couples who say they are soft swap but will full swap

[iapr]

The title may be a little misleading but I couldn't think of the right title for the question so I'll just ask the questions.

If you are a full swap couple have you ever full swapped with a couple who claims to be soft swap? Have you ever been with a couple who is listed as soft and in the early stages of conversation they claim to be softys but once the clothes started coming off they full swapped anyway?


Similarly if you are a soft swap couple have you ever been with a couple and the attraction and chemistry was such that you couldn't resist and you made an exception with them?

If you consider yourself to be a soft swap couple is that an iron-clad policy written in stone or is it a guideline depending on the level of attraction and comfort with any given couple? In other words do you use the label of soft swap as an "out" in case you do not have the attraction required to full swap but in reality will consider full swapping with the right couple?

Just curious and wondering what your thoughts and experiences are in the full swap vs soft swap arena.

[slevin]

We consider ourselves to be interested in softswap, but we're up for a fullswap if the situation is right. We're pretty up front about it, that if we're having fun we're up for softswap and we'll consider moving to fullswap as we get more comfortable with a couple. Now, that comfort could come all on the first night or it could be over the course of playing a few times. We try to be open about it and Katrina and I will communicate on the night as things happen as to what we're both comfortable with.

I think the more we do full swap we may get more comfortable with it so it's not a big deal to us anymore.

[jjtrindc]

We make it pretty clear that we are a soft-swap, take it slow couple. We do that to make sure we attract couples who understand and are respectful of our boundaries - whether they are full swap or simply interested in same room. We've found ourselves in situations with "aggressive couples" and that is not our scene. Now, once we've had a chance to talk, we let them know that comfort level dictates how "fast" we move...though we've yet to full swap. Will we ever full swap? Who knows. We are open to it but not necessarily a goal of ours.

[JustAskJulie]

We are listed as a soft swap couple but given the right situation/ couple/ comfort level we would full swap. We don't list ourselves as full swap because we don't want people to expect that that is what they are getting.... even though they might if the stars align appropriately.

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

We are listed as a soft swap couple but given the right situation/ couple/ comfort level we would full swap. We don't list ourselves as full swap because we don't want people to expect that that is what they are getting.... even though they might if the stars align appropriately.

When I read the original post this is what I thought and I read down and Julie had already explained it well.

You can tell them you are soft swap and not worry or crank it up and have fun at full swap.

[N&G]

We are a full swap couple. Although we will play with a soft swap couple it is not what we are looking for and will skip a profile that is listed as soft swap, even if they are a couple that we would otherwise like to meet. I would expect that a lot of other full swappers do the same thing and people who mislabel their profiles are excluding a lot of potential playmates.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by iapr

If you are a full swap couple have you ever full swapped with a couple who claims to be soft swap?

No because we only meet full swap couples. We are a full swap couple and have been from the start. If a profile says soft swap only, we don't contact them.

Some people allude to being soft swap but then put statements in their profile that suggest they are full swap, i.e., "when the chemistry is right we'll consider full swap." When we see this we tend to think they only mention soft swap as insurance - they can use it as an easy way to reject people for full swap if they don't want to play with a couple. We do consider meeting them if everything in the profile looks good and communication via e-mail sounds positive towards that desired goal. When we contact a couple that appears they'll go full, we let them know in the first e-mail that we are definitely a full swap couple and then wait and see how they respond.

LM

[AdamInEve]

Like "N&G" and "Likeminds" people who are soft swap would go to the bottom of our "hey, lets contact them list". Even if we are interested in their profile. This is going to sound like a contradiction because from the beginning and up until not too long ago we were listed as soft swap even though we are a full swap couple and have been so from the beginning. The reason being, Swing Lifestyle is labeled Tame/Moderate/Wild and Eve was just not comfortable with the moniker, "Wild". If it were labeled A/B/C she would have had no problem with it so it took a while to get her to agree that we really should be honest in our profile and she should come to terms with it. Women!!! We finally changed it but she is still somewhat uncomfortable with the term.

[spamcatcher]

We're a full-swap couple with a very wide range of turn-ons and kinks. But just because we have that full a toolbox, it doesn't mean that we expect everyone we play with to do everything we like to do.

In other words, we're fully on-board for a soft swap anytime. It's fun to meet new people, make new friends, and it's fun to get naked with them, kiss, lick, touch & suck to whatever extent they're comfortable. We fully respect everyone's boundaries.

If my wife or I feel we just "have to have" intercourse, we can save it for later, when we're alone.

It's all good! Soft swap welcome here!

[Chris&Suzanne]

In our Swing Lifestyle profile we say we are soft swingers, but also mention we have gone farther if the situation is right. We don't like to hookup with others that are just out to swap.

[sweet_tna]

I think this is an interesting question. We're a full swap couple, but have played with soft swap couples before. Some of them list themselves as soft swap because they're not ready for full swap yet, some couples don't want the pressure of going full with everyone, and some have no intention of ever going full.

We pretty much just go with the flow if the chemistry is right. As often as not, the soft-swappers have full swapped with us anyway.

=)

[spamcatcher]

Last weekend, we had our first experience with a soft-swap couple, and it was very, very hot. Even if they don't indulge in intercourse with other couples, we explored a very wide range of erotic pleasures that surpassed many of the full-swap experiences that we've had. Repeats? Sure, bring 'em on!