what mistake outted you?

[interested-05]

So far We have avoided being outted by either people we know or anything left on our computer. It will probably happen, but I'd like to know what mistakes people make and how to avoid the same mistakes. any suggestions?

[two4youinswva]

If you are worried about being outed, be very, very careful about which vanilla friends or family you tell your secret to.

While they may be very good at keeping your secrets, this is a Super Special Secret, and thus increases their need to tell someone. I mean, for most folks, finding out a friend actually swings is the ultimate gossip tidbit.

So, while they may be reliable, there's a good chance it will come up in pillow-talk with their spouse. Then, it's out, and the spouse may not be very discreet with this newfound knowledge.

[Opportunists]

Once we were trying a new club and they sent us the paperwork [rules, waivers, etc] to print, sign and bring with us when we arrived.

So, I printed them at home the saturday before the party... and they never showed up on the printer.

So, I printed them again... this time they printed fine, we signed them and had a great time at the club.

Monday I'm at the office and my boss brings in this paperwork with 'Nymphos Private Club for Consenting Adults' across the top.

'I just found this on the printer' he tells me.

It turns out our printer at the office receives jobs via IP address and I had accidentally sent my paperwork there online.

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by Opportunists

Monday I'm at the office and my boss brings in this paperwork with 'Nymphos Private Club for Consenting Adults' across the top.

'I just found this on the printer' he tells me.

It turns out our printer at the office receives jobs via IP address and I had accidentally sent my paperwork there online.

Holy.
Shit.


I can't imagine the Pucker Factor involved with that.

So, what was your response?

[Opportunists]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

Holy.
Shit.


I can't imagine the Pucker Factor involved with that.

So, what was your response?

I had no choice... I played it off like 'who the hell here did that?!?'.

Of course he knew it was mine... there's only two other people in this company, and they're both single... not the type to go to a club for couples. plus he knows i'm a freak. lol.

He threw the papers away without bringing it up to anyone else and I've not heard another word about it.

[JustAskJulie]

OUCH!

I've told this story a few times on here. Years ago I had my computer set up so that I had hotkeys linked to my signature lines for the various websites I ran at the time. I was in the habit of just hitting the hot key to add my sig line when I sent emails and one day I accidently hit it when sending an email to my mom.

Had it been the sig line for THIS site it might have been worse. Instead it was for my amateur site that I had at the time and I was able to backpeddle myself out of the "swinging" aspect of it somewhat...although for her the fact that I was a) getting naked on the web and b) saying I was a swinger and therefore potentially (since she didn't see it) having sex with others was plenty bad enough.

[kittyscave]

We recently went to Hedo II. My friends found out about that when I was drunk and let it slip out. So, they all assume it is just a swingers haven (which it is not entirely). Anyway, we have a relatively small group of vanilla friends. When we were in Hedo my husband sent an e-mail that basically just said we were having fun and the cell phone wasn't working. He sent the e-mail to our close circle of friends, all of whom know one another, and one of our swinging friends. So, after he stammered a bit too much when they asked who this other WOMAN was he was corresponding with, they just reached their own conclusions.

So, now some are jealous, some are curious, and one has since begun to flirt mercilessly with me. But, thankfully, no one has shut us out.

[BiloxiCouple]

Being Outed This is a similar thought process I believe.

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

Afraid of being outed? Then there is probably a list you should follow -
Don't use your real name.
Don't submit photos on line.
Don't do interviews.
Stay in the dark.
Don't play in your hometown.
Rent a car.
Don't use your credit card at a Club/Social.

Originally Posted by VegasLee

If you are really worried about being outed, don't swing.

From the above mentioned link.

The world is small. You will run into someone you know. Someone will figure out what you are doing. The real question is how are you going to react?

[cocpl2007]

Posting pictures on the sites did us in! Dahhhh now tell me, how many of us "Really" want to be discreet, yet post easily identifiable pictures on the web, many with faces included. To promote their sites, all of them allow anyone to view their photos, at least some of the photos that is.

[Opportunists]

This is one that didn't happen to us, but is worth mentioning because there's a good lesson in there:

Mrs. Opps works at the largest employer in our small-sized city. They hire a lot of women to work there...

One of the vice-presidents of this company is an active swinger. We know him and his wife fairly well through meeting at lifestyle events. This guy is a handsome guy with a lot of charm, and according to my wife, all the ladies up there love him and they flirt quite often.

It turns out he was actively courting one of the young ladies at the company to join him and his wife in some play. She was initially receptive to these advances, and he evidently showed her their photos, and in doing so his profile, on Swing Lifestyle.

Well... somehow he royally pissed off this girl and she proceeded to spread it around the company that the VP had pictures on a swinger site... and everyone had to check it out.

Then, she filed a complaint with HR.

At the end of the day, the guy ended up taking a demotion. The only thing that saved his job is that he had been with the company since day one and has a skill that only a handful of ppl in the world possess.

[Ed & Bunny]

I think it had something to with wearing a "Wifeswappers club" t-shirt. LOL

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by cocpl2007

Posting pictures on the sites did us in! Dahhhh now tell me, how many of us "Really" want to be discreet, yet post easily identifiable pictures on the web, many with faces included. To promote their sites, all of them allow anyone to view their photos, at least some of the photos that is.

My wife and I are concerned about being outed. We're not paranoid, but we do take reasonable steps. One of them is we simply do not post face pics online, and we don't even send face pics to anyone.

Now, for some couples, that means we'll never meet them. C'est la vie. We want to be in control of the images of us being tossed around.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by Opportunists

At the end of the day, the guy ended up taking a demotion. The only thing that saved his job is that he had been with the company since day one and has a skill that only a handful of ppl in the world possess.

Yeah. How to be stupid in one easy step. Of course, being stupid is not reserved to a few select humans

I would never, ever, ever attempt something with a co-worker. That's just asking for trouble in bucket loads. Even worse, attempting something with a co-worker who is lower in position. Bad, bad juju.

[navyflyer]

My wife caught me..ONLY KIDDING, don't have one.

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I was in the habit of just hitting the hot key to add my sig line when I sent emails and one day I accidently hit it when sending an email to my mom.

This "oops" most of all, makes me glad my mom doesn't own a computer!