Sex with your SO after playing.

YZF · 02-19-2010, 06:19 PM

Mrs. YZF here. How soon after playing with another couple or visiting a club do you and your SO have deep, slow, I love you type sex?

I try to do that with YZF as soon as we get home or if whe had people over, as soon as they leave. I love to have this time with YZF and have him make it all about me. I usually feel slighted if I don't get it. I love that he understands this and is always willing.

Swinging is about sex to me and I do not bring romance into playing. I bring passion but not love. Love is between YZF and me.

newplaytoys · 02-19-2010, 07:19 PM

mrs. newplaytoy here , ditto, the same with us

very well put thank you

***JustAskJulie*** · 02-20-2010, 12:26 PM

When we get around to it. Sometimes it's immediately, sometimes it's the next day. We do try to make sure we connect well BEFORE paying with others, but we don't necessarily feel that we have to prove our connection following every time we play with someone else.

**Alura** · 02-20-2010, 12:31 PM

I don't remember ever having failed to make love to Laura after a play date. It was always as soon as the other couple left or we got home.

To us, that was the best part of playing.

Alura

2lovers · 02-20-2010, 03:47 PM

Exactly right! That 's the best part of playing We always can't wait to make love to each other after playing And our love making session is more intense than ever

Willing29 · 02-20-2010, 04:24 PM

For us the best part of the play is to make slow love with each other after the party, etc. Usually it's the most erotic play of the night.

Playman64 · 02-20-2010, 04:56 PM

I like making love with Dawn and feeling all the other men's cum inside her as we slowly make love.

cocpl2007 · 02-20-2010, 11:19 PM

We are with the group who responded as soon as possible. We love that time back together, all hot and steamy in the after-glow.

ebsfgncu · 02-21-2010, 09:54 AM

I guess we are in the minority

Our playdates are usually long, intense sessions that leave us pretty exhausted. So re-connection usually happens the next day or the following day (due to Jason's work schedule).

However we don't feel it's necessary to 'make sure' this happens. Our connections happen in many ways and many different times throughout our days. Don't get me wrong, swinging heats up an already great sex life but it also helps us by appreciating each other in different ways as well.

**LFM2** · 02-21-2010, 06:52 PM

We're kinda in the minority as well. Dave and I might reconnect that night or the next day or whenever. We really love making love, but we don't really need it to "reconnect". We're very happy to swing, but we love just holding hands and talking in bed rather than making love. To us, there is more than one way to make love.

The Fuse · 02-22-2010, 10:20 AM

Add one more couple to the minority. We sometimes have sex right away, but more often we reconnect in other ways. We might not have sex for what some might consider quite a while. We don't feel it is urgent. Different strokes

DigginIt · 02-22-2010, 10:35 AM

It's situation dependent. How exhausted are we afterwards?

Lately, we have been a lot more fulfilled after our play experiences that the next day is usually perfect.

lustylearning · 02-22-2010, 07:09 PM

When we first started in swinging, hubby had a need to reconnect right away. Now, it just depends - how satisfying was it, how tired are we, etc.

willyoats · 02-23-2010, 03:24 PM

I think we must be in the minority. When we had a swinging night at a club or a weekend at a hotel convention, it was all about sex and nothing but sex. Typically, on an given night we first had another partner, and then each other, and maybe she would have another partner. When we got home, I always had a real quickie just before falling asleep.

It might be two or three days before we went back to the romantic, slow, loving, gentle, love-making that was completely separate from the swinging but which expressed our married love.

I a way, I think it is nice that so many of the messages above show that urge to be loving with the SO immediately after having another partner. In our case, my reaction to seeing her with another guy was to get really horny for her and "want" her more than usual, but only to screw reallly hard, not to make love tenderly.

ALilOEverything · 02-23-2010, 09:58 PM

Usually I like to connect sexually before hand and then I play until I'm too sore to play anymore. We reconnect in other ways right away so I'm okay if we wait another day to have sex. If I'm not sore then I like to cuddle a bit and then make love.

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02-19-2010, 06:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
YZF Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 198 Location: Texas	Sex with your SO after playing. Mrs. YZF here. How soon after playing with another couple or visiting a club do you and your SO have deep, slow, I love you type sex? I try to do that with YZF as soon as we get home or if whe had people over, as soon as they leave. I love to have this time with YZF and have him make it all about me. I usually feel slighted if I don't get it. I love that he understands this and is always willing. Swinging is about sex to me and I do not bring romance into playing. I bring passion but not love. Love is between YZF and me.

