Etiquette Question - Oral sex during/after intercourse

[jjtrindc]

My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for a while mostly as exhibitionists and voyeurs...but have just recently moved into soft swap with other couples. During a recent experience a situation occurred that left us a bit puzzled on "proper etiquette." After a couple of rounds of oral sex (giving and receiving) with our new friends, my wife and I began having sex. Now we often swap in and out of sex and oral sex during a given session. No big deal. As we were doing our thing the other couple was watching (at that point the Mr. was no longer active) and my wife whispered if I wanted the Mrs. to give me oral sex again.

Quite frankly, the question left me stumped. Well, not stumped. Of course I wanted her to give me oral sex again. But I wasn't sure about her given the fact that I was just having sex with my wife.

What do other women feel about giving oral sex to a man who has just been having sex with his wife (or another partner for that matter). Should we keep a towel available? Should my wife give me a quick oral clean up? So just curious on what the general "consensus" out there is. Thanks!

(p.s. I should also note that my mrs. is straight so this couple and our what looks to be our new playmates are both straight so their is no oral sex between the ladies)

[Chicup]

I've love to see this question in 'Dear Abby'

Anyhow...

I think the issue would be entirely up to the other woman. Normally in soft swap situations, once we start having sex with each other, we are done swapping.

Some are going to think its super hot and sexy to do that sort of thing, others will think its disgusting, and I'm sure your mileage will vary.

As a man I don't like going down on a woman after another man has been inside her. Its an 'ick' factor for me, I'm sure others don't care or even like it and will post of their love of 'cream pies' and the ubiquitous emoticon that seems to always follow those post.

[SecretAsianMan]

I think the etiquette here is to simply ask the couple if it she would like to join y'all ... she could always refuse if its not her thing.

[JustAskJulie]

Given the women are both straight, I don't see them wanting to taste the other one on your cock, so I'd say keep something handy to clean up with, or have your wife clean you off (in some form or another) before SHE offers you up to the other woman again... and I do think she should be the one to invite the other woman back into the mix.

Or perhaps instead of going the route of having her go down on you again, since the other couple wasn't playing with each other you could maneuver your position so that you could continue fucking your wife and eat the other woman out at the same time.

[two42lovers]

you could maneuver your position so that you could continue fucking your wife and eat the other woman out at the same time.

Very hot! Then her hubby could put his cock in her mouth. Yummy fun! We love to go back and forth between oral and fucking, do four-way chains, and switch between partners. The best thing about swinging is doing all the things we can't do 1-on-1.

Towels and wipes, and taking quick freshen-up showers are a great way to go. In the situation the OP describes, it's real easy for the guy to clean up with a towel before offering his cock to the other woman. At a party, it's always nice to take a quick shower inbetween, before playing with someone else.

[couplers]

Hi, Petra here. Hubby and I don't really swing like most couples on this site, we have our playmates on the side. I started first (actually never ended a previous relationship) with my one and only other and we occasionally do MFM with him. Hubby started later with a series (now up to number four) of one-at-a-time lovers. These women were and still are all friends of mine, but the first two women wouldn't even let me watch. What turned me on to an incredible level of lust, jealousy, love and desire for him, however, was when he would come home from being with her and I would immediately suck him up to an erection so we could have intercourse. The smell, the taste, the idea of me sucking his dick after he had been inside another woman was an incredible turn on for me. I thought it couldn't get any more arousing, until of course friend number three then number four were comfortable with me watching them and I got to take David in my mouth immediately after he came and withdrew from her vagina. The girls don't understand it and I'm not bi (except for one friend neither of us ever did), but it is my ultimate turn-on.

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Given the women are both straight, I don't see them wanting to taste the other one on your cock, so I'd say keep something handy to clean up with, or have your wife clean you off (in some form or another) before SHE offers you up to the other woman again... and I do think she should be the one to invite the other woman back into the mix.

Or perhaps instead of going the route of having her go down on you again, since the other couple wasn't playing with each other you could maneuver your position so that you could continue fucking your wife and eat the other woman out at the same time.

Have to agree with Julie here. There are times I wouldn't want to suck my husband off if he's been inside someone else. Hell, I'm even bi.