Conversation after play

[Bubblicious]

I was wondering...I am the type of person that enjoys the communication that comes after the swing experience with a couple. How do I engage all involved? And if I try to engage in communication, am I being "pushy"?

Thanks!!

S Bubblicious

[Roxysbayou]

I find that conversation is just as arousing as the actual play, whether it be with hubby or who we are playing with. Just go for it, say whats on your mind.

[Brit_Pair]

There's always semaphore - instead of two flags, just use your bra and panties!

[JustAskJulie]

I just ran across this old thread that got very little action, and I'm wondering how do most people feel about having a conversation after all the play is done? Do you prefer to just get dressed and move on and just talk with your primary partner? Or do you like to linger and talk with your play partners about what just occured?

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by Brit_Pair

There's always semaphore - instead of two flags, just use your bra and panties!

Now that's just plain funny right there ^^^. I don't care who y'are...

[MrkLin]

Certainly we talk. What we talk about depends on the situation, the people involved, and what all has just happened. This is just me talking here, but I think that just putting out your cigarette, getting dressed, then leaving is pretty flippin rude.

[LFM2]

We love having a great conversation with our play partners after sex. In fact, sometimes it can last an hour or more. Our conversations range from weather to sex and everything in between. Sometimes we're just planning on the next get together.

[JustMrJ]

Yup, both my bride and I have from time to time had quite the conversation with our play partners while 'resting'. Sometimes we talk long enough that we get a second wind.

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by JustMrJ

Yup, both my bride and I have from time to time had quite the conversation with our play partners while 'resting'. Sometimes we talk long enough that we get a second wind.

The "After Sex" conversation is a vaforite of mine as well. We just lay there entwined and I usually start them by mentioning the fact that if society would accept swinging as a good thing, there would be no war. It generally keeps going from there.

Like Mr. J said, we also have found that we end up recharged and it all starts again! HE HE!

[likkit69]

I would think talking at least a little bit would be nice. Nothing wrong with a good long conversation either. There have been times when we've talked and there have also been times when everyone just kinda passes out too. Sometimes Mrs. Likkit and I have been known to go to another room ( if there's one to go to) so we don't wake anyone while going another round. lol

[The Fuse]

When we play we are usually at our house or the other couple's house. So yes, play is one part of an evening that includes lots of good company and conversation. To just jump up and leave after play would be pretty cold and entirely inconsistent with the rest of the evening. And round two is a definite factor {grin}.

I understand this is a lot different than if we were at an on-premise club or a house party. In that case I would say I would like to have some conversation as well, at least enough that my playmate and I both know we are happy about what just happened and we value each other enough to prolong the contact for a little bit. We may not have as much of a connection with those folks as people we've been hanging out with on an ongoing basis or for at least a few hours, but c'mon... casual sex is better if it's at least friendly, as opposed to callous and dismissive.

[hamlet]

Conversation after play can be even better than conversation before it. If you're with a couple whom you've never been with before, or whom you just don't know very well, there's often some tension before the play begins--it may just be the positive kind of tension that comes with horny anticipation, but it's tension nonetheless. After play, the psychological and (if all has gone well) physical tensions are released, and you can relax, which makes the conversation flow a whole lot better. We've got a lot of cordials/liqueurs at our house so, when we entertain a couple, we usually invite them after play to look them over and choose one, then adjourn to the living room and sit around naked as we sip and chat. It makes for a very pleasant kind of intimacy.

BUT . . . since this topic has come up, let me register a complaint on a related subject. We've been at an on-premise club and played together in a room in which a foursome was also playing. A couple of times, the foursome has finished before us and, without moving out of the playroom, launched into a loud conversation about house remodeling, or somebody's mother's kidney problems. We were still playing in the meantime, and it wasn't the most erotic background to have when you want to focus on your fucking. So this is just a plea to all such: after-play conversation is great but, if you're at an on-premises club, take it into one of the lounges outside the playrooms. Thanks.

[CXXC]

Conversations, both before and after are great. They build the excitment or bring a close to a wonderful event. Sometimes they entice one to start up again! It's all fun!

However, there are certain topics that should be avoided in the before conversation. Case and point:

As I am dinning at the "Y" with a lovely playmate, some joker decides to bring up the topic of Veggie Dip. How sour cream or blue cheese are the favorite. As my imagination began to run rampant, the "Y" lost it's appeal! I had to break from the activity and shout, "Come on! I'm eating here!"

My point was well received!

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by CXXC

I had to break from the activity and shout, "Come on! I'm eating here!"

LOL! Now that's funny right there, I don't care who y'are...

Hamlet's comments are pretty accurate too - in that the topic is most relevant. If I roll my body off of a friend, the last thing I'm thinking about is whether or not there should be a 'permanent press' setting on an iron. I'm thinking about what we just did - and that I'd most likely like to do it again! I'll probably lay there with her and cuddle - relishing what she and I just did...

Guys: this is not the time to tell me about the 440 Duster you had back in the 70s - no matter what kind of car nut I am. Just lay there basking in the afterglow, and enjoy the moment...

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

Guys: this is not the time to tell me about the 440 Duster you had back in the 70s - no matter what kind of car nut I am. Just lay there basking in the afterglow, and enjoy the moment...

I don't know. If I had a 440 duster and met a car buff at a party, I would have a difficult time keeping my mouth shut! But I do see your point!

I wonder if there is a thread about the worst/strangest/funniest thing you have ever heard while engaged in the act! I bet that would be a hoot!