Were you ever hit on by swingers when you were vanilla?

[iapr]

A recent thread about TV shows potraying swingers as predatorial on vanillas got me wondering how much swinger couples do hit on vanilla couples in the real world.

Back when we were vanilla we were VERY vanilla and never had anyone make any moves on us although the female half had an old bisexual friend that I could tell had the hots for mrs Iapr but she never made any actual offers or advances.

And since we have become swingers we have never made any moves on any vanillas although Mrs Iapr's old bi friend has since married and she and her husband have made some comments that have made us highly suspect that they may be in the LS or at least very LS friendly. We've talked about asking them out and putting out some "feelers" but we haven't actually done it.

My questions are when you were a vanilla did any swingers ever make any moves on you or offers to you?

And, since you have been in the LS have you ever hit on or made any moves on any vanillas?


If the answer is yes to either of those questions what were the outcomes? I am interested in hearing how much swingers hitting vanillas actually happens in the real world and how is just urband legend and misplaced anaxiety on the part of vanillas.

[TheDeal]

Good question! As a guy, I tend to be a bit oblivious to subtle hints or innuendos as "moves". I really need a girl to be obvious, like maybe a couple of them Airplane flashlights directing me to the obvious. Now, if you take a MF couple and they are hitting on us (my wife and I) and using the same subtle innuendos and such... I just don't know if we would have recognised what they are try to convey.

Now as for hitting on vanillas. If we were to befriend a couple and then felt close enough to them to expose our lifestyle, I think that's about as far as we would take it regarding "making moves". If we told the said couple and they all of a sudden seemed interested...

G

[dodgechevy]

Closest thing ever was T getting hit on by a lesbian couple at a gas station. She says looking back on it now she wishes she had taken them up on it!

[Tia Vampire]

You know iapr,

Now that I think about it, I was at the P Loung video taping one of their halloween parties when this lady came up to me and rested her hand on my ass. I didn't think nothing of it because I thought it was my fiance. After a while I heard a voice say, "I can't help myself, I just can't keep my hands off of your ass". To my surprise I did not react with a punch. I guess my bark was worst than my bite because I told her, "I am not bi, but there are enugh bi girls here for you to pick from". She walked away angry, but her SO quickly came in telling me about different parties they attend and going down to Key West. He was very flirtatious and ask me do I take my camera where ever I went because him and his girl liked being filmed.

At the time I did not know anything about the LS. So thinking about it now, I could have been being picked up by a swinger couple.

[WildMiCouple]

A couple times come to mind. The first was on our honeymoon in Tahiti. It was at a Club Med with a topless beach. This very good looking mid 40's couple from California(we were in our 20's) were hanging with us and flirting heavily. We had our suspicions they were swingers. And later confirmed it when we saw them hanging with another couple with a lot of fondling going on
Another time we were hanging at a restuarant bar waiting for a table. This was maybe a couple years before we ventured to the naughty side. Tam's quite the flirty one herself and struck up a conversation with another woman. Her and her husband had just been to a Rod Stewart concert with the other couple with them. They got their table first and she invited us to eat with them. We said "cool, we'll join you, but Tam smokes, and are you OK with that?" "No problem", they all said. So as we're heading to the table, the other woman says to Tam "You do know that they're swingers". Didn't matter to us Tam told her. We had dinner with them and could tell the swinger's couple friends were very jealous. It would soon come to a head

After we all finished eating Tam lit up a smoke. The non swinging husband(or so we thought) then starts to get in Tam's face about smoking. Tam replied "Well, I asked you guys before we sat down if it was OK. If you had had a problem with it, we wouldn't have joined you." He then glares at her and sneers "Maybe I just need to stuff a big cock in your mouth instead." It was all I could do to not jump over the table and pound his ass. Not wanting to get thrown in jail, I just stood up and threw some money on the table and loked at the swinging couple and said "And you call this asshole your friend?" We walked out shaking our heads.
I assumed after thinking about it later that they were either on a swinging date or had been swinging friends and the asshole guy got jealous that we were invited in and got more of their friends attention then they did.

Brett

[lustylearning]

Once (smiling as I look back), I'm pretty sure we were. We were in line for an amusement park attraction, and the couple ahead of us were a little toasted, very comfortable, and very happy, but they were tuned into us... almost as if they were trying to draw us into their private little world of the moment. When we left the park that day, hubby and I agreed they probably would have taken us back to their hotel room if we'd responded with more than playful smiles

[screaminggood]

About 20 years ago we were on a deserted Mexican beach. There was a couple we'd see every day there. They kept inviting us to come to their rented hacienda every night....we weren't emotionally ready to swing back then, but it makes me wonder how different our life would have been if we had started out that young.

[TravlParty]

Yes, that's how we got started.

[Mr.Essex]

Constantly. If I were more of a sexhound, I'd weep myself to sleep with thoughts of all of the sex that I avoided by being a goody two-shoes.

[Kristy34]

Funny question. I think most have. Husband and I went on a cruise and joked around about swingers but I have to tell you it was true with many folks there. We didn't start then but did on the next cruise.

[Trace Ekies]

Pre-lifestyle we were not hit on by anyone that I can recall.

As lifestylers, we have not hit on any from the vanilla side.

Trace

[NCfuncouple98]

My husband and I went to an NFL game just this weekend with 2 male friends. One we have played with, one we have not. And I KNOW the other one does not know we swing.

There was no doubt in either of our minds that the flirting was beyond normal joking around. Too bad his wife is so uptight, they're both very attractive people and could be a lot of fun! But alas, we'll go actual swinging couples...

[Greg & Sheryl]

Both of us were already swingers when we got together, so we don't have any vanilla frame of reference as a couple. However, back in high cshool and college, Greg used to get hit on quite often by gay men!

[LFM2]

Not that we recall. Women have flirted with Dave and men have flirted with me, but they were singles and I don't think any of them were swingers. I can't say that for sure, but I don't think so.

[VANudistcpl]

I want to say that we may have. Before we entered the lifestyle a couple of friends on our bowling team had made comments about the number of swingers in the area. I (male half) blew it off to them having too much beer. It wasn't until after the toy party they threw that I made the connection.

AS for hitting on vanilla couples, we haven't yet.