02-19-2010, 07:19 PM	#2 (permalink)
newplaytoys Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 68 Location: penfield Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:newplaytoys	Re: Sex with your SO after playing. mrs. newplaytoy here , ditto, the same with us very well put thank you

02-20-2010, 12:26 PM	#3 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,289 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Sex with your SO after playing. When we get around to it. Sometimes it's immediately, sometimes it's the next day. We do try to make sure we connect well BEFORE paying with others, but we don't necessarily feel that we have to prove our connection following every time we play with someone else.
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02-20-2010, 12:31 PM	#4 (permalink)
Alura Just a hick Okie Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 8,136 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Widower	Re: Sex with your SO after playing. I don't remember ever having failed to make love to Laura after a play date. It was always as soon as the other couple left or we got home. To us, that was the best part of playing. Alura
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02-20-2010, 03:47 PM	#5 (permalink)
2lovers Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 23 Location: Vancouver Status: couple	Re: Sex with your SO after playing. Exactly right! That 's the best part of playing We always can't wait to make love to each other after playing And our love making session is more intense than ever

02-20-2010, 04:24 PM	#6 (permalink)
Willing29 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 322 Location: Central, NJ Status: very happily Married couple	Re: Sex with your SO after playing. For us the best part of the play is to make slow love with each other after the party, etc. Usually it's the most erotic play of the night.
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02-20-2010, 04:56 PM	#7 (permalink)
Playman64 Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 31 Location: Oregon Status: A. Male	Re: Sex with your SO after playing. I like making love with Dawn and feeling all the other men's cum inside her as we slowly make love.

02-20-2010, 11:19 PM	#8 (permalink)
cocpl2007 Here to play Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 403 Location: Washington Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:cocpl2007	Re: Sex with your SO after playing. We are with the group who responded as soon as possible. We love that time back together, all hot and steamy in the after-glow.

02-21-2010, 09:54 AM	#9 (permalink)
ebsfgncu Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 31 Location: Gulf Breeze, FL Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ebsfgncu	Re: Sex with your SO after playing. I guess we are in the minority Our playdates are usually long, intense sessions that leave us pretty exhausted. So re-connection usually happens the next day or the following day (due to Jason's work schedule). However we don't feel it's necessary to 'make sure' this happens. Our connections happen in many ways and many different times throughout our days. Don't get me wrong, swinging heats up an already great sex life but it also helps us by appreciating each other in different ways as well.
	__________________ "We always long for the forbidden things and desire what is denied us"

02-21-2010, 06:52 PM	#10 (permalink)
LFM2 ~This space for rent~ Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 4,750 Location: across the tracks Status: Couple	Re: Sex with your SO after playing. We're kinda in the minority as well. Dave and I might reconnect that night or the next day or whenever. We really love making love, but we don't really need it to "reconnect". We're very happy to swing, but we love just holding hands and talking in bed rather than making love. To us, there is more than one way to make love.
	__________________ Dave & Holly

02-22-2010, 10:20 AM	#11 (permalink)
The Fuse Way too opinionated Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 1,826 Location: Southeastern Virginia Status: Single Female Swing Lifestyle Name:The_Fuse	Re: Sex with your SO after playing. Add one more couple to the minority. We sometimes have sex right away, but more often we reconnect in other ways. We might not have sex for what some might consider quite a while. We don't feel it is urgent. Different strokes
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02-22-2010, 10:35 AM	#12 (permalink)
DigginIt Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 960 Location: Florida Status: He writes, she corrects spelling. Swing Lifestyle Name:DigginIt	Re: Sex with your SO after playing. It's situation dependent. How exhausted are we afterwards? Lately, we have been a lot more fulfilled after our play experiences that the next day is usually perfect.

02-22-2010, 07:09 PM	#13 (permalink)
lustylearning Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 814 Location: Virginia Status: female half	Re: Sex with your SO after playing. When we first started in swinging, hubby had a need to reconnect right away. Now, it just depends - how satisfying was it, how tired are we, etc.

02-23-2010, 03:24 PM	#14 (permalink)
willyoats Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 437 Location: lady lake, fl	Re: Sex with your SO after playing. I think we must be in the minority. When we had a swinging night at a club or a weekend at a hotel convention, it was all about sex and nothing but sex. Typically, on an given night we first had another partner, and then each other, and maybe she would have another partner. When we got home, I always had a real quickie just before falling asleep. It might be two or three days before we went back to the romantic, slow, loving, gentle, love-making that was completely separate from the swinging but which expressed our married love. I a way, I think it is nice that so many of the messages above show that urge to be loving with the SO immediately after having another partner. In our case, my reaction to seeing her with another guy was to get really horny for her and "want" her more than usual, but only to screw reallly hard, not to make love tenderly.

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02-23-2010, 09:58 PM	#15 (permalink)
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