Want a threesome but end up with couples

[WL34_Pink]

Hi.

New members here. My boyfriend and I are on the site. We are in the Bay Area and have just found that we really like the Lifestyle. We have been to a few clubs and are in our experimental phase.

My boyfriend and I like hooking up w/ women only - becoming a trio if you will for the evening. Often, it feels like I may be creating my own pressure in that it feels like the other guy who may be part of the other couple wants to touch me too - but, again, I prefer to keep it between my boyfriend, me and another girl.

How common is this? Are there couples who target other couples that prefer to link this way?

Thanks.

[JustAskJulie]

First off to the board!

When you say you play with the other female, does your guy get to touch her? Or is it just you and her and then the guys playing with their own partners?

If it's the latter then there shouldn't be any pressure anywhere or an issue, as there are quite a few couples around who play this way. If on the other hand, you are expecting a couple to join you and alllow you to have free play with the woman while the man sits out and only plays with her as well... you may be asking for a bit much. I know that there are couples who would be perfectly fine with this scenario but they are not the majority. I guess you have to turn it around on yourselves and ask how likely you'd be to play that way? How would your guy feel if everyone was playing with you and he got nothing?

[ncmd_couple]

Good morning Pink!

Couples seeking females for FMF or FFM is a very common thing. This comes from the fact that many men's fantasies are FMF experiences. The challenge is that there aren't really a lot of single females out there. That is why we call them "Golden Unicorns!"

As Julie said, meeting a couple, then asking to enjoy a FMF or FFM with his SO, with nothing in it for him is going to be a stetch in most cases. Personally, I don't have a problem with sharing my wife with a couple that we have full swapped with in the past, and plan to in the future, so that the other guy can fulfill his fantasy. But if I knew up front that there would not be anything in it for me, well, I would have to take it on a case by case basis to determine if I would veto it. But the main thing is first that my wife would have to agree in concept before my opinion even came into play.

S

[LFM2]

to the Swinger's Board.

It sounds as if you've gotten some very sage advice from the previous posters. There are things to think about when you're asking to borrow a female from a couple. They are out there, but they are very rare.

[sweet_tna]

Hi, and

There are a lot of couples out there looking for just another female to add to the mix, but to actually find a single bi female that you both click with is rare--hence the term "unicorn".

Because of this, many couples seek out couples with bi females, and put in their online ads that they are not interested in playing with the other male. Sometimes this works out, and sometimes not. Sometimes, the original couple finds a male half that they're comfortable playing with, too.

It basically all comes down to doing whatever you guys are interested in/comfortable with.

=)

[arvcpl]

So let me see if I am getting this straight, you want to find couples where you and your boyfriend both get to play with some guys wife while you make him sit in the corner and keep to himself?

Yeah right! Are you serious?

Actually if you proposed this idea to a thousand different couples you probably would find a few that would go for it. There are some guys that are so big into the voyeur thing or are so desparate to see their wife with another woman they may go for it.

There are probably a lot of couples that would agree to where just the girls play but the guys are restricted to playing with only their own partner. But making some guy just sit in the corner while you titty rub on her while your boyfriend throws her legs up over his shoulders and lays the lumber to her is really asking a lot.

If you ask a lot of people a few would probably do it but you will get a hundred "FUCK YOU!"s for every acceptance you get.

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by WL34_Pink

Hi.

New members here. My boyfriend and I are on the site. We are in the Bay Area and have just found that we really like the Lifestyle. We have been to a few clubs and are in our experimental phase.

My boyfriend and I like hooking up w/ women only - becoming a trio if you will for the evening. Often, it feels like I may be creating my own pressure in that it feels like the other guy who may be part of the other couple wants to touch me too - but, again, I prefer to keep it between my boyfriend, me and another girl.

How common is this? Are there couples who target other couples that prefer to link this way?

Thanks.

I think what you are actually looking for is a couple where the female plays as, and is considered by the male, as a "Hot Wife"

We were approached a few times by a couple where the male "gives" his wife to playmates. It something we dont understand......

She was a very attractive woman. It's not like a sub/dom situation like we thought. It was brought up by the male half. Thats how he described their intintions. He wanted to "give her" to couples sometimes and she would be submissive to them.


I dont think its all that rare if you look......

[lustylearning]

Actually, we have seen it. I suspect that the non-participating voyeur husband is fueling his personal fantasies of his wife. It's not what we seek, but to each his own. If they're comfortable and you're interested, it could be a win-win for everyone.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by WL34_Pink

How common is this? Are there couples who target other couples that prefer to link this way?

Thanks.

Welcome, new members.

My observation is that it happens often, especially at swingers' clubs. Many men have fun by simply watching a female partner have her fun. Don't know, however, what advice I would lend for identifying couples who are inclined to play this way.

~Michael

[WL34_Pink]

Thank you. This is exactly what we are looking for and trying to describe "HotWife" w/ a voyeur husband - I have no problem w/ them watching, I just don't want to have another man touching me, his wife is a different story. I want only my man, as the only man.

[MrkLin]

We know a couple who are exactly like has been described earlier in this thread. He doesn't participate with anyone but his wife, and she participates with both men and women. He's a bigtime voyeur, and gets his excitement from watching her. Hey, to each his/her own, and it seems to work just fine for them. They come to all of our parties, and she's a real wild one. They end the night by pairing off in one of our bedrooms just before saying good night, and heading home.

So those couples are out there, but as has been mentioned before, they're pretty rare.

[dodgechevy]

Out of all the couples we have met in the last 3 some odd years we have only ever met 1 couple that was into that situation. Where all the male did was watch and his wife would play with other couples.

I wouldn't just randomly ask couples at clubs if they would want to do that either, you may get a lot off pissed of responses or get laughed at in the face. That's what we saw happen at a club we frequented when this one couple came in trying to find the same thing you are looking for.

[screaminggood]

We do these...yep, get the woman and let the man watch. Is your wife bi? I, the fem half, get picked up by the bi-fem in the couple while the husband is watching us dance. If we like each other, and discuss what's agreeable, I quite often get an answer that her husband likes to watch, which I agree to...and ask if she minds if my husband plays in some way or if she'd prefer that he just watch also. Some of my favorite ladies have been these!