Ever wish you could have met your partner as a swinging partner instead of an SO?

[shymxcpl]

It happened to me for the second time!

I'm not sure I can explain the feeling, but it's like you would have liked to know your partner as a swinging partner instead of your spouse. And I'm not saying that you can think of anyone else better to have as a spouse, just that you really like the way that he/she is with other people... and you wish that could be you sometimes.

First time it happened was when my princess went out with a friend to do a soft "hot wife". They go out sometimes to restaurants or bars and flirt with guys to get their attention, free drinks and memorable experiences. So she's telling me all about it the next morning and I get this feeling like the guy she was with must be the luckiest man in the world! It was a desire to be that person who I can never be anymore.

Then again... we went out with some friends and she was having a lot of fun with a good friend of mine. For some reason seeing how she was so tender and lovely with him made me want to be with her more than any other woman at that place.

Now, normally I'm a very social guy and enjoy meeting couples, to try new things, but on these two times... I felt like I wanted to be the other guy...

I know... I make the worst swinger ever!!! What's up with that???? Has anyone else ever felt that?

[JustAskJulie]

I was really confused when I initially read your thread title as to what you were asking, but after reading your thread I get it... and I understand.

I can't say I've been there, but I do understand and it's something I think a lot of people have experienced. It's a jealousy of sorts, but not really a bad kind of jealousy.

Have you ever gone out and pretended you weren't together and picked each other up (pretending to be other people)? It might be worth a try and might give you a little of that thrill that you are missing when you watch her interact with others.

[truckerbuddy]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Have you ever gone out and pretended you weren't together and picked each other up (pretending to be other people)? It might be worth a try and might give you a little of that thrill that you are missing when you watch her interact with others.

WOW justaskjulie you got that so right. i can say that i HAVE pretended with a partner before, it can be and is hot as hell if you let your self go and play the part. you don't even need to leave the house. to the ( OP ) try it, it is hot and fun to pretend with your SO, just take the move that gets her and you kinda hot and take it from there.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Have you ever gone out and pretended you weren't together and picked each other up (pretending to be other people)? It might be worth a try and might give you a little of that thrill that you are missing when you watch her interact with others.

Like Julie, I've never experienced the feelings you're having but...we have done the above and it was a most interesting, memorable night .

On that night guidelines/rules were set in place...mainly, we could NOT talk about the kids/family/home-life and we couldn't call each other by name. I had left Ted a letter that morning when I left for work and given him instructions that he was to be at local bar at a certain time that evening and if he was lucky, there might be a lady in red sitting at the bar who just might be open to being picked up that night. It was interesting and fun to spend an evening together and not be able to talk about any of the above mentioned things....playing strangers for the night gives you a chance to see each other in the same light that others do.

It was really fun and something I'd recommend for any couple to do.


Teresa

[sweet_tna]

Ooh, I LOVE the idea of pretending to be strangers, and have always wanted to try that with Mr. Sweet.

That said . . . I already know I get the best of Mr. Sweet . . .

=)

[babycole]

Well, while I've never experienced that exact feeling, I have to say, how nice would it be to experience all of the feelings of "newness" with my hubby all over again. We were teenagers when we started dating, so there was all the giddiness of young love involved. It would be great to have all those new feelings all over again. We just might have to try the "strangers" approach and see where it takes us!!!

[shymxcpl]

Yeah... I know I can be confusing at times... I was given the Coriolis Award (Nobody could understand it/me) when I graduated from the University.

It is a kind of jealousy... and NO we've never played the When a Man Loves a Woman game (remember the beginning of the movie). I always thought it was kind of pointless... however... after a little more thought it could be just what the doctor ordered.

As with you babycole... she was just 14 when we started going out and I was 16... so we've been together for longer than we've been apart. She's the best thing that ever happened to me, and the times we fool around like this take me back to when I was just starting to experiment sexuality with her... Damn those were good times!!!

I love you guys!! You always have such great ideas and insight. I'm really glad to be a part of this board albeit more a lurker than a poster but I learn a lot from lurking y'all.

We talked about it and something else we came up with was that we have no secret code for "Need to talk to you". So we just set a rule in place where a nose scratch means that something's off and we need to talk. At least that will help in the times when I'm around.

And don't get me wrong... it wasn't that I didn't want her to play with my friend... it's just that instead of playing with the other girl, I would have wished that I was playing with them! For the record.... we've never had a MFM. I guess that might change soon

So many fantasies... and so little time!!!!!!