCfuncouple98 · 05-01-2010, 05:14 PM

Exactly Fundamental! Things happen, and you are right - it's sticky, sloppy, messy, and why not enjoy it and laugh at those moments and just enjoy it?

Chicup · 05-01-2010, 05:47 PM

Well if they are IN you and you laugh and they lose interest I can understand why they might be worried.

If you are talking just regular conversation and they act that way, to hell with them, they got issues. If someone can't laugh at themselves I want no part of them.

NCfuncouple98 · 05-01-2010, 06:09 PM

It wasn't at that point. And it wasn't referring to "him" - but laughter, apparently, more than one, has taken personally to mean "I am laughing at you".

**two4youinswva** · 05-01-2010, 06:30 PM

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Originally Posted by NCfuncouple98

What makes laughter such a turn-off? Seriously, do I have to teach myself to be so serious and not laugh? Isn't sex supposed to be fun?

Recreational Sex=Serious Business.

Not sure why some folks are turned off by a little laughter. I'm guessing there's a vulnerability issue involved.
I don't mind a little bit of laughter. Just don't laugh and point at the same time.

NCfuncouple98 · 05-01-2010, 06:33 PM

Ok, point taken. I would never laugh, and point. at the exact same moment.

I mean, come on, I have been with Mr. NC over 14 years and I've held back the laughter and pointing. Why would I start now?

**SW_PA_Couple** · 05-01-2010, 06:35 PM

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Originally Posted by NCfuncouple98

. . . What makes laughter such a turn-off? Seriously, do I have to teach myself to be so serious and not laugh? Isn't sex supposed to be fun?

This is something that has plagued my wife, JoAnn, right from the start. She very often breaks out in laughter when getting close to her peak level of excitation. And, as you have apparently experienced, this has caused a surprise (negative) reaction with certain men. They back off or slow down and don't seem to want to pick up the pace again until they receive an explanation.

This peculiarity, which I must now assume is not so peculiar as I had previously believed, allows me to know in exactly what part of the house she is. I have sometimes even had a reaction from the female partner with whom I happened to be at the time, "Is JoAnn OK?" Surprises some girls too.

"Hey, guys. She's not laughing at you. She is simply showing her appreciation for a good time"

~Michael

**Alura** · 05-01-2010, 06:45 PM

I don't recall ever having anyone take exception to our laughter, but Laura and I often laughed when climaxing — much like a reaction to being tickled. Added to the sheer delight of sex, it seemed natural to us.

I didn't know anyone else did this. Glad to hear we were not alone!

Alura

Chicup · 05-01-2010, 10:40 PM

I imagine the lessor endowed club might be pretty quick to react to such a situation. Especially if the other man doesn't have that issue.

DiscreetDesires · 05-01-2010, 11:39 PM

I actually don't think we've ever been faced with this.. at least to my knowledge.
Hubby and I will tend to get playful at times alone with each other and laughing, but not in the midst of the good and juicy times.
Laughter tends to bring my sexual mood down a bit if we are in the zone. Not because I think I'm being laughed at.. but because laughter puts me in a different kind of mood and takes my focus off of the good sexual feelings that I have at that moment, and pretty much have to start from scratch.
So hopefully if that ever hits, I won't be already climbing that hill to a grand orgasm.

Nothing wrong with it, but it would do the opposite for me. People vary differently in their sexual play and responses.. so I just say be who you are and enjoy it.. others will feel the same as you do!

bicuriocpl · 05-02-2010, 12:50 AM

Laughing is ok, as long as she doesn't point and laugh.

Lascivious L&L · 05-02-2010, 06:25 AM

My wife if pleased sufficiently and reaches an extreme peak of orgasm may start laughing uncontrollably. Or crying. Or moaning and screaming quite loudly. It is a sign of extreme pleasure, not a run of the mill orgasm. I love that I can get her there. The few who have witnessed it, and the fewer still who have helped in the making have been awed. Tis a powerful moment.

Edison Carter · 05-02-2010, 02:18 PM

If a man cannot laugh as part of pleasure, why would I fuck him ? Susan

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05-01-2010, 04:29 PM	#1 (permalink)
NCfuncouple98 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 723 Location: North Caroliina Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ncfuncouple98	Why is laughter such a problem? Mr NC and I were just reflecting about our experiences over the last (almost) 2 years. IF it's a couples situation, and both men are aroused, not overly drunk, and in the mood, it can be an amazing time all-around! I consider myself to be a fun kinda gal - love to laugh, joke around, and just generally have a good time. But we've noticed that if laughter is involved, sometimes it causes another male partner to either completely lose interest, or become almost angry, to the point they don't want to continue. Literally, twice, I have had men use the phrase "You are laughing at me". No, no way, I am not laughing AT anyone - I am enjoying myself, having a good time, and I tend to laugh, giggle, and enjoy myself. Mr NC knows me well, and after all these years together we laugh at everything. I mean sexual or non-sexual, we just like to enjoy life and laugh. What makes laughter such a turn-off? Seriously, do I have to teach myself to be so serious and not laugh? Isn't sex supposed to be fun?
	__________________ *Get your mind out of the gutter so mine can float by!*

