Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging

[2inSanDiego4u]

IMO, not splitting the cost for a room, meal, drinks, etc. is stupid. Couples should pay their own way. I know that some feel differently about the single female encounter in regard to this.

[Speed & Trixie]

Originally Posted by Edison Carter

Susan here-- Allowing yourself to fuck stupid.

This is different than being fucked stupid.

I get it!

[siren52]

Originally Posted by Edison Carter

Susan here-- Allowing yourself to fuck stupid.

This is different than being fucked stupid.

I'll add to this this,
"never fuck anyone crazier than you"

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by good times

Damn, until now I have been bummed I didn't get to ride in the limo with you guys. Little did I know it must have been my lucky day.

Evidently I missed that particular ride as well. Somehow I think we got stuck riding back to the hotel by ourselves... not sure how that happened.

[Chicup]

1- Assuming you will be friends with the other couple before having sex with them.
2- Assuming they are there for the same reason you are.
3- Agreeing to share a hotel room for the night before getting their 'play' rules.
4- Not talking to the female half of the couple via phone before agreeing to meet.
5- Thinking 'well they have a very long profile with a lot of rules, so they must really know what they want'.
6 – Thinking bringing in your long time vanilla friends after a night of drinking is a 'good' idea.
7- Assuming the people you will meet will all be honest, and sane.
8 – Assuming the attractive long time single female is single by her choice and not that shes batshit insane.
9 – Assuming you won't have ANY jealousy issues the first time you swap.
10 – Assuming that its better to find partners separately the first time you swing.
11 – Thinking you need to drink to swing.

[Willing29]

"Not speaking up if either one of you is not having fun or enjoying themselves", it's real hard to read minds when your spouse or SO is engaged in something on the other side of the bed. He or she might be waiting for you to speak up and you might be waiting for them to speak up. Don't be afraid to pull the plug and hurt someone feelings. Your and you SO are more important.

[warrencouple]

Originally Posted by Willing29

"Not speaking up if either one of you is not having fun or enjoying themselves", it's real hard to read minds when your spouse or SO is engaged in something on the other side of the bed. He or she might be waiting for you to speak up and you might be waiting for them to speak up. Don't be afraid to pull the plug and hurt someone feelings. Your and you SO are more important.

While we didn't make it to the bed (and it wouldn't have mattered, being non-swap), I'm glad the wife was willing to tell me she was bored when we went to the M&G. We're not dancers, we were still in the "shy and nervous" phase, so we didn't really talk to anyone (other than some basic small talk initially) If she hadn't told me, I probably wouldn't have figured it out. Then, she might have gotten unhappy, which would have led to me being unhappy (guys, you *know* how your SO can make you "unhappy" when she's not happy)

Instead, we're going back, and talking about joining so we can go for an event, and use the play areas.

Jason

[Willing29]

Originally Posted by warrencouple

While we didn't make it to the bed (and it wouldn't have mattered, being non-swap), I'm glad the wife was willing to tell me she was bored when we went to the M&G. We're not dancers, we were still in the "shy and nervous" phase, so we didn't really talk to anyone (other than some basic small talk initially) If she hadn't told me, I probably wouldn't have figured it out. Then, she might have gotten unhappy, which would have led to me being unhappy (guys, you *know* how your SO can make you "unhappy" when she's not happy)

Instead, we're going back, and talking about joining so we can go for an event, and use the play areas.

Jason

A good thing which we developed shortly after our first night out was a code word, to signal a talking break is needed, NOW!!! After that we have no issues stopping what we are doing to say other half. Remember TALK, TALK, TALK and then TALK again. You can never talk enough in this game.

[Tia Vampire]

Chicup- #7 was our first mistake and one that we will never make again. Also what Willing29 said, you have to have your SO back, no matter what.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by Chicup

3- Agreeing to share a hotel room for the night before getting their 'play' rules.

the first mistake I made in swinging.

I will take it one step further - aggreeing to share a hotel room with a couple that you haven't actually met and established that there is mutual interest.

[The Fuse]

Acting possessive about your playmates.

(Sorry if this is a repeat)

[2inSanDiego4u]

When we first started out, we used to take rejection way too personally. In hindsight, it was very stupid to do so. Rejection is just part of being in the lifestyle. You have to learn to deal with it, cause it's gonna happen!

[truckerbuddy]

I dont know??? what about ( not talking to your SO about what turns you on or off ) some times knowing what you want to see or have done to you helps alot. well for me that is

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

the first mistake I made in swinging.

I will take it one step further - aggreeing to share a hotel room with a couple that you haven't actually met and established that there is mutual interest.

Taking it even another step further: agreeing to split the cost of the room and not getting the money up-front. We got burned last month by a single guy who agreed to pay half the room and then didn't have the cash after we had put it on our credit card.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

Taking it even another step further: agreeing to split the cost of the room and not getting the money up-front. We got burned last month by a single guy who agreed to pay half the room and then didn't have the cash after we had put it on our credit card.

That would be like the time I forgot to bring the (promised) condoms. Speaking of that, is forgetting condoms already on the Top Ten list?