Does swinging make us better?

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by socolais

Does swinging make us better lovers or do we somehow tend to swing because we're better in bed.

My opinion is that swinging sex is so different from "making love" that there is no noticeable correlation.

Nope, no correlation at all. Making love is soooooooooo totally different than swinging sex.

Now, to answer the question: We also see no correlation between swinging couples and being better in bed. I wish I was better in bed, but I don't think I am. (Should I admit that?! ) I also don't think swinging makes others better lovers either, unless they're there specifically to learn.

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by good times

Interesting you would say that as that may just be the problem. I know that for me, I like giving some tongue action to that spot on a woman, but I hate sucking on jewelry. So, if a woman has a hood piercing that pretty much eliminates any chances she will get any oral from me.

Mr. Goodtimes...perhaps I just need clarification on your technique. For me personally (as well as most of the women that I know who talk about their preferences), actually sucking is much too painful and will never bring me to orgasm. However, actually licking it quite superb.

And Mr. Van....your beacon description gave me a mental image that made me lol

[clit pro poet]

Does swinging make us better? How could it not? Where else do friendships and pleasant acquaintances, appealing looks, titillation, seduction, exertion, surprise, release of tension, and laughter before and after - all come together around opportunities to give and take, to look-on or join in?
And life's better in the in-between times (thanks sexylady1970), which is most of the time!

[tiger4play]

We feel swinging can make people better partners if they want to be, and are seeking to learn and enjoy all kinds of people and play (within each person's boundaries). We have found throughout our experiences those who are willing and eager to learn, those who think they already know everything, and those who are happy with who they are....as they are. And each experience has been unique...some to be repeated and others not to be repeated. Isn't that the fun of it??? Putting yourselves out there to meet people and possibly have a wonderful experience. And even if it's not GREAT.... you can take the good, and not repeat the not-so-good. That's an awesome thing about swinging.... you can chose to not repeat!!!

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by sexcupid

Hear hear! After being in a few playrooms and observing, our own experiences, and hearing other swinger 'horror' stories...I've had the particularly uncharitable thought of "Now I know why he/she wanted to swing..."

Socolais...I see no correlation either, count yourselves lucky if you've had more "wow" than "ugh" experiences.

Ah, but even the bad experiences have their place. For one thing, you learn how to avoid those situations in the first place (better communication, becoming better judges of character, learning to follow our instincts better, etc.).

Granted, it won't change anything for those folks that just "don't get it", but hopefully we learn to bounce back from these experiences and/or make the most of them.

And, not to sound too Pollyanna here, but it helps us to better appreciate the good times.

=)

[willyoats]

Swinging definitely improved our sex life. For us, it was learning a lot of new things about the ways people have sex. We translated that into increased pleasure with each other.

For me personally, it taught me to let go of inhibitions with my wife instead of being a bit reserved and uncertain for fear of doing something that she would not like.

Both of those things paid enormous dividends over the years. I think we would have had a ho-hum sex life but for the swinging experiences.

[JustAskJulie]

I think we learn new things with each new person we are with, so in a way it does make us better if by nothing other than giving us more practice and more variety.

[CXXC]

within each person lies an adventure. It is my desire to share that adventure with them. The way I approach it makes all the difference in what and how I learn.

When we are with another we have an opportunity to further our knowledge of how to please. What works for one may not work for another. We build an arsenal of sexual weapons, if you will.

Each time Mrs. CXXC is with another man/woman, the opportunity to be pleased in a different and even better way is available. Once we are in each others loving arms in our "reclamation’ or ‘re-connect sex", we speak openly and honestly with each other about our latest experiences. We share with one another those activities or techniques that are better. We try to copy those very actions in order to be better lovers for each other. I truly hope and look forward to ANY man/woman who does something better than I do for Mrs. CXXC. It gives me something new to learn and to use to please her.

Does this make us better? How can it not? Any time we learn we are better than before. Any time we are open with each other, we are better than the last conversation as we have more experience and knowledge to share.

In all ways, I feel we are better for the lifestyle than before.

[good times]

Originally Posted by sexcupid

Mr. Goodtimes...perhaps I just need clarification on your technique. For me personally (as well as most of the women that I know who talk about their preferences), actually sucking is much too painful and will never bring me to orgasm. However, actually licking it quite superb.

Perhaps I used the wrong words, but licking jewelry also has the same effect on me as fingernails screeching on a blackboard.

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by good times

Perhaps I used the wrong words, but licking jewelry also has the same effect on me as fingernails screeching on a blackboard.

Understood.

[clit pro poet]

Originally Posted by CXXC

within each person lies an adventure. It is my desire to share that adventure with them. The way I approach it...

...Does this make us better? How can it not? Any time we learn we are better than before. Any time we are open with each other, we are better than the last conversation as we have more experience and knowledge to share.
In all ways, I feel we are better for the lifestyle than before.

Y'all just make my day, and our evening here at the homestead.

PS - a little more of heaven: 30° 18' 15'' N 89° 19' 58'' W (right across the lake)

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by clit pro poet

Y'all just make my day, and our evening here at the homestead.

PS - a little more of heaven: 30° 18' 15'' N 89° 19' 58'' W (right across the lake)

Thank you!
However, your Lat/Long point directs me to the middle of nowhere China.

[Dave_kat]

Originally Posted by CXXC

Thank you!
However, your Lat/Long point directs me to the middle of nowhere China.

Ya'll gonna make me break out my GPS?

Heck, I'm showing clitpropoet in St. Louis and CXXC in Benito Juarez, Mexico, but heck, noone ever said Dave can navigate or give directions

[CXXC]

According to Google Mine should point you to Desire Spa and Resort in Cancune MX.

[Alura]

I know at least one fellow who, years ago, became a much improved lover after some lessons in tending to a pussy with one's tongue, taught by Mrs. Alura. His wife was so grateful she couldn't say enough about the improvement.

Learning is an important part of life, No?

Mr. Alura