We'd prefer a threesome, but we'll settle for a foursome

[Menage_a_Trois]

I have to agree with Julie, GT & Mrs. GT on this........we've been in a similar situation as well and I get EXTREMELY pissed off when people try carving out only one half of a couple be the female or the male..........we are a packaged set!!!!!!!!! It's like cuff links - you get 2 to the set..............

I also thought like Julie about changing my profile to straight instead of bi because of the headaches that go along with it............while I like girl/girl play it's rare that I find a woman that "I'M" really that into for me to want to do girl/girl with...........but that's just me................

[gatorvol64]

Julie, I'd have interpreted it the same way. Even a hint that Gator or Tech wouldn't be wanted would have me reacting the same way. Or vise versa.

Vol

[iapr]

I'm definately with Julie on this one. I will accept that the people in question may be nice people and maybe they do enjoy couple/couple activities and maybe they would be accomadating people, the fact that they were to word it in that manner would really cause me to wonder if they would show the proper amount of respect and dignity to a couple. If someone had any interest or respect for male halves of couples at all they would never have said something like that.

When I read something like that my gut instinct tells me it is just some greesy guy that wants to bag some other chick so bad he'll put up with whatever it takes to get another female in his house.

[socolais]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Actually, no I don't think we might have pulled the plug too soon. Our instinct was to pull the plug after their first contact (when we looked at their profile and saw that they were a) a lot further away than we'd be likely to go to meet someone, b)only interested in females from their profile. But, like I said they were attractive so we did give them the benefit of the doubt and wrote them back letting them know that their profile left us a bit confused.

What killed it completely was the wording of their response:
. As much the "who wouldn't" as the rest of the response. Had their been more to the profile/email response stating that they actually did enjoy swapping with couples, etc, I might have agreed with you, but that wasn't the case.

Ya know, I read back over my first post here after it got cold and it kind of sounded to me like I was questioning your judgement about who you would be interested in getting to know. I didn't intend for it to come across like that at all, in fact, I'm a strong believer in following the "gut feeling" or "women's intuition".

I think I just saw that from the perspective of having recieved the "not compatable" email and wondering what misunderstanding may have caused it. I think it's amazing how the stars sometimes fall into allignment with more significance to some than to others.

[dhm2008]

we second the motion of telling them to kiss off real fast, we are a couple a package deal and that's the way we want it. as for single men if you don't have a female partner don't bother. that our statement. what's your's?

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by socolais

I think I just saw that from the perspective of having recieved the "not compatable" email and wondering what misunderstanding may have caused it. I think it's amazing how the stars sometimes fall into allignment with more significance to some than to others.

I can definately understand that. We've all been there and wondered "why" but in the end does it really matter "why". I tend towards not replying a lot of times when there's no interest, but if any exchange back and forth has begun I feel like I have to. On the receiving end, I think I'd just as soon not get a response either than to get a "no thank you" or "we're not compatible" because when you get those you really can't help but wonder "why?" even if just for a moment. But, it's only a moment and then I hit delete and move on.

In this case, it's not that any real interest was expressed from our side at any point. They emailed us with interest, we emailed back with a question to clarify what they were looking for, and responded to their clarification with a statement of non-interest. Now, I could have cleared any question of why we weren't interested with my initial "knee-jerk" response, but I TRY not to be mean or rude (I know it doesn't always work, as I've proven here a few times).

[ktimephoenix]

Originally Posted by slevin

We have met a few couples who said they were looking for couples/single girls, but when we got talking to them the vibe was very much that they were mostly interested in Katrina and were just taking me because they had to. Definitely a crappy and rude vibe to get from someone

We've found the same vibe almost every time we've gone out. probably because Mrs P is so open about her (bi) sexuality. We had one couple that were playing with "us" (actually mrs P) in the spa, and when i moved closer to the F of the couple, they trundled out the whole "oh we're not comfortable with other guys touching her"... meanwhile he had his hands all over Mrs P...

[Edison Carter]

Susan here--On changing your profile: Never change how you describe yourself. Never indulge the delusional.

With profiles you will always get emails from people who don't seem to 'get it'. We always just move on. We never try to correct them or fix them. You cannot fix 'stupid' and I won't fuck 'stupid' either.

Lastly, that whole,'gotta have justa girl' thing is so laden with potential drama. Whether the truth is she's just fulfilling his fantasy, she has to be persuaded into sex with another man, etc. It just seems that such people are sexually immature.

Life is too short

[it'sso]

Back when my love and I were in the lifestyle, it wasn't unusual for couples to find my lovely wife more appealing than me. It never bothered us, unless they tried to get something going, without my knowledge. It was just such events that caused us to drop out.