do any of you take breaks from the lifestyle???

[curiouscpl72]

My husband and I frequently take lifestyle "breaks", due mainly to a condition I have, bipolar disorder.....it well, wrecks havoc on our life from time to time, after the kids I went through a period of instability.I feel more like my "real " self now, and am all for being back into action....I have had two surgeries in four years( c sections..)and had a lot of mental things going on, now that my son is two I feel that I'm passing that by.I have been steadfast in taking my medicine and am honest( to um a point ) with my pdoc.I also have a great support system vanilla and swinger alike.I am a happy very well rounded individual, issues of mental illness aside.To tell you the truth, I am probably more stable than many not on meds lol.....he will probably be upset with my frankness, but I am not ashamed to be mentally divergent..I am also sexy, adventerous and loving. I put myself out there, just wondering how many of you swinging types take a siesta from time to time and why????

[slevin]

Sure, though it hasn't been a conscious decision to take a break. We just realized recently that it's been about 9 months since we met anyone for any playtime. We just got too busy and haven't really looked to meet anyone until recently. I expect that will keep happening to us: long periods of playing fairly regularly then bouts of being too busy to entertain the idea.

[JTcamp05]

Originally Posted by slevin

Sure, though it hasn't been a conscious decision to take a break. We just realized recently that it's been about 9 months since we met anyone for any playtime. We just got too busy and haven't really looked to meet anyone until recently. I expect that will keep happening to us: long periods of playing fairly regularly then bouts of being too busy to entertain the idea.

This seams to be the same for us also....Life gets in the way!

I thnk we both agree we should make more "play time" but it can be hard with all the obligations of family and such. We try and make the best of the time we have!!

[Sir Dude]

We were never really in the lifestyle as such but we haven't had any expreiences in a couple of months. We're not sure when we will again. Either way, it was fun while it lasted.

We are planning a trip to vegas after Christmas, you never know what'll happen there.

[JustAskJulie]

We are on our second break in just about 2 years and both have been for health reasons. It's very frustrating and starting over after a break can be a lot like starting from scratch. The only difference this time is that we are still able to go to the local socials and keep up our contacts, whereas last time that wasn't really an option.

[LFM2]

We unintentionally take breaks every summer because he's never home (work keeps him away from home for many, many days at a time) and when he is home, I want him all to myself. *selfish*

But then if you think about it, a summer really isn't that long. We usually pick up again in the fall around late Sept. or early Oct.

[curiouscpl72]

thanks all for replying..I hope that whether breaks or not, that you all find your experiences satisfying as I have, and continue on your journies happily-

P

[lookingfornow]

It seems like every year we take a break from mid-August through March (with a little fun time around the holidays) because of kids, school, sports, and such. Initially, it was tough because we would meet couples who we really enjoyed, but who were bothered by our unavailable status for several months at a time. I think they (naturally) thought we were being disingenuous about enjoying our time together. Luckily, we have found a number of friends who completely understand.

[realcplub2]

Of course.. but then thats why its called a LIFE -STYLE

Life often requires those immediate attentions elsewhere.. Medical, Family, Finances.. Schooling.. You name it.. it happens..

And the only thing that we can suggest is, explain it to your playmate friends.. Most will be supportive. Those that arent, well.. you can guess where I was going..

[Meetussoon]

Marie and I have moved 4 times in 3 years, in that time I had 1 new job, Marie became a full time student, and we have two kids at home with all their activities. We have been on an unplanned, unintentional "break" for more than three years. Wow, time flies. We have not gone out on a date for adult fun with others, together, for that time.

I brought this up the other day. "Honey, are we still swingers? Are we done with the phase of our life?" She said that she still considers us swingers, does not want to give it up, and hopes to get out again more in the near future. Woo Hoo.

So, it happens both intentionally and unintentionally. Hopefully we can all just keep plugging away.

Tom

[MrXxotic]

XxoticAngel and I normally take a break during the winter months (Thanksgiving-Spring Break) due to the kid's school activities. Our last break has lasted for 2 years and we have only recently been discussing the possibility of jumping back in. Why such a long break? Angel made a career change, school activities, and new stresses at work left us with no time to find new playmates and our steady "booty call" moved. We're planning a getaway next weekend at Mountain Creek Grove so we'll see what happens.

[JipiNat]

Sure we do take breaks .... Our family life and "traditional" friends is more important. At least once a year one or two porlonged week-ends with swingers in a French resort, and few evenings in clubs... (for past 7 years)

Going out to the cinema, restaurant, or to non lifestyle friends is fantastic too )))) !!!

"Lifestyle" is just an aspect of our lifes ))) We feel like having the right balance sofar ...