Trying to conceive, should we still swing?

mr_n_mrs_oz · 08-01-2008, 11:42 PM

So here goes. My husband and I are swingers but currently we are trying to conceive and have been trying since November without an results. Its me not him, so therefore I am seeing a fertility specialist and am on fertility meds we are really eerie about swapping with a couple due to me not being on BC and can easily get pregnant (let's be honest we all know condoms break) I guess I am asking for opinions would you risk it and swap or would you only have sex with females (I am bi) or would you soft swap (everything but sex?)

jdavisauto · 08-01-2008, 11:48 PM

Sex with other women and soft swap would be find. If we was trying to have a baby then She would not go full swap and have intercourse with another man. Good luck to you both with your new child.

***JustAskJulie*** · 08-01-2008, 11:49 PM

do you really want to end up questioning the paternity of your child when you do get pregnant? I wouldn't want that worry. If it were me, I'd put swinging on hold till after you concieve so there are no questions. Then once you are pregnant that's one less thing to worry about.

**cplnuswing** · 08-02-2008, 12:53 AM

We wouldn't risk it. As you point out, condoms can and do break.

sweet_tna · 08-02-2008, 01:40 AM

I wouldn't want to take that chance. But best of luck to ya'll with the fertility treatments.

=)

**Alura** · 08-02-2008, 06:13 AM

We simply quit playing altogether when we were trying to conceive. The fun is not worth the risk.

Mrs. Alura quit the pill but we went several months without conceiving. Our doctor told us to wait a couple of more months and if nothing happened, she'd start tests. The next month the test was positive. Patience is the key.

Mr. Alura

**two4youinswva** · 08-02-2008, 06:55 AM

I wouldn't even "soft swing" if I were you.
That way you remove the temptation to do more than that.

Why take the chance?

jjtrindc · 08-02-2008, 07:36 AM

The swinging lifestyle will be there once you've had your new baby. Be with your husband and get busy...lol

Another thing to consider is that once you get pregnant, you probably will not be that interested in playing, which mean you'll have to say "good bye" to your new friends. I also agree that the risk just isn't worth it. Having a baby is one of the most special times in your life, why have any doubts?

des1re06 · 08-02-2008, 08:28 AM

I wish you luck in your conception! Children are a joy and a privilege.

I'd have to put my baby and their health first. My sexuality can wait.

Mrs. D

vegaskid · 08-02-2008, 09:07 AM

If you still want to swing, go soft-swap, unless you don't care who knocks you up.

onenastyday · 08-02-2008, 09:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by vegaskid

If you still want to swing, go soft-swap, unless you don't care who knocks you up.

I would recommend soft swap.

mr_n_mrs_oz · 08-02-2008, 10:27 AM

Which I do care who knocks me up lol I am married

And we have been trying for over 9 months now and thank you guys for the kind words

**LFM2** · 08-02-2008, 10:40 AM

Yeah, I thought you answered your own questions pretty well. Reading all the answers just reaffirmed my thought.

Chicup · 08-02-2008, 12:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mr_n_mrs_oz

So here goes. My husband and I are swingers but currently we are trying to conceive and have been trying since November without an results. Its me not him, so therefore I am seeing a fertility specialist and am on fertility meds we are really eerie about swapping with a couple due to me not being on BC and can easily get pregnant (let's be honest we all know condoms break) I guess I am asking for opinions would you risk it and swap or would you only have sex with females (I am bi) or would you soft swap (everything but sex?)

Ok time for Chicup tough love.

This is perhaps one of the stupidest questions ever on this board.

Its monumentally stupid.

Its like a giant landfill of stupid, releasing stupid gas which needs to be lit lest the stupid leak out and consume us all in a miasma of stupidity.

What the hell are you even thinking about full swapping while on fertility drugs? Hello?

You know whats better than triplets? Triplets that are not your husbands.

I know I'm being an asshole but please use your head. Are you so consumed by the lust for swinging that your husband doesn't mind raising another mans child or two, or three?

Likewise will you tell your play partners that you may be 'ultra' fertile? I personally love kids but I don't want any to introduce themselves to me 20 years down the road when they figure out they are not really their fathers.

Don't even THINK of full swapping. In fact sit down and think about whats more important to you, random sex with strangers or having a normal happy family.

This just makes me angry.

VegasLee · 08-02-2008, 01:07 PM

Did I miss something or does common sense come in to play here anywhere?

