Talking about the Lifestyle and No one Believes you

[belgiumcoast]

Originally Posted by SnittyKitty

Let me tell you what's fun: To talk about the lifestyle in such a way, you're telling the truth, but nobody believes for a second the stories they think you're making up!

Yep this is really a lot of fun, I've been doing it a lot with a co-worker until...

Let me tell you the story, my co-worker and I are both IT professionals and work often from our home, we stay in touch via chat (and weekly meetings at the company). We have flexible hours so sometimes when I left early he or I made a remark about me going to a mistress (we suspect our boss is often doing that) or going to strip club or a swingers club. This started long before my wife and I were swingers and continued when we started swinging. It became twice as funny then, eg when I told him: 'gotta leave early today we're going to swingers club *insert url* tonight and it's quite a drive (he often laughed or said 'you wish...' He knows my wife very well and thinks she's prude almost like a nun and never suspects she would actually do that) but we were actually going to that club. The next monday I would then tell him we had so much fun at the hot tub or had great fun in the orgy room,... and he would laugh again or congratulate me with my fantasy (while the story was actually true).
However a year (or 2) ago we went sailing with a swingers boat and I accidently gave my company email to one of the couples, not my email address. As I was on vacation my company email was forwarded to my co-worker... the swingers couple returned home a few days earlier than we did and mailed me... he read it. Luckily it was an innocent mail, but their email address wasn't (something like welovetoswing...), so if he has seen that... I don't know if he did (and never asked), but there were a hell of a lot less innuendo's...

[Meetussoon]

ITs amazing how now that we are swingers the trash talking in the locker room "man you wouldn't believe the chick I banged last night" is comical. I join in sometimes with sarcastic remarks about how Marie and I banged some hot chick, but they all just laugh it off. We have a friend who jokes with his brother-in-law about how hot and horny his wife is, but the brother likewise just takes it as smartass fantasy . If they only knew about soccer moms for real.

Tom

[LFM2]

We don't say a thing to co-workers. My husband does listen to his co-workers complaining about how they don't get sex at home or anywhere else. I laugh. He laughs. It's kind of comical that he wishes he could say something, but doesn't.

[maniaco333]

I love it when they ask me "what did you do this weekend?" I answer truthfully something like ..me and a buddy screw the hell out of my wife and we all laugh and nobody even begins to believe it is true and laugh about my co workers and bosses complain about their sex life or lack of one to be exact.

[SecretAsianMan]

Very often my friends will ask "what did you do this weekend" as a polite conversation starter... not because they actually want to know exactly what I did.

Generally, I leave out details and will say something like, "I went to a party with some friends" (when I've been out to a swinger event or party) or "I hung out with some friends" ... which is true and innocuous enough a statement that most people don't ask for greater details.

I don't believe there's any need on my part to try to "brag" about any accomplishments or sexual conquests ... (never really felt that need, even when I was a teen) and would feel rather uncomfortable telling co-workers about my exploits.