Would you swing with a potential ex to be?

[NymphoWind]

I would like to say that this doesn't apply to my partner and I, We're in a strong relationship together, and although still have some rough edges we're still going strong, but a thought that crossed my mind has me curious for some answers.. Thanks

I wanted to know from swingers and those new to the lifestyle, if you knew your relationship was going to fail, and there was nothing you could do to save it, that sometime in the near future it wasn't going to workout, but that day wasn't exactly certain, would you still swing? Would you still bring another person into the bedroom to enjoy together for what time left you had together or would you avoid it all together because the relationship wasn't going to workout?

I mean Would you think, alright I know that its going to end sometime soon, why not enjoy the experience with each other, or?

I'm curious to know if, you knew that what you had with your partner wouldn't last, would that change your interest or going into swinging?

[N8ture Girl]

Interesting "what if" question.. My answer would probably be no. If I knew that my relationship was going to end, and was unhappy in it, I doubt I would be sleeping with my SO in the first place. And bringing someone else into the bedroom would likely just create more drama, between us. I would think swinging would be the last thing on my mind in this situation.

I'll be interested to see what others say.

[fun4Ds]

Nymphowind, You confuse me.....

I cant wrap my arms around this idea... and I know If I ask Mrsfun, she wont want to wrap her mind around the idea either.

At this point you would be playing GOD over someone either way....(If doing this intentionally to someone not knowing) Thats WRONG in my opinion at least. It's probably one of the meanest things you could do to any human being, let alone have it done to you...

I can safely vote, two NO's

[SW_PA_Couple]

Case 1 - If I was arrogant and scornful enough to be planning a coups d'état -- keeping a plan in my head for a divorce a secret from my wife until I saw the best moment -- than I would probably also have enough gumption to continue to "swing".

Case 2 - If my wife and I were at odds to the point of contemplating a seperation agreement and I made a suggestion to her to swing, she probably would -- using a baseball bat.

Short form of answer -- NO.

[ncmd_couple]

Well, actually, I see this as two different scenarios. Depending on how you read the question.

If I was married, we were already swingers, and our relationship was coming to an end, but it was an amicable end, and my wife wanted some play time, then yes, I would swing.

If not meeting all of the above, no, I would not.

S

[AskMeOk]

I don't think there is anything about this scenario that I'd like to be a part of....

No, I wouldn't.

[two4youinswva]

If my marriage were failing, I think swinging would be one of the furtherest things from my mind.
The sense of impending loss would overwhelm any other feelings I may have, including getting some strange.

[LFM2]

Swinging wouldn't even enter our mind during that time. I'm not sure why anyone would want to bring a third into the equation unless they were trying to spite the other person.

[Alura]

More than thirty years ago I was living with a lady in Germany. We were very good friends but she was planning to return to the States, so we knew the relationship was going to, if not end, at least be put on hold.

We did a threesome with a mutual friend whose wife had just left him for another woman. It was great for us and for him. I think he decided life wasn't over after all!

Some five years later our paths crossed in California. She and I were able to spend a night together.

I only remember one unpleasant break up. Perhaps my mind has just pushed others from my memory.

Alura

[bbarnsworth]

No.

That'll be $.02 please

For the $.03 version; I wouldn't dream of my wife and I swinging with a couple that was in this scenario (if we knew). Why in hell would I inflict it on another couple if I somehow found myself in such a scenario?

Holy Clue Bat(man). If you know it's going to end, why are you wasting your time?

I'm with Fun4Ds. I'm having a very hard time wrapping my head around this from any angle.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by N8ture Girl

Interesting "what if" question.. My answer would probably be no. If I knew that my relationship was going to end, and was unhappy in it, I doubt I would be sleeping with my SO in the first place. And bringing someone else into the bedroom would likely just create more drama, between us. I would think swinging would be the last thing on my mind in this situation.

I'll be interested to see what others say.

I'm saying :dito: what she said!

My first thought on reading the thread title was on swinging with a couple that you knew was breaking up... my answer would be no there as well. If you know your relationship is going to end anyway, why drag it out, just put the nail in the coffin and call it done. Why not just both get on with your lives and enjoy them. If you are such good friends that you both know the relationship is over but you still enjoy sex together enough to want to swing together - I gotta wonder why you are getting divorced in the first place.

[Cpl2share]

Quite honestly: Neither one of us can imagine NOT being together, so we can not even contemplate this scenario.