Would You Share Your Condoms?

[Additude]

Well then heck,

Why don't they just write a 25 point bullet list of "what do not do" and have any interested parties submit to the "terms of understandings" and agree by signing in triplicate copies (one signed copy for each of the parties involved)....and of course all submitted & completed properly prior to any possible consideration......

Crikey!!! the dude just didn't have the right sized rubber for wholley molley....

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by Additude

Well then heck,

Why don't they just write a 25 point bullet list of "what do not do" and have any interested parties submit to the "terms of understandings" and agree by signing in triplicate copies (one signed copy for each of the parties involved)....and of course all submitted & completed properly prior to any possible consideration......

Crikey!!! the dude just didn't have the right sized rubber for wholley molley....

It wasn't just that the guy came unprepared, it was his lack of RESPECT. It was made clear to him that the Spoos require condoms (a pretty simple rule). But the guy's FIRST response upon finding himself unprepared was to ask them to break that rule.

I personally have no interest in playing with anyone who cannot respect our rules.

To each their own, though . . .

=)

[swing_style]

In the way this whole thing went down we would have handled it the same way. My first thought in this situation would have been how he showed a lack of respect for being prepared to accommodate the couple. Then to make matters worse instead of offering to make a quick run up the street to correct the problem he ask if you ever play without. At least that would have shown that he was making the effort to abide by the couples rules, and you might have been more inclined to offer to share. Hopefully he learned something from this situation and will take the couples rules about playing more serious in the future.

P

[Additude]

A related story...
I remember once my Mom had invited the wife, the kids and myself over for dinner in a couple of days and she said she was inviting some other friends over also. At the time I was working second shift, 7 days a week for months, in violation of state labor laws, but typically I'd put in 72 hours a week because the "company" needed me. Mom had asked me "Only bring a Waldorf salad", she knew I liked Waldorf salads....so after packing the kids up in the car and starting the 45 minute drive to Mom's, I remember she wanted me to bring a Waldorf salad....

Of course I damned myself and had even forgotten to tell the wife I need to bring this Waldorf salad....of course the wife was a bit upset at me for forgetting, but understood I was pretty much on auto-pilot from my work schedule. I told the wife; maybe Mom will forget she asked me...

So we arrived and unpack the kids from the car, you know, toys, diaper bags, and a sundry of other kid related items…then Mom asks me, "Where's the Waldorf salad I asked you to bring???

Busted......rats.....

Mom, I said, I apologize...with my crazy work schedule I forgot to tell my wife and I just didn't have time to keep shopping and searching for Waldorfs’, I must have checked 5 places and no one had any....

At this moment, my Mom is just looking at me straight in the eyes, I'm looking right back with a very serious look on my face at Mom's confusion for a hesitant second, then Mom busts out laughing....we joked about that moment for at least 20 years. I never forgot to bring Waldorf salad again BTW when invited over....of course it was because I'd located a Waldorf distributor and had purchased a stockpile of Waldorfs’ and had frozen them so I'd have them handy when I needed them. (Family's can be fun).

My point is, I'm sure glad my Mom didn't deny me from eating dinner because I forgot to bring a salad to the party....and that we are all just human and not everything we do that we think should be routine or considerate is done on purpose or with any malice intended.

People make mistakes, infractions if you will and most of the times, these things are just innocent and unintentional. We tend to be more critical of others than we are of ourselves. Remember that "Let he cast the first stone" is a philosophy; it's a way of life.

Maybe I'm just a more patient, understanding person, however if Spoo had said, "Check this out, it's the second time this guy has pulled this on us"...then I would have been walking right on in Spoo's shoes (even if he didn't have any on) with his decision.

But I personally would not have made that decision right out of the bag like that and I feel that Spoos explanation seemed to be more about intolerance.

I'm not saying that Spoos decision was right or wrong, as far as I am concerned it was the right decision for him, and it was his decision to make. What I am saying is that I would not have made the same decision within the same time frame unless there were other extenuating factors.

[sweet_tna]

We each have to make the decisions that seem right to us at the time. However, there is one big difference between your story and the one-ill-fitting-condom dude. You forgot to bring something for FAMILY--they know, love, and trust you. Condom dude was a stranger who wanted to get laid. Apples and oranges.

