First Times

Vegas Trixi · 07-18-2008, 10:02 PM

Hello, I am new here and I was hoping to find a women that has had the same experience I have. My new husband introduced me to this lifestyle 2 yrs ago and I have enjoyed every aspect of it. We have "played" a little with other couples but nothing repetitive. We meet a couple visiting our area and had drinks. Everything went well, so a couple of nights later we introduced them to one of our locale clubs. I REALLY hit it off with him. Wow! My husband, not so much with her and she seemed to feel the same. That was fine, they were not married, only traveling together. Fine, we meet again with only him for a 3some. Again, Wow! Now I love my husband like no other man I have ever had in my life. But there was differentially something there with this other man.
He was gentle, respectful, concerned with my comfort and safety. Again, my husband is also all of this. But I think because it came from another man, I felt sexier then norm.
I also think this is the type of thing that happens when a patient falls for her doctor. It's not really the man, it's the moment. I'm hoping another women, who loves her husband more then life, as I do, has experienced something like this. I feel guilty and don't think I should. Just need another opinion...

**fun4Ds** · 07-18-2008, 10:24 PM

Welcome to the Swingers Board Vegas Trixi

I'm the male half here but I have to say, I like the way you put down your thoughts.

Makes perfect sense even to a guy like me. Join in anytime with the discussions around here

***JustAskJulie*** · 07-19-2008, 11:40 AM

I think some of it is the newness as well. It's not love so much as infatuation with something new. As long as you can understand where it's coming from and keep it in check to understand that it's nothing more than that and not allow yourself to get carried away with it, all is good. But, you should probably let your husband know what is going on in your head as well, so that he an also keep an eye out and keep you in check as well.

Vegas Trixi · 07-19-2008, 03:02 PM

Husband knows all. I have told him how I feel and he basically has said the same thing. He is not upset with any of it and is telling me it is normal. I was just looking for another women that may have gone through this when she was new to the lifestyle. I thank everyone for their answers, they were all very helpful.

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07-18-2008, 10:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
Vegas Trixi Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 2 Location: Las Vegas Status: Couple	First Times Hello, I am new here and I was hoping to find a women that has had the same experience I have. My new husband introduced me to this lifestyle 2 yrs ago and I have enjoyed every aspect of it. We have "played" a little with other couples but nothing repetitive. We meet a couple visiting our area and had drinks. Everything went well, so a couple of nights later we introduced them to one of our locale clubs. I REALLY hit it off with him. Wow! My husband, not so much with her and she seemed to feel the same. That was fine, they were not married, only traveling together. Fine, we meet again with only him for a 3some. Again, Wow! Now I love my husband like no other man I have ever had in my life. But there was differentially something there with this other man. He was gentle, respectful, concerned with my comfort and safety. Again, my husband is also all of this. But I think because it came from another man, I felt sexier then norm. I also think this is the type of thing that happens when a patient falls for her doctor. It's not really the man, it's the moment. I'm hoping another women, who loves her husband more then life, as I do, has experienced something like this. I feel guilty and don't think I should. Just need another opinion...

07-18-2008, 10:24 PM	#2 (permalink)
fun4Ds Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 2,961 Location: Indiana. Status: couple SLS Name:mrmrsfun Blog Entries: 15	Re: First Times Welcome to the Swingers Board Vegas Trixi I'm the male half here but I have to say, I like the way you put down your thoughts. Makes perfect sense even to a guy like me. Join in anytime with the discussions around here __________________ well... at least we are normal pervs

07-19-2008, 11:40 AM	#3 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,307 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Re: First Times I think some of it is the newness as well. It's not love so much as infatuation with something new. As long as you can understand where it's coming from and keep it in check to understand that it's nothing more than that and not allow yourself to get carried away with it, all is good. But, you should probably let your husband know what is going on in your head as well, so that he an also keep an eye out and keep you in check as well.

07-19-2008, 03:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
Vegas Trixi Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 2 Location: Las Vegas Status: Couple	Re: First Times Husband knows all. I have told him how I feel and he basically has said the same thing. He is not upset with any of it and is telling me it is normal. I was just looking for another women that may have gone through this when she was new to the lifestyle. I thank everyone for their answers, they were all very helpful.

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