Have you met swing partners in non-swing related functions?

[cocpl2007]

The thread regarding "should I lie to my wife" provoked a question we have. How many actively swinging couples found their play partners at places other than swing clubs, online sites or swing-related meeting opportunities?

We've heard the stories "met this couple at church" but does that really happen? We have never even met another couple, who admitted to being in the lifestyle, let alone finding play partners... out and about. And for those of you who have, it would be interesting to learn how you happened to broach such a sensitive subject.

Of course we are not the type who spend much time in any of the liquor establishments, so that may well limit the opportunities to find these folks.

Thank you for anything you have to offer.

The Co's

[ncmd_couple]

The Co's,

Well, we have met a couple of couples out and about that we said, "Hmmmm I wonder...." but didn't approach them as it was our local place. Now, maybe if we were out of town we would have said something.

[slevin]

We played with a couple we were already friends with a couple of times. It was a weird situation and we didn't come out and ask them or anything. Sitting around with a few glasses of wine and suddenly the other girl kisses Katrina. It was cool, we were psyched to find out some good friends were into this, but after playing a couple of times it was obvious to us that it wasn't going to work out. Some drama brewing between the other couple so we backed off.

Thats the only time thats happened to us, we have never even talked about the subject with anyone else we know and we've never transitioned from a vanilla meeting into swing partners. Always met everyone else from online.

[funnewthings]

Since I am pretty new to all this, this has yet to happen to us IRL.

When I lived out west I knew a lot of swingers, most being pretty out about their lifestyle... Many being kinda pushy.

Here where I am at, oddly enough we got a message from a good friend of mine on AFF the other day, she doesn't know about this, at all, and oddly enough I knew she was part of the lifestyle with her ex, who was a complete scumbag.

I cracked up when I got the email, showed my man, he laughed too, as he knows her older brother.

Needless to say shes kinda like a lil sister so thats not gonna happen... maybe some day I'll tell her...lol

I'd rather not try to get others involved from my personal life, as its never a good idea when you live in a small town, and my man agrees. So we have spoke to couples within an hour away, met two who we found online.

[JDApopka]

well not sure if this counts but our first several mfm's were with a friend.
the very first time he and I were at a gentlemans club and horny when we got home and one thing lead to another

[des1re06]

We were first approached by a couple at a non-swing resort in another country. We had no idea what swinging was, so we passed. That conversation led to alot of interesting fantasy talk.

We talked about it for years before we signed up, and it all started with that one couple who took a chance to approach us.

[oncewere]

In the group we belonged to we used several phrases that meant ordinary things to the outsiders but clearly identified us as members. We also had a unique pendant that was hard to miss. We met lots of people especially while traveling. From time to time a phrase would get outed so we'd substitute another. Once while visiting in Tazmania another tourist on a tour bus asked us if we knew whether dandelions were edible or not. We responded that they must be, they're greens, aren't they. Bingo! That made our trip a lot more interesting. That was one intro phrase that never got outed.

It was up to us individually to use a phrase or not, to wear our pendant or not as we felt at the time and with whom we felt there might be a connection. The other person was free to respond or not to respond so it was a win-win way of making contact.

Maybe today's swingers ought to consider some harmless contact methods. You might be surprised who responds.

[cocpl2007]

Originally Posted by des1re06

We were first approached by a couple at a non-swing resort in another country. We had no idea what swinging was, so we passed. That conversation led to alot of interesting fantasy talk.

We talked about it for years before we signed up, and it all started with that one couple who took a chance to approach us.

Ok, Mrs. D you've opened up a whole Pandora's Box worth of questions, but we'll only ask one...and like all these, you sure don't have to answer if you are uncomfortable. Here goes:

"...non-swing resort in another country." Then you talked about it for "years" and still had the ability to re-connect with this same couple? Inquiring minds...are curious!

The Co's

[des1re06]

Somehow, we tend to make friends that last for years, and we keep in touch.

My main point was that you can meet friends anywhere, not just swing events.

Mrs. D

[Opportunists]

We met a HOT couple at a college football tailgate last season. We thought they might swing, but didn't know how to come out and ask... so eventually I said, "you look familiar... did we happen to see you at Collette's?"

[Collette's is a club in New Orleans]

They gave us a sly smile and said "maybe".

We're still good 'friends' with them...

[JustAskJulie]

When I was younger I had a few instances to meet playmates in non-swinging ways...

1. A couple we became good friends with for several years we met through the amateur site I used to run (which I guess could be borderline swinging means). Actually there were 2 couples we met because of that site... one couple were members of the site and came to one of our amateur girl M&Gs and then became good friends with us. The other was another couple that also had an amateur site... also met them at an amateur girl M&G.

2. When I was taking college classes I met a guy and we hit it off. One thing led to another and he found out I was bi. The next day I was having a threesome with him and his girlfriend.

[awesomecplmn]

Originally Posted by oncewere

In the group we belonged to we used several phrases that meant ordinary things to the outsiders but clearly identified us as members........asked us if we knew whether dandelions were edible or not. We responded that they must be, they're greens, aren't they. Bingo!

Maybe today's swingers ought to consider some harmless contact methods. You might be surprised who responds.

I LOVE this idea. Very cool.

[hornykat74]

Mr Kat met a girl at a work training session that he thought looked familiar, and a little flirting occurred....when he got home he searched through the couples from our local area on AMM and found her and her husband on there. We sent them a message through the site letting them know who we were.

I have never met her, and the couple has since split so they are no longer obviously swinging, but there were plans to meet up and see how things go prior to that happening. Mr Kat meets up with her at work for coffee occasionally and we've invited her over for dinner when she gets back from another training course she's on at the moment...not for swinging but for a bit of support with the recent split.

Not sure if it really counts but it's the closest we've had!

Cheers, Mrs Kat

[sunrise_sunset]

the manager of our neighborhood grocery store watched us playing in a hospitality suite at a hotel party here in the area a few years back. Our little secret.....