Telling close friends that you're swinging?

[jdavisauto]

"yes but he never had 3 keycards, a home alarm, 3 seperate email clients, 4 chat forum logins, and two mobile phones to remember the passwords to"



LOL, You do have a point.

[knb2004]

Anybody who is judgmental enough to not be trusted with the information about our lifestyle is not deserving of the title of "a close friend of mine". That having been said, we've been swinging more or less since the beginning of our relationship, so that's a little different than deciding to jump in after 20 years of marriage, having never even considered the idea previously.

[Chitowndk4u]

Originally Posted by ktimephoenix

we have/had a friend like this. she would be more eager than us about our potential hook ups etc. that was until our first full swap. she pressed for details, and the whole "enormity" of it hit her. since then she's only showed interest in our swing lives in the hope that it's tearing us apart, or that we're not as into it/we're going to quit.

for instance, she "innocently" drove past our house early sunday morning to see if we were at a party. she saw the car home and assumed we were home, so texted us, saying "called past your house because we were in the area (*we know that's not true, our place is so far out the way of ANYTHING that she'd had to go out of her way to call past*), noticed you were home... how come you haven't gone to a swingers party in a while? has it got too much for you guys"... our reply "we're at one right now, we got a lift from the couple we hooked up with on friday night". needless to say, we haven't heard from her since

Luckily, this person is a sexually open person also and was even talking about going to a swing party with us when she comes home.

She is actually very cool with it. And she wants the best for us and loves that we are exploring the lifestyle.

[dmandfw]

our family does not know we swing, and at our places of employment do not, but we are members of a local nudist club that is "friendly" as long as it is behind closed doors...there is a lot of friends that swing there and thoes that dont, know we do... not a secret that we particpate.

[LFM2]

We haven't told anyone. Just like I wouldn't talk to my children about my sex life, I'm not about to blab to anyone else about it, either. Unless of course you're one of our swinger friends who know us Oh So Well!

Our oldest daughter knows because she seen our profile on AFF. Nothing mindblowing there.

[slevin]

Originally Posted by LFM2

Our oldest daughter knows because she seen our profile on AFF. Nothing mindblowing there.

How difficult a conversation was that? We don't have any kids, but I imagine that was not the most comfortable and fun conversation!

[jjmcd]

Absolutely the Truth. Vanilla cannot keep mouth shut, and once you are "outed" someone will always be asking you "Who else?"
and they will feel absolutely offended if you don't answer.

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by slevin

How difficult a conversation was that? We don't have any kids, but I imagine that was not the most comfortable and fun conversation!

I started to laugh when I thought back on this. She called me up and she said, "OH MY GOD, my parents are swingers?!!!?!!!?" (She said that more as an exclamation than a question) Believe me, I didn't laugh then.

I think my stomach did a few rollovers, but I did answer her honestly and told her, "Yep". She is quite a wild child herself. She's always been my most wild child and if anyone could accept this, it would be her. She happened to be on AFF looking for a male companion to share her time. Not as a swinger person. Even though we sat down and talked about it and I explained "why" we swing, she said she "just didn't get it", but if it floats our boat, she could care less.

We talk about it occasionally, but not very often. She's still trying to wrap her head around the whole "Sharing is fun" thing.