Swinger's skill set

[socolais]

I read an interesting comment that alluded to swinger's skills and the thought hit me in a funny "job application" kind of way. Now I'm wondering what skills belong on the list and how one might evaluate proficiency.

Swinger's skills:

• Meet & Greet small talk
• Flirting
• Negotiating rules & boundaries
• Inviting someone to play
• Requesting to join an active session
• Rejecting someone's offer
• Kissing and soothing touches
• Giving oral
• Receiving oral
• Donning protection
• Getting/maintaining an erection/natural lubrication
• Bumping nasties

What other "skills" belong on the list?

How do you predict the skills of a potential playmate?

What is the minimum skill set you'd consider viable?

Does an invitation for a second encounter qualify as a "performance review" for a swinger?

[ic7175]

acknowledges own limits
self aware
communicates well
willing to take some chances
has fun!!!

[ownerspet]

Originally Posted by socolais

Swinger's skills:[list][*]Meet & Greet small talk[*]Flirting

I don't have any additions currently, but I think I'm still developing the top two on your list.

[Menage_a_Trois]

Multitasking and working on mulitple's at one time........
Ability to effectively provide post hookup debriefing skills to partner...........
Party planning/Entertainment Director/Coordinator when entertaining...........

I know there are more but it's been a long day and Monday has whipped my ass ........................

Pam

[socolais]

Originally Posted by ownerspet

I don't have any additions currently, but I think I'm still developing the top two on your list.

I don't claim mastery of any of the listed skills and perhaps small talk is one of my weakest. But I do look at the pool of potential playmates at a party and wonder which one would be the most fun in bed. I guess some of those skills come into play, but I'm not exactly looking for mastery of any of those skills in a playmate - just an ability to communicate about what she wants and how she likes it. That doesn't mean I'll be able to deliver, but I'll give it my best shot. I think I also look for enthusiasm. If she wants to play, that trumps any skill mastery. Of course, a baseline proficiency with most of the applicable skills is somewhat assumed.

On the otherhand, multitasking is a cool challenge.

[gatorvol64]

Originally Posted by socolais

IDoes an invitation for a second encounter qualify as a "performance review" for a swinger?

Sounds good to me.

Vol

[cplnuswing]

Situational awareness - includes about everything from keeping the playdar tuned in to now would be a good time to go to the bathroom since there isn't a line

[ic7175]

satifaction from partner's fun

[JustAskJulie]

ability to read body language
skilled at lap dancing
ability to successfully transition from vanilla conversation to actual play

[lustylearning]

1) Trust of spouse
2) Confidence
3) Flexibility
4) Flexibility
5) Flexibility

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by lustylearning

1) Trust of spouse
2) Confidence
3) Flexibility
4) Flexibility
5) Flexibility

Please elaborate on your idea(s) with regard to 3, 4, and 5.

They could be all related to one thing, or to many things.

Thanks,

Thrax

[lustylearning]

Originally Posted by Thrax

Please elaborate on your idea(s) with regard to 3, 4, and 5.

They could be all related to one thing, or to many things.

Thanks,

Thrax

Flexibility relates to many things, but overall it means not limiting yourself to preconceptions - flexibility allows circumstances to reshape your potential enjoyment. Seldom do expectations at the beginning of the night reflect the reality at the end of the night. By the same token, opportunities are often missed by those who are rigid.

of course, physical flexibility never hurts

[Rockon]

Being able to knot a cherry stem with your tongue sure is not a bad thing either!

[sweet_tna]

How about erotic massage?
Creativity?
Positive attitude?
Ability to Tease (my specialty)?

=)

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by cplnuswing

Situational awareness - includes about everything from keeping the playdar tuned in to now would be a good time to go to the bathroom since there isn't a line

THIS!
The ability to time the bathroom visit is NOT to be underestimated!
My secret: Wait until the DJ plays a slow song. Everyone hits the floor, and the can is all yours.