Is sex visual?

[herpob]

Originally Posted by Chicup

The conventional wisdom is that men are more visually stimulated with sex than women are.

Women look for status, power, wealth, or attributes which can lead to such things such as intelligence, confidence, charisma.

Women are not looking for a long term relationship in swinging; women are looking for a fuck toy.

On a personal note, the focus on looks in swinging by the women is why I've been hitting the weight bench and dropping the love handles. If I want to have sex with women I find sexually attractive, I need to be physically attractive to them as well.

Originally Posted by ownerspet

I'm not going to try to speak for women, but I know men are more visual than women..

However, there are 2 things that add up to that level of attraction: 1. Is obviously physical attraction, but 2. is what comes across in someone's personality in how a woman carries herself and interacts.

Well, I don't so I don't know why. I'd be interested in seeing if there are any individuals that will speak up that will have sex with anything that is available.

I tend to agree with Chicup on the physical looks and ownerspet – I feel men are more into that in initially. I am definitely more into their intelligence, confidence, and charisma, how they carry themselves, and interact, though how a person looks when having sex can attract me as well. I know men who are not gorgeous until they are pounding you. I know men who are hot as heck when they pull out their manhood. How the men act and approach me is attractive. So looks play a part in it for me as a woman but it is more about how they carry themselves and represent themselves than the physical looks. I’d say 50/50 on this.

Now about the men being more visual with respect to sexual acts, I would say I am as visual as any male would be. I absolutely LOOOOVE to see sex, watch sex, have sex and watch sex. I love to be up close and personal watching sex or be in the middle of it, but I love to see it. Of course I need to feel it, touch it, but I like to see it as well most of the time. I’d say 80% on this.

As for women not being into swinging for relationship – that is a definite for me. Friendships are a part of it but NOTHING beyond that. Sex is sex is sex with our friends and we work really hard at not letting anything else creep in. I know it happens, I’ve seen it destroy groups, couples, etc. but so far we have not had it happen in our group. We are good friends because over time you will develop that, we all trust one another, but as far as I know everyone is happy with their families. The men just all like more sex than most of the women and we gals are fine with that, so a few of us provide more than the others. I for certain love having extra fucktoys and my husband is happy for me so are the wives who don't want to do it but so often.

I will not have sex with just anyone. I do love men, I do love their bodies, I do love penises, and cum and I will do pretty much anything with and for a guy but I keep it within our group.

Now CERTAINLY there are men out there like this “Well, I don't so I don't know why. I'd be interested in seeing if there are any individuals that will speak up that will have sex with anything that is available” ownerspet.

LOL - I am curious about these people as well…anyone???

[JustAskJulie]

I definately won't have sex with just about anything that moves... or even close to it. I'm pretty picky. When it comes to initial (across the room) attraction yes it's 100% visual, but typically I will have at least a short conversation with someone before I have sex with them, and in that conversation HOT can become NOT very quickly or OK can become HOT... all depending on the personality, attitude, voice, etc.

I'd say sex is more like 60% visual... that other 40% can either make or break a person.

[widowerman]

How about “pity sex”? Anyone ever do it just because it seemed necessary?

[WeUse]

One of my friends who went all around the world never using any kind of protection at all, got home, took pity on this poor wallflower, and donated a mercy fuck. Wouldn't you know, on that one occasion he contracted the worst possible STD!

Maybe shallow and selfish is good?

[magnum]

Originally Posted by widowerman

OK, I have two serious questions.

Is sex 90% visual? As in, the object of your affection has to be great looking, good looking, somewhat good looking, who the hell is looking?

Second, question: would you have sex with just about anything that is available?
Second question, part B: And if you do, why?

I would have to say yes to the first question: I am a very visual person and the better looking the better for me.

Second question: it depends on how long it has been and how many beers I have had...not to be shallow but it is what it is...

[SecretAsianMan]

Originally Posted by widowerman

OK, I have two serious questions.

Is sex 90% visual? As in, the object of your affection has to be great looking, good looking, somewhat good looking, who the hell is looking?

I think some aspects of sex are definately visual - but for me... I doubt it's anything quite as high as 90%. I would guess and say - 40% visual. A really great personality... the right attitude... a particular way that she moves or a "style" she has can go a long way towards adding to my overall attraction to a person. And let's not forget the emotional bonds which I may have with a person...

Originally Posted by widowerman

Second, question: would you have sex with just about anything that is available?
Second question, part B: And if you do, why?

Well... I like to think I'm a LITTLE pickier than that! While sexual availability can certainly grab my attention, I need a lot more than just a heartbeat and a warm hole.