Telling a couple you've already played with that you aren't interested in a repeat

[mr&mrsbees]

Very interesting views, but we were just wondering how do you tell the other couple that you are not interested for a replay anymore? Do you just ignore their phone calls and emails or just say something nice?

[lustylearning]

Originally Posted by mr&mrsbees

Very interesting views, but we were just wondering how do you tell the other couple that you are not interested for a replay anymore? Do you just ignore their phone calls and emails or just say something nice?

There's no harm in simply saying that you're not looking to play with them anymore. A mature couple will move on. To just ignore them would be impolite. Think about how you would like them to handle it if the situation were reversed.

[MrkLin]

I think common courtesy dictates they you say something to them. Simply ignoring their calls and e-mails is just rude in my book.

[JustAskJulie]

I think that every situation is different...

sometimes it's not that you are sure you never want to play with them again, it's just that they aren't high on your list to make an effort to play with again.

Other times, as we've encountered, you get to know them outside the bedroom and their personalities overshadow their attraction and you realize you aren't interested in them anymore. In those cases you will eventually have to tell them the truth.

Other situations, still, as you get to know people you get to be friends and it's not really an issue of whether or not you play. You might play again, but they draw may not be as strong.

[spamcatcher]

We played with a couple where the female appeared to not be feeling well that evening. I offered to just sit and talk with her while her significant other played with mine, but she didn't want to do that and we played a bit. I sent a followup message the next day, saying that I hoped she felt better and at least had a bit of fun the previous evening, and it went unanswered.

I eventually accepted this as what it appeared to mean, but it did leave me wondering for a while. I'd have preferred white lie like "I enjoyed our time together, but don't think we're really all that compatible." She didn't have to say "You were great!", but geez -- she had an orgasm, it couldn't have been that bad!

If I were faced with that same situation, I would try to say something positive about the person and try to tactfully decline a subsequent session. I guess, no matter what you do, it's not going to be the right solution for SOMEBODY. But I'd rather not be left hanging.

[mr&mrsbees]

Mature couples are easy to deal with but the pushy ones ... hmmm, even with polite and humble NO, they seem to believe that the answer should be Yes. That's our worry, but then in our case, I got the boyfriend drunk that one night, sent the couple home and we went home smiling BUT the next couple of days he tried to send us messages .. up to this date and horridly without the GF's consent .

For one, I guess we are just too humble that we just can't leave them and walk-off.

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by mr&mrsbees

Mature couples are easy to deal with but the pushy ones ...

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BUT the next couple of days he tried to send us messages .. up to this date and horridly without the GF's consent .

For one, I guess we are just too humble that we just can't leave them and walk-off.

(Robot waving his arms) DANGER WILL ROBINSON! (Does anyone get that, or am I just old...?)

He's gone beyond trying to be polite to. It's time to let him have it with both barrels. "Not only do you NOT contact us without your GFs consent, you're not to contact us at all any more." Then, block him. Block his Swing Lifestyle name, block his AFF name - heck, mark his next e-mail as spam so your e-mail program or site won't even accept messages from him.

Another thing you can do is report him to Swing Lifestyle. If there's been any misconduct on his part on their site, they'll cancel his subscription, delete their profile, and go so far as to ban their IP address if needed - but you'd better be sure of your facts before they'll go that far.

[twoforone100]

we have used the "we don't feel the magic" after we are all after some sort of magic.... line.. but agree it depends on the copule and it depends on the time..... all thing vary and it pays to be nice... people talk...