Are a lot of swingers nerds?

[JustMrsJ]

JustMrJ has been a nerd for a while. I myself like playing games and Yes I have Neverwinter nights 2. I agree with everyone here I am happy there is adverage people in this lifestyle. I have seen some hunks during the time I have been in this lifestyle but it is good to have a variety to play with.

[PeeTWheatstraw]

Very interesting...lets see...I was always a part of the in crowd because I played sports in high school! Went to college to play sports but I didn't...started drinking and partying...still a pretty active social life but stayed to myself alot...especially when it was time for tests/exams....Joined a fraternity and became even more popular but never really liked the attention so I went back to keeping to myself....Now.....I keep to myself....I go to work...get online when I come home...and I swing!! Not much into going to clubs...or hanging out at the latest night spots....I guess to some that may make me a nerd!! However, its the nerds that will be your true friends because we all have something to loose and take the lifestyle for what it is....its the cool people that will stab you in the back to try to boost their popularity.

[two4youinswva]

Does not find this thread amusing.

Originally Posted by mixtupcpl

Well and to be fair, these things are never really black and white anyway. Maybe my experience was different b/c I grew up in the inner city, but the Hollywood vision of "jocks vs nerds" didnt remotely exist in HS for me.

Same for me in a small town high school. It was a very blended crowd with just a little bit of differentiation between the cliques. Most cliques were very fluid with folks moving between them quite often.

The Garth Algar type nerd never had a real problem at our school. The only nerd-type to suffer severely was the "I know everything about every subject and you are an inferior life-form" nerd. Lots of ostracism heaped out on a daily basis.

As for me, I'm probably 25% nerd. I dabble in the nerd world, but never made the commitment.

[PB&J]

Oh, man. I went to a classic clique-y high school. And I was waaaay out to the nerdy end of things. Which I didn't mind, because I didn't really have anything to say to the cool crowd. It was pretty funny, though, in my last year, when it was discovered that I was some sort of cousin to one of the football/drinking team stars, and he actually came up and talked to me.

The Mr and I have often commented, "If only they could see me now!!"

[Chris&Amelia]

Originally Posted by realcplub2

To watch the WORLD SERIES.. Soon as the game went on, he was less than useless..

Okay, true story, slightly off topic.

Amelia and I were at a local on-premises swing club. Things were still at the "buffet and chat" stage, so I wander into the TV room. They have a big-screen TV where they're usually playing porn, but this particular night they had the World Series on. It was the last game, Florida Marlins vs. New York Yankees.

I'm not much of a baseball fan, but the Marlins were my home team and I never did like the Yankees much. So, a NY player hits a pop fly which is caught deep into the outfield. Marlins win, taking the Series.

I make a classic "pump the air" gesture while saying "YES! GO MARLINS! YANKEES SUCK!". I then notice the shocked silence and hostile stares of some of the other men around me. It was right about then that the light bulb went on over my head and I remembered we were less then 90 miles away from NYC, and a significant number of people attending actually drove here from there.

Oddly enough, we didn't get much action that night.

Originally Posted by PB&J

I sewed myself a Space:1999 jacket when I was 17.

Touche, ma'am.

Originally Posted by mixtupcpl

Ep 1 may not have been great, but the second trilogy did end strong.

Watch out, PB&J! It's a trap!

(snicker) My new-mail notification sound on my work computer is Darth going "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!"

[PB&J]

My new-mail notification sound on my work computer is Darth going "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!"

And that scene had almost redeemed it for me. It was almost the real thing. The visuals of the helmet going on, the whole symbolism, I said to my son, THIS is what it should be like.... and then he drops to his kneees and turns into Seymour Skinner.

Not to mention that Christopher Lee has an almost identical setting and speech in SW and in LOTR- erstwhile ally and now his prisoner before him, being lectured about why it just makes sense to go over to the Dark Side and serve evil overlord.

George Lucas could have done SO much better!!

[Chris&Amelia]

Originally Posted by PB&J

George Lucas could have done SO much better!!

(sigh) I agree. I find the prequel trilogy a fun ride, but ultimately disappointing.

But, hey... look at the bright side. It could have been worse.

"Darth Jar-Jar"

[Edison Carter]

Susan here. I was at a really great weekend Swing party once. I ended up chatting up this one guy, we were both naked and despite that we talked physics. He was an engineer and I've had a couple of college courses. After an hour (I'm not kidding) we finally realized ,"aren't we here to get laid?" And then we did . And you know what ? Science guys ,who know they're having sex with a science girl, make wonderful lovers.

