Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging

***JustAskJulie*** · 02-07-2009, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by bbarnsworth

Echo Slevin, NCfuncouple98 and LikeMinds321. I think playing with a former flame is somewhere on the Top Ten List of Stupid Things To Do in Swinging.

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Originally Posted by NCfuncouple98

Need to create the top ten list and put it in the swinger advice section!

Good idea. Let's get it started. List your top 10 (or however many) stupid things to do in swinging. I'll take the top 10 and we'll add them to the Advice Section.

- Playing with an Ex
- Trying to play with vanilla friends
- Playing with co-workers

**fun4Ds** · 02-07-2009, 03:14 PM

Getting shit faced/sloppy drunk is pretty stupid

**BiloxiCouple** · 02-07-2009, 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Getting shit faced/sloppy drunk is pretty stupid

Yeah, but anyone who drinks knows it can happen to them

Playing with relatives. Yep, believe it or not we have a thread about that.

And my apologies to anyone who has, it's my opinion.

MrkLin · 02-07-2009, 04:08 PM

Expecting your partner to, or hoping your partner will, 'take one for the team.'

Not communicating with your partner - if you have something on your mind, talk it over!

Disregarding, modifying, changing, or otherwise ignoring the rules you and your partner have previously agreed on without discussing it with your partner beforehand.

Not establishing and agreeing on rules in the first place!

Exaggerating or misrepresenting yourselves in your online profile - just be yourself.

Behaving badly when things don't go your way, or an encounter doesn't meet your expectations. Tact, dignity, and grace will get you a lot farther in the long run than throwing a temper tantrum will.

Developing deep emotional ties with swing partners - you're looking to augment an already satisfying sex life, not replace your partner, aren't you?

The Fuse · 02-07-2009, 04:57 PM

Setting up an encounter as a "surprise" for your wife or husband.

IvoryTowers · 02-07-2009, 05:06 PM

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Originally Posted by MrkLin

Expecting your partner to, or hoping your partner will, 'take one for the team.'

Taking one for the team!

Hotwallabies · 02-07-2009, 05:18 PM

Putting unattractive and sometimes downright scary pics on your Swing Lifestyle account.

Another really stupid thing to do is swing when you work for an organization that is directly opposed to swinging. I did this and it was a really bad idea.

Trying to swing without your partner.

2inSanDiego4u · 02-07-2009, 05:23 PM

Don't be pushy, with others or your own partner.

Might get some complaints from some here about this one, but IMHO going bareback should be on this list.

**BiloxiCouple** · 02-07-2009, 06:03 PM

My wife told me to check out the lifestyle and the club and if it all looks good I'll bring her next time. Do you want to go play?

slevin · 02-07-2009, 08:26 PM

Turning to swinging to try and improve a dead/dying sex life or a relationship with issues.

NCfuncouple98 · 02-07-2009, 09:46 PM

Mistaking swinging as permission to cheat or "get a little" on the side.

Not communicating openly and honestly with your partner, no matter what.

Trying to talk a partner into swinging.

I'm sure I'll think of more later.

**fun4Ds** · 02-07-2009, 10:26 PM

Don't judge other people because they swing differently than you. Just respect other peoples boundaries and understand your own.

I think Vegas Lee best said " live and let live ". The above is how I interpret his words. A very smart Man......

**LFM2** · 02-07-2009, 10:43 PM

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Originally Posted by The Fuse

Setting up an encounter as a "surprise" for your wife or husband.

Took that one right outta my head!!

**LFM2** · 02-07-2009, 10:47 PM

I wouldn't tell Dave that he could go meet with his secret girlfriend he's been talking with on the internet and then have sex and expect him to come home and be all lovey-dovey toward me.

**two4youinswva** · 02-08-2009, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by LFM2

I wouldn't tell Dave that he could go meet with his secret girlfriend he's been talking with on the internet and then have sex and expect him to come home and be all lovey-dovey toward me.

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02-07-2009, 03:14 PM	#2 (permalink)
fun4Ds Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,489 Location: Behind door #2 Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:mrmrsfun	Re: Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging Getting shit faced/sloppy drunk is pretty stupid

02-07-2009, 04:08 PM	#4 (permalink)
MrkLin Your Tent or Ours? Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 706 Location: mm Status: Couple	Re: Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging Expecting your partner to, or hoping your partner will, 'take one for the team.' Not communicating with your partner - if you have something on your mind, talk it over! Disregarding, modifying, changing, or otherwise ignoring the rules you and your partner have previously agreed on without discussing it with your partner beforehand. Not establishing and agreeing on rules in the first place! Exaggerating or misrepresenting yourselves in your online profile - just be yourself. Behaving badly when things don't go your way, or an encounter doesn't meet your expectations. Tact, dignity, and grace will get you a lot farther in the long run than throwing a temper tantrum will. Developing deep emotional ties with swing partners - you're looking to augment an already satisfying sex life, not replace your partner, aren't you?

02-07-2009, 04:57 PM	#5 (permalink)
The Fuse Way too opinionated Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 1,826 Location: Southeastern Virginia Status: Single Female Swing Lifestyle Name:The_Fuse	Re: Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging Setting up an encounter as a "surprise" for your wife or husband.
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02-07-2009, 05:18 PM	#7 (permalink)
Hotwallabies Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 106 Location: New Mexico Status: Couple	Re: Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging Putting unattractive and sometimes downright scary pics on your Swing Lifestyle account. Another really stupid thing to do is swing when you work for an organization that is directly opposed to swinging. I did this and it was a really bad idea. Trying to swing without your partner.
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02-07-2009, 05:23 PM	#8 (permalink)
2inSanDiego4u ♥♥♥ Lovin' This! ♥♥♥ Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 768 Location: San Diego Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:2inSanDiego4u	Re: Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging Don't be pushy, with others or your own partner. Might get some complaints from some here about this one, but IMHO going bareback should be on this list.
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02-07-2009, 06:03 PM	#9 (permalink)
BiloxiCouple Julie's Helper Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 4,002 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits and retired Swing Lifestyle Name:graceful	Re: Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging My wife told me to check out the lifestyle and the club and if it all looks good I'll bring her next time. Do you want to go play?
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02-07-2009, 08:26 PM	#10 (permalink)
slevin Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,216 Location: Toronto Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sk_forfun	Re: Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging Turning to swinging to try and improve a dead/dying sex life or a relationship with issues.

02-07-2009, 09:46 PM	#11 (permalink)
NCfuncouple98 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 723 Location: North Caroliina Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ncfuncouple98	Re: Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging Mistaking swinging as permission to cheat or "get a little" on the side. Not communicating openly and honestly with your partner, no matter what. Trying to talk a partner into swinging. I'm sure I'll think of more later.
	__________________ *Get your mind out of the gutter so mine can float by!*

02-07-2009, 10:26 PM	#12 (permalink)
fun4Ds Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,489 Location: Behind door #2 Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:mrmrsfun	Re: Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging Don't judge other people because they swing differently than you. Just respect other peoples boundaries and understand your own. I think Vegas Lee best said " live and let live ". The above is how I interpret his words. A very smart Man......

02-07-2009, 10:47 PM	#14 (permalink)
LFM2 ~This space for rent~ Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 4,750 Location: across the tracks Status: Couple	Re: Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging I wouldn't tell Dave that he could go meet with his secret girlfriend he's been talking with on the internet and then have sex and expect him to come home and be all lovey-dovey toward me.
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