=)

[Dave_kat]

Kat has a latex allergy, so we have to stick to the non-latex brands. Years ago we only had one option, but now fortunately there are a few more offerings out there.

When we go out to play, it's always been a point that we bring our own - with good friends or new friends, it's much easier to have some we know and trust than to have Kat ending up unable to entertain for a week.

So our view is a little bit different, but we can certainly sympathise with you. Not to mention if there were other red flags going off, this was certainly a good reason to end the participation.

Still.. Pass us some Waldorf salad and we'll bring the condoms and we'll toss em at each other as needed and all have a good time.

[LikeMinds321]

Waldorf salad, does anyone eat that anymore? It's been forever since I ate this.

I remember eating that salad in the 60's, part of my childhood memories of family gatherings.

For those who may be unfamiliar with this salad, here is its history and a few recipes, including mention of the very simple original version:

The History of Waldorf Salad

LM

P.S. Comparing Waldorf to Condoms and Mom to SMStrangerWhoWantsToFuckWife......but the story was sweet.

[WesternSwing]

Mrs. always carries condoms on her just in case a promising situation arises. It's better to bring out own than count on someone else and be without and have the moment die, especially if the lust is running high. But what she carries is the "average" size and definitely wouldn't fit her Mr. Brute Force toyfriend. Those guys better bring their own.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Trace Ekies

Had you requested that he or they show up in skin tight wet suits that are purple with pink boa feathers he or they then have a choice. Say "no thanks" and don't show or start looking for a place to buy purple wet suits and a pink boa or two.

Great point!

I would certainly hope that most men would have the dignity to say "no thanks" to requests that insane, but if those are the rules you agree on then they should be followed.

And if a guy is willing to dress up like a flaming "Scuba Steve" then he deserves something for the effort.

Originally Posted by Trace Ekies

Had you told the offending suitor that you would provide the condoms then he and Mrs. Spoo may have gotten their brains fucked out and all would be happy.

I am happy to report that Mrs Spoo DID have her brains fucked out. That guy just didn;t get to help

Really, really appreciate your responses.

Spoomonkey

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by swing_style

At least that would have shown that he was making the effort to abide by the couples rules, and you might have been more inclined to offer to share.

EXACTLY!

Setting that whole meet up was a real pain honestly. We were both hoping for an awesome time. Had I had even the slightest inkling that he respected us and our rules (and "have a condom that fits" isn't an unrealistic expectation) then I'd have gladly tossed him one. Heck - if he had tried his and it didn't fit and he ASKED for one, then I'd have given him one.

But plan B should never be "can we just go bareback?"

Spoomonkey

[Trace Ekies]

Spoo,

Has it occurred to you why I chose the color purple?

Flaming Scuba Steve? Best. Line. Ever.

Trace (non-flaming)...

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Trace Ekies

Has it occurred to you why I chose the color purple?

I was trying not to make the connection - but now there is no avoiding it...

Spoomonkey

[Mr.Essex]

{insert insulted single male rant here}

Now that the technicalities are done, I'll co-sign on the OP. Then again, I've been traveling with condoms long before I decided to re-enter the lifestyle (pun). In fact, I usually carry at least a dozen condoms of various sizes and types (6 Magnums, 4 regular, 2 "foreign brands"). Obviously, I learned the "Just don't tell people to grab things out of your bag/coat/chest of drawers", lesson the hard way. Who would have thought that such a sweet and innocent young man would have such a dark side...

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Mr.Essex

{insert insulted single male rant here}

I've said it already, but I want to reiterate - this HAPPENED to be a single guy. But the post isn't a slap at single men at all. If they all carried your "arsenal" then the world would be a happier place

This would have been the same with married males - that just wasn't the particular situation. No insult intended at all.

Originally Posted by Mr.Essex

(6 Magnums, 4 regular, 2 "foreign brands")

You are proof that variety truly is the spice of life! That's a pretty good plan - and yes, keep the neighbors out of your drawers.

Spoomonkey

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

You are proof that variety truly is the spice of life! That's a pretty good plan - and yes, keep the neighbors out of your drawers.

Spoomonkey

But . . . what if my neighbors are hot?!?

=)