[sweet_tna]

(Sigh) I considered myself a nerd in high school (of the band nerd variety), but it seems as I've gotten older I've lost that social awkwardness and tend to have more "mainstream" hobbies/interests.

That said, I seem to have a thing for nerds. Mr. Sweet LOVES Sci Fi, and most of my male playmates are nerds. The payoff is that I have my own personal "Geek Squad".

Now that that's out of the way, I think that us nerds are more prevalent in the Lifestyle because of two reasons. (1) We weren't the Jocks and Cheerleaders. We never got a real chance to "sow our wild oats". So now we're catching up on "lost time" and, since we're adults and (presumably) more mature, we're able to enjoy the experience much more and conduct it in a safe, responsible matter. (2) And since we didn't experience said "wild" sexual life as teenagers, we were open to developing an different outlook as adults.

Hmmm . . . what astute insight. Where have I heard this before . . . ?

Kinda' makes me think we're the adult version of the Breakfast Club.

=)

[PB&J]

Certainly, being an outsider nerd in high school gave me a sublime disregard for the opinion of my peer group which has survived until this day. In other words, I don't care what other people's judgements of me are- I will do what I feel is right for me to do, not because it's trendy or cool. And now, that means swinging.

[Chris&Amelia]

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

Hmmm . . . what astute insight. Where have I heard this before . . . ?

And, of course, you don't want to provoke a nerd to use his nerdpowers for Evil instead of Good.

So, Sweet, how's that wireless printing that I set up for ya working out, hmmmmm?

(nor is there anything scarier then nerdrage)
(well, unless it's the wrath of a woman scorned)
(or the wrath of a nerd-woman scorned)
(of the wrath of a redheaded nerd-woman scorned)
(or the wrath of a... you know, I'm gonna stop now. Soon we'll be getting into WMD-grade stuff here.)

[Mr.Essex]

I think that us nerds are more prevalent in the Lifestyle because of two reasons. (1) We weren't the Jocks and Cheerleaders. We never got a real chance to "sow our wild oats". So now we're catching up on "lost time" and, since we're adults and (presumably) more mature, we're able to enjoy the experience much more and conduct it in a safe, responsible matter. (2) And since we didn't experience said "wild" sexual life as teenagers, we were open to developing an different outlook as adults.

Chris, Amelia, you took the words right out of my mouth. Regardless of cultural background, I've always noticed that swingers are stereotypically nerdy. Whether it's an affinity for technology and science, an ability to quantify morality (most men wouldn't be able to watch their wives having a multiple orgasm with another man, never mind being able to avoid the "normal" violent reaction), or the quintessential "uncomfortable in their own skin" vibe that seems to be a nerd's defining attribute, most if not all of the carnally successful/popular and long-term swingers that I have known have been nerds. I noticed it in America and Europe, even among the single women and emptier-balled of the single men.

IME, as an admitted nerd, I get the most results when I can grab and maintain the attention of the husband and the wife. And that means that I have to be able to talk about sports and celebrities, makes and models of cars and fashion, cooking and music, and on one interesting occasion, 1900's literature. An intelligent man can maintain two disparate conversations, but it takes a true nerd to meld the topics together. I've rambled too much, let's change the subject.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by Chris&Amelia

And, of course, you don't want to provoke a nerd to use his nerdpowers for Evil instead of Good.

So, Sweet, how's that wireless printing that I set up for ya working out, hmmmmm?

(nor is there anything scarier then nerdrage)
(well, unless it's the wrath of a woman scorned)
(or the wrath of a nerd-woman scorned)
(of the wrath of a redheaded nerd-woman scorned)
(or the wrath of a... you know, I'm gonna stop now. Soon we'll be getting into WMD-grade stuff here.)

Uh huh. Lucky for you I'm "just" a strawberry blonde . . . or not.

Btw, whose team beat the ever-lovin' crap outta' yours in fantasy football? What was the wager again . . . ?

=)

[SecretAsianMan]

It's also possible that our demographics are slightly skewed because we're discussing this on an online forum??

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by SecretAsianMan

It's also possible that our demographics are slightly skewed because we're discussing this on an online forum??

Possibly but I know a lot of swingers who are nerds, including one couple who plays World of Warcraft together.


Now it just might be the swingers I know are nerds because thats who we like to hang out with, but it seems a pretty common thread.