How long should we wait after we played?

[foozballnow]

Hello all,

The wife and I have been having a discussion about this and thought we would get your opinions. We met this new couple that was a lot of fun and ended up playing with them. We met up with them again about a month later and again really enjoyed ourselves. How long should we wait to contact them again? We don't want to smother them or anything but we do really enjoy playing with them and want to get together. Is there some unwritten rule lol so you don't seem too eager?

Thanks for the support

[spiritualuk]

The obvious answer is simply to talk to the other couple and tell them what you have just said here, tell them that you do really enjoy meeting them and think things have been going really well, and say you wouldn’t mind meeting more often if it suited them as well, be open, be honest just dont go overboard. We have met people sometimes 2 or 3 times a week which sounds a little extreme, but if you really like someone, feel comfy, and get along well then you only live once. My advice for what its worth would be to talk to them, tell them you enjoy meeting, and would like to play more, but just dont go over the top, and then see what they say, dont think they would run a mile just because you said you like them. X

[DigginIt]

We smother our couples

Of course, we like to be smothered

It really is all about communication. Just like you two communicate, when there are four of you, the communication is also just as important if you want to maintain a "friends with benefits" relationship.

When you meet a new couple and everything clicks, you want to have fun with them again and again ... and again. Just be sincere and talk. If we are all adults enough to play then we should all adults enough to say "let's take a rain-check" when we want to be alone or play with another couple.

[foozballnow]

we see what you are saying and it makes perfect sense. We just didn't want to sound too eager you know and have them running for the hills and then ruin what we were enjoying. We would rather have them every once in a while then not at all.

[SW_PA_Couple]

There is a signicant probability that they are sitting on their sofa right now wondering why they have not heard from you.

There is no rule, written or non-written. Trust your inner voice.

[Edison Carter]

Susan here-- I always go with what feels right. If I'm right or wrong, I'll know quickly and that sure is better then wondering.

There was one couple we really liked and said so. They loved it. We played nearly every two weeks for a year. Then they moved due to a transfer. We still get together about twice a year. They are so delicious.

I also said the same to another couple and they explained that they never had 'regulars'. We smiled, said we understood completely. Then proceeded to have sex with them for the next four hours. That was also the last time we saw them for Play. We valued our two experiences with them for what they were, great sex. Yet, we weren't wondering what the situation was.

[asncpl]

If there is a rule, we don't know about it. Perhaps you can send them an email, telling them you want to play more often or become 'regular'. That way, the other couple can think it over and talk with each other if that's something they would like to do. A lot of times for us is not that we dont want to play more but we simply don't have the time. It certainly doesn't hurt to ask, because you could be wasting a great opportunity.

[Chicup]

Its going to depend on the couple.

We like being in more frequent contact, but its been our experience that a lot of couples don't like that themselves.

Many couples run into 1 and done, we run into more 2 and done, but same thing, second time is still great, no bad vibes, but after that they just drift away, are always busy etc.

I think it has much to do with the friends swingers vrs the dont' get attached crowd.

[JustAskJulie]

The next day, that night... either of those would be appropriate IMO to contact them and let them know you enjoyed them and had fun and would love to do it again. Now if the question is should you contact them and ask them to get together again the next day... well that depends a lot on the other couple... some will feel smothered, others may not.

I would contact them asap to let them know what a good time you had and that you'd love to get together again... maybe even throw some available dates out and let them choose what works for them. You'll get a good idea of their comfort level by how they reply to the options you give.

[wild stud]

Originally Posted by foozballnow

Hello all,

The wife and I have been having a discussion about this and thought we would get your opinions. We met this new couple that was a lot of fun and ended up playing with them. We met up with them again about a month later and again really enjoyed ourselves. How long should we wait to contact them again? We don't want to smother them or anything but we do really enjoy playing with them and want to get together. Is there some unwritten rule lol so you don't seem too eager?

Thanks for the support

In swinging being honest is the best policy.If things click as they say enjjoy.