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08-01-2008, 11:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
mr_n_mrs_oz Registered Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 7 Location: COS, CO Status: Couple SLS Name:Mr_n_mrs_oz	Trying to conceive, should we still swing? So here goes. My husband and I are swingers but currently we are trying to conceive and have been trying since November without an results. Its me not him, so therefore I am seeing a fertility specialist and am on fertility meds we are really eerie about swapping with a couple due to me not being on BC and can easily get pregnant (let's be honest we all know condoms break) I guess I am asking for opinions would you risk it and swap or would you only have sex with females (I am bi) or would you soft swap (everything but sex?)

08-01-2008, 11:48 PM	#2 (permalink)
jdavisauto Together we are one Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 346 Location: Las Vegas Status: couple SLS Name:jdavisauto	Re: I had no idea where to put this... Sex with other women and soft swap would be find. If we was trying to have a baby then She would not go full swap and have intercourse with another man. Good luck to you both with your new child. __________________ Stop laughing or I WILL put my clothes back on.

08-01-2008, 11:49 PM	#3 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,307 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Re: I had no idea where to put this... do you really want to end up questioning the paternity of your child when you do get pregnant? I wouldn't want that worry. If it were me, I'd put swinging on hold till after you concieve so there are no questions. Then once you are pregnant that's one less thing to worry about.

08-02-2008, 12:53 AM	#4 (permalink)
cplnuswing Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 599 Location: Georgia Status: couple SLS Name:gawildstreak	Re: I had no idea where to put this... We wouldn't risk it. As you point out, condoms can and do break.

08-02-2008, 01:40 AM	#5 (permalink)
sweet_tna Being good is overrated Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2,930 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet SLS Name:Sweet_tna	Re: I had no idea where to put this... I wouldn't want to take that chance. But best of luck to ya'll with the fertility treatments. =) __________________ I'd rather go to hell for doing something I enjoyed than die wondering what it's like.

08-02-2008, 06:13 AM	#6 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,126 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	Re: I had no idea where to put this... We simply quit playing altogether when we were trying to conceive. The fun is not worth the risk. Mrs. Alura quit the pill but we went several months without conceiving. Our doctor told us to wait a couple of more months and if nothing happened, she'd start tests. The next month the test was positive. Patience is the key. Mr. Alura __________________ "They may call me a rube and a hick, but I'd a lot rather be the man who bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the man who sold it." —Will Rogers

08-02-2008, 06:55 AM	#7 (permalink)
two4youinswva Better than Ice Cream Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 2,276 Location: va Status: Couple. He posts, She reads Blog Entries: 1	Re: I had no idea where to put this... I wouldn't even "soft swing" if I were you. That way you remove the temptation to do more than that. Why take the chance? __________________ The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do. -Walter Bagehot

08-02-2008, 07:36 AM	#8 (permalink)
jjtrindc Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 190 Location: Washington DC/NoVA Status: Couple SLS Name:jjtrindc	Re: I had no idea where to put this... The swinging lifestyle will be there once you've had your new baby. Be with your husband and get busy...lol Another thing to consider is that once you get pregnant, you probably will not be that interested in playing, which mean you'll have to say "good bye" to your new friends. I also agree that the risk just isn't worth it. Having a baby is one of the most special times in your life, why have any doubts?

08-02-2008, 08:28 AM	#9 (permalink)
des1re06 Great Times 1 Year Exp. Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,080 Location: East TN Status: Couple SLS Name:Des1re06	Re: I had no idea where to put this... I wish you luck in your conception! Children are a joy and a privilege. I'd have to put my baby and their health first. My sexuality can wait. Mrs. D

08-02-2008, 09:07 AM	#10 (permalink)
vegaskid Here to Stay Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 40 Location: Las Vegas Status: couple Blog Entries: 1	Re: I had no idea where to put this... If you still want to swing, go soft-swap, unless you don't care who knocks you up.

08-02-2008, 10:27 AM	#12 (permalink)
mr_n_mrs_oz Registered Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 7 Location: COS, CO Status: Couple SLS Name:Mr_n_mrs_oz	Re: I had no idea where to put this... Which I do care who knocks me up lol I am married And we have been trying for over 9 months now and thank you guys for the kind words

08-02-2008, 10:40 AM	#13 (permalink)
LFM2 Happy Fall, Y'all!! Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,850 Location: State of Confusion Status: Couple SLS Name:LFM2 Blog Entries: 4	Re: I had no idea where to put this... Yeah, I thought you answered your own questions pretty well. Reading all the answers just reaffirmed my thought. __________________ "One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other." Jane Austen

08-02-2008, 01:07 PM	#15 (permalink)
VegasLee Laura's Male Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 1,277 Location: Las Vegas, Nevada Status: Laura's Male	Re: I had no idea where to put this... Did I miss something or does common sense come in to play here anywhere? __________________ Lee Lifestyles News *Remember when Swinging was about having sex?*

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