Trying to conceive, should we still swing?

[two42lovers]

People don't come to SB to be called degrading names or to be told that simply asking something means they have no sense. A woman cannot get pregnant from soft swap or same sex play. Why is the OP automatically stupid, why does sharing her concerns/situation/desires mean she has no sense?

For the record, we agree with not full swapping, but she and her husband could have a memorable way to concieve their child.

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by two42lovers

People don't come to SB to be called degrading names or to be told that simply asking something means they have no sense. A woman cannot get pregnant from soft swap or same sex play. Why is the OP automatically stupid, why does sharing her concerns/situation/desires mean she has no sense?

I must have missed the degrading when reading the posts. I personally don't see one poster thinking an idea as stupid is the same as labeling someone as stupid. YMMV, obviously.

I thought people were responding very strongly to the thought of her actually swapping, which was one of her three options (with soft swap and bi being her other two options). By posting her request for opinions about what kind of activities she should participate in, she's opened herself to the fact that she will indeed get opinions - and obviously some strong ones. It's a tricky topic; I wouldn't expect any less of a response out of some of these posters.

Since she asked for opinions about risking it by having full blown intercourse versus bi or soft swap, my opinion is that if conceiving is the priority, leave the swinging out of it in order to not complicate things. No, I don't think it's a good idea at all to have intercourse. There are two other options out there if she still wants to swing. I personally wouldn't be doing anything if I were trying to get pregnant, because I just don't want the risk of any potential disease (STDs and the common cold and everything in between) while trying to conceive. If I wanted to be pregnant, then my health and my potential children comes first - and I don't need to add risk factors to that.

Good luck whatever your decision may be, Mrs. Oz.

[amid]

WE rode the fertility rollercoaster 10 years ago and it brought us a nice set of fraternal twins.. boy/girl. I would add that for the time, effort and money we devoted to fertility (5 years!) we would not want to risk impregnation by another during treatment. Play it safe and don't take a chance. On the other side of this.. we have 10 years and nine months of very frequent sex with no BC and no more pregnancies..