Playmates vs. partner(s)

[watchem_wiggle]

so just out of curiosity (I'm new to the lifestyle and have questions, like evryone I guess) I was wondering if people tend to go more for playmates that resemble the type their partner(s) fall in (same body type, hair/eye color, ethnicity...) or is swinging more of a chance to "diversify" for others?

I know my wife has mentioned to me before that the women I point out to her in public look nothing like her and had wondered if she was my type at all...

My thought on it is that i really don't have a "type" per se...to me physical beauty is the sum of all parts....and yes dear, she looks nothing like you because she's asian.......or covered in tattoos with a nose ring.....don't take it personally

we've had no physical interaction with others yet, so I can't really give myself an answer as far as my "preference" for playmates or hers, but I was intreagued what others thought of the subject.

[slevin]

I go for whoever I am attracted to, both physically and mentally. This can be a very wide range of different women ranging from girls who are similar to Katrina (curvy, sensual, not overweight nor skinny), to small and thin asians, to athletic types and even a few women that are considered overweight. If I am aroused by their look, their attitude and their personality then I'll go for them.

A lot of times a great attitude will make a girl far more attractive to me. I'm not an "all personality looks dont matter" kind of person; there has to be some physical attraction, but a wicked attitude and personality definitely play a large part.

[willyoats]

I vote for diversified. This is not intentional, but purely by chance my partners have been the full range from beautiful to homely (but with wonderful personality), from very thin and weak to amazingly strong, body building types, from very smart and intellectual to vapid and dummer than our cat's litter box.

My wife is much more attractive than average, so if I only wanted to choose partners like her, I would have a pretty dull swinging life.

[jjtrindc]

For us it's a mixture of diversity and curiosity. We're still fairly new to the lifestlye and my wife had little sexual experience prior to us dating and getting married. She's curious about what other men look and feel like. I enjoy how different women respond. Heck, you never know what new techniques you may learn, lol! Sure, we all have "types" and looks are important to us, but it's also about how we connect mentally and sexual vibe we get.

[fun4Ds]

I know we thought we might be able to pick who our partners might be interested in... Truth is we are never close

How about in reverse are you close to picking who she would like ?

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by watchem_wiggle

I was wondering if people tend to go more for playmates that resemble the type their partner(s) fall in (same body type, hair/eye color, ethnicity...) or is swinging more of a chance to "diversify" for others?

We love the diversity that swinging allows us. My husband loves to look at women who are skinnier than I am, heavier than I am and everything in between. He loves women -- period. He loves sex. He's in heaven when we swing. (what makes me happy is when he's having the time of his life!) Ok...to be fair, we both love sex and it really is great when there is a such a plethora of minds, bodies, personalities, smiles, ideas, experience to choose from.

[SecretAsianMan]

Y'know ... I've never really thought about it. I'm attracted to many different types - so I don't stick to any one particular "type" (although many of the people I run across in the lifestyle are usually of one racial group or another -- but I believe that's more to do with geography and the diversity of the area than any preferences on my part)

[sahajacpl]

To us swinging is all about diversity of sex partners, whether by body type, looks or ethnicity, not necessarily about playing with and fucking someone who looks and behaves exactly like your own spouse. Such a choice of potential sex partner could be quite boring and/or impossible to find.

Assuming there is sexual attraction and compatibility, it is best to go for, play with and fuck the partner of your choice, if you are in a group setting. If you are going to swap mates with another couple, then it is best to make sure that you are both on the same page, i.e., you the male would love to play with and sink your cock in the female's pussy to fuck her, and, she would likewise love to play with and ultimately engulf the man's penis with her pussy so he can fuck her to orgasm. The key is how both of you feel about fucking the potential partner, assuming you are into full swap mode, meaning all sexual activities upto and including intercourse are game.

[BiloxiCouple]

I/we want variety.

If I ran across another woman that looked like my wife that would be pretty boring. Ooops, did I say that out loud?

Really, it is about the variety.

[ViSexual]

I remeber one time when my wife 'nixed' a couple, saying the guy was just too much like me.

I hadn't really thought of it until then, but, when I checked him out better he and I were a lot alike in looks and personality.

She just wasn't interested in 'another' me I guess. LOL!

Too bad too because the wife was hot as hell!

[JustAskJulie]

I have a pretty broad variety of what attracts me. There are certain features on guys that will often attract me quicker than others, but few that will instantly turn me off (as I've said in other threads, bad (I don't know how to brush) teeth, and guys who win the dicky-do award. I don't mind bigger guys, but I hate dancing up against a guy and all I can feel is his stomach against me. Women are a whole different thing, there are few women I am instantly attracted to and I'd say for the most part it's probably a vibe that they put off more than a look.

[Edison Carter]

Infinite diversity in infinite combinations.