05-01-2010, 05:09 PM	#3 (permalink)
Fundamental Law Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 172 Location: USA Status: Couple	Re: Why is laughter such a problem? Somewhere during the transition between childhood and adulthood, we lose the idea of "laughing with" in favor of "laughing at". Parse the comedy of adult stand-ups, and most of the jokes are derisive at their core. Small wonder that the typical adult view of laughter during sex is that someone is being laughed at. Fact is, sex is not only fun but also pretty funny. It's also sticky, sloppy, messy...and pretty wonderful. Laugh on.

05-01-2010, 05:14 PM	#4 (permalink)
NCfuncouple98 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 723 Location: North Caroliina Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ncfuncouple98	Re: Why is laughter such a problem? Exactly Fundamental! Things happen, and you are right - it's sticky, sloppy, messy, and why not enjoy it and laugh at those moments and just enjoy it?
	__________________ *Get your mind out of the gutter so mine can float by!*

05-01-2010, 05:47 PM	#5 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 4,093 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	Re: Why is laughter such a problem? Well if they are IN you and you laugh and they lose interest I can understand why they might be worried. If you are talking just regular conversation and they act that way, to hell with them, they got issues. If someone can't laugh at themselves I want no part of them.

05-01-2010, 06:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
NCfuncouple98 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 723 Location: North Caroliina Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ncfuncouple98	Re: Why is laughter such a problem? It wasn't at that point. And it wasn't referring to "him" - but laughter, apparently, more than one, has taken personally to mean "I am laughing at you".
	__________________ *Get your mind out of the gutter so mine can float by!*

05-01-2010, 06:33 PM	#8 (permalink)
NCfuncouple98 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 723 Location: North Caroliina Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ncfuncouple98	Re: Why is laughter such a problem? Ok, point taken. I would never laugh, and point. at the exact same moment. I mean, come on, I have been with Mr. NC over 14 years and I've held back the laughter and pointing. Why would I start now?
	__________________ *Get your mind out of the gutter so mine can float by!*

05-01-2010, 06:45 PM	#10 (permalink)
Alura Just a hick Okie Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 8,136 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Widower	Re: Why is laughter such a problem? I don't recall ever having anyone take exception to our laughter, but Laura and I often laughed when climaxing — much like a reaction to being tickled. Added to the sheer delight of sex, it seemed natural to us. I didn't know anyone else did this. Glad to hear we were not alone! Alura
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05-01-2010, 10:40 PM	#11 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 4,093 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	Re: Why is laughter such a problem? I imagine the lessor endowed club might be pretty quick to react to such a situation. Especially if the other man doesn't have that issue.

05-01-2010, 11:39 PM	#12 (permalink)
DiscreetDesires Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 122 Location: Houston, Texas Status: Married Couple	Re: Why is laughter such a problem? I actually don't think we've ever been faced with this.. at least to my knowledge. Hubby and I will tend to get playful at times alone with each other and laughing, but not in the midst of the good and juicy times. Laughter tends to bring my sexual mood down a bit if we are in the zone. Not because I think I'm being laughed at.. but because laughter puts me in a different kind of mood and takes my focus off of the good sexual feelings that I have at that moment, and pretty much have to start from scratch. So hopefully if that ever hits, I won't be already climbing that hill to a grand orgasm. Nothing wrong with it, but it would do the opposite for me. People vary differently in their sexual play and responses.. so I just say be who you are and enjoy it.. others will feel the same as you do!
	__________________ She writes.. He reads

05-02-2010, 12:50 AM	#13 (permalink)
bicuriocpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 111 Location: Oregon Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Bicuriocpl	Re: Why is laughter such a problem? Laughing is ok, as long as she doesn't point and laugh.
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05-02-2010, 06:25 AM	#14 (permalink)
Lascivious L&L Afficiando of the Board Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 299 Location: Northern Vermont Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:DandJforplay	Re: Why is laughter such a problem? My wife if pleased sufficiently and reaches an extreme peak of orgasm may start laughing uncontrollably. Or crying. Or moaning and screaming quite loudly. It is a sign of extreme pleasure, not a run of the mill orgasm. I love that I can get her there. The few who have witnessed it, and the fewer still who have helped in the making have been awed. Tis a powerful moment.

05-02-2010, 02:18 PM	#15 (permalink)
Edison Carter Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 733 Location: Naperville, Il Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:EdisonCarter	Re: Why is laughter such a problem? If a man cannot laugh as part of pleasure, why would I fuck him ? Susan

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