Once you are in the play room how do you start

[J&D]

If this has been covered before sorry for the repeat.

Once you and your SO have decided to play with another couple and have gone to a play room what is next? By this I mean how do you start playing with the other couple?

[dnmnms]

It depends in our experience....SOmetimes we start with our own partner just playing around and get things started..then when things get going swap around...but really its different everytime i think....sometimes FF being dancing really wild on dance floor and things already heated.
There really isnt a right/wrong way...just whats right for yall.

Melody

[ncmd_couple]

J&D,

As Melody said, each experience is different, even when you are in a play room with people you know. The important thing is that if you and your spouce want to approach a couple and play, ask first! The key is to remember that even if you and your spouce play together, which happens quite a bit, you both still had a hot sexy time.

S

[Trace Ekies]

Typically if we end up in a playroom Mrs. Ekies has decided that she wants to have sex with him or her or both and will make it abundantly clear.

She tends to be choosy (spelling)? but when she decides you're gettin' it, you get all of it...no holds (or holes) barred.

Trace

[BiloxiCouple]

Kissing, touching, and sex.

Not in any particular order or requirement.

And some portion of the clothing has to be removed.

[kureus67]

I find that when we get things going with each other first it all becomes very comfortable and and easy to start playing and swapping.

[eatnlickme]

First talking with your partner before you leave the house as to what the plan is for the night.

Second talking with the couple to cover what the deal is over drinks or dancing before and get the foreplay started then.....

So bi the time you get to get to the "room" all you need is to get nude...

Or sometime already nude before we get there..

The key is chatting before anything happens and you know your limits.

[good times]

I think you are over thinking this a bit, in our experience, by the time you get to the play room, things pretty much progress on their own.

[SecretAsianMan]

I've never really thought about it ... I guess it starts for me the same way MOST sessions of sex begin. Some caressing and making out / kissing ... fondling ... clothes start coming off ... etc., etc., etc.

[Mr.Essex]

For me, kissing tends to come dead last. I usually follow a 20-40 minute foreplay/penetration session, then intercourse, then we'll start kissing as her husband takes his turn. I must be meeting the wrong people

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by good times

I think you are over thinking this a bit, in our experience, by the time you get to the play room, things pretty much progress on their own.

Have to agree with this. I don't recall an experience of ever getting to the playroom and then having to wonder how to get things started... they just start. The funny thing is that so often on the way to the playroom there are pitstops (at the bathroom, to get condoms, etc) yet things never seem to lose their momentum in the progress. It's like once you get there everyone knows WHY you are there so things just happen.

[tankman101]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Have to agree with this. I don't recall an experience of ever getting to the playroom and then having to wonder how to get things started... they just start. The funny thing is that so often on the way to the playroom there are pitstops (at the bathroom, to get condoms, etc) yet things never seem to lose their momentum in the progress. It's like once you get there everyone knows WHY you are there so things just happen.

agree

However, we have tried the game "4play" as an icebreaker twice with different couples. Its a hoot and really helps get you into each other in a really fun, playful way.

[TheDeal]

You put your right hand in, you take your right hand out...

G

[willyoats]

I'm trying to remember if there was ever a pattern, i.e., some series of steps that we used regualrly. I don't think so. By the time we knew that we would be with another couple, we were all so at ease that things just happened with no further thought. I don't remember it being much different getting started with another woman than it was getting started with my own wife.

I guess that means if you have to plot and plan what to do, you probably are not with the right partner. Good love making flows without a blueprint. There was something different about every partner I ever had, but there was also the commonality that we were just enjoying each other's bodies and minds and spirits.

That said, I can understand why the question would be asked, especially by someone who may not have had a lot of experience yet. The more partners you have, the easier and more spontaneous and less stressful the situation becomes. In the beginning, I did not know what to expect and probably would have asked the same question if I had thought of it and if I had someone to talk to.

[Brian and Jo]

When we get to the playroom we just start playing. We have already dealt with the preliminaries and agreed to swap partners before we move to the play room. Once we are there we just get on with it!