Are a lot of swingers nerds?

[iapr]

This post is going to use a lot of labels and steriotypes in the quest gathering information so please turn off the PC filter and share your thoughts openly and maybe we can all seek some usefull knowledge together.

A couple days ago I refered to someone as a nerd and I passed it off as ok for me to say that since I am a nerd too. Always have been always will be ( I most closely resemble Gilbert from the original 'Revenge of the Nerds' movie).
Anyway, I got to thinking and it dawned on me that a lot of the people I have encountered in the lifestyle could also be classified as nerds.

Before we got into the lifestyle I had a preconcieved notion that the swinger community would be made up primarily of the jock/stud catagory of men and the cheerleader/beauty queen catagory of women. What I have witnessed in real life is far from that.

Most of the men I have seen have not been smooth talking ladies men at all and have not been players at all or even necessarily that socially comfortable or outgoing. I have come across a few single males that are totally players and probably score a lot in the vanilla world as well as the lifestyle but they have been the exception. Many of the male halves of couples I have seen have been quite passive if not downright socially awkward and uncomfortable.

Ditto for the ladies. some have been physically beautifull and reasonably charming but most have been just ordinary folks and not a steriotypical cheerleader type at all. And while many of the single males have fit the jock/stud mold, the single fems I have met in person have been the opposite and many probably struggle for a date in the vanilla world.


So I guess my question is, are any of your observations similar or different from what I have described? Please share your thoughts and observations on this. I often hear discussions regarding cliques and such within the lifestyle and I am wondering if this is yet another battlefield between the jocks/cheerleaders and the nerds or is the lifestyle a place where the nerds truly do outnumber the jocks?

[JustMrJ]

No it's not just your universe, but ours too.

We see just your average Jane and Joe in the Lifestyle. Sometimes there is the exceptional beauty or hunk, but that is the exception, not the rule.

Cheers!

[TropicalCpl]

We've noticed the same - very ordinary people in the lifestyle. I was worried when we first went to a gathering - I thought all the people there would be Ken and Barbie - but I was pleasantly surprised that most everyone was 'ordinary'.

What a relief!!

[shes_in_parties]

"Those jocks, all they think about is sports...us nerds, all we think about is sex!"

From your movie mentioned above. I think I'm gonna make that our sig.

We have 2 couples we play with regularly, all of whom are pretty geeky. One couple is very "pretty" but still geeks at heart, believe me. In our scene, there are always a few jock/cheerleader couples at the big parties, but they never come out more than once or twice, and they usually sit around and talk to each other without playing.

[PB&J]

Considering that the conversation I had this summer with one playmate about Battlestar Galactica- I'd have to say, oh yes.

[realcplub2]

Originally Posted by PB&J

Considering that the conversation I had this summer with one playmate about Battlestar Galactica- I'd have to say, oh yes.

OMG!!!

How about during a "intermission" having a serious discussion about the differences/ Which is better, between the Star Trek/Star Wars.. Nothing like two naked guys, talking about Sci Fi, instead of paying attention to the lovely Naked opposite sex..

[mixtupcpl]

Originally Posted by realcplub2

OMG!!!

How about during a "intermission" having a serious discussion about the differences/ Which is better, between the Star Trek/Star Wars.. Nothing like two naked guys, talking about Sci Fi, instead of paying attention to the lovely Naked opposite sex..

WOW! I feel good. I've always felt I was pretty geeky, but this is SOLIDLY "light years" beyond my limits

Sexy woman in garters? My IQ drops by about 100...

[PB&J]

Oh yes, and then he and I moved on to which version of Star Trek we liked best- go Picard!! Talk about foreplay...
Nothing like being able to connect on that sort of level before moving on to the other.
Even better when it's the naked opposite sex you can have the conversation with, lol

[mixtupcpl]

Now opposite sex... Thats a whole different ballgame. That is insanely hot. UNLESS it becomes a heated battle.

Picard vs. Kirk can get religious. Although I suppose it would just fuel the tension

[PB&J]

Am I the only female nerd out there? Few things can get me hotter than discussing my favorite SF... and must say, would find it hard to connect with a Kirk aficianado. lol. Almost got turned off by a guy when he admitted he liked Wesley!!

[mixtupcpl]

Wesley! Please tell me you did NOT reward this man for such blasphemy!!!

Wesley... /shudder

(BTW - this thread seems to be evidence in and of itself that the answer to the OP is a resounding "clearly yes")

[PB&J]

Things did not work out there... and while I was disappointed at the time, looking back, I ask myself, COULD I have enjoyed myself with a man who thought that Wesley was not a sad excuse for a starfleet officer- at least until the last few episodes when he grew a pair and left?
The answer, clearly: no. Such a man shows a serious lack of judegement.

Hmmm. Maybe the Mr and I will have to haul out the Battlestar DVD's tonight.

[mixtupcpl]

Hahaha... you're completely awesome Light some candles, get out Season 1, relive those great moments, and let the magic happen. We'll be thinking about you. (Mrs. Mix is getting nauseous - not a big fan)

[PB&J]

Nice to see someone understands... here comes Agathon for me... Starbuck for him... let the fun begin!!

[Chicup]

I just alt-tabbed out of playing Neverwinter nights 2 to read this.....

If you don't know what that is, its the latest Dungeons and Dragons computer game.

So yes, I'm a nerd, and happy with it.