You had fun, but aren't jumping at setting up another date.

[bellissima]

I'm just curious to see how others deal with this. Have you met with another couple and had a good time and things went fine, but aren't jumping at meeting with them again. What are your reasons for not wanting to meet again and how do you tell them?

[JustAskJulie]

It really depends on the situation, every one is different. If we aren't jumping to meet with them again it could be any number of reasons, and how we choose to handle it would be based on the individual reason. It might be that we aren't attracted to them, it might be that we feel we need a second chance to get to know them, maybe one of them was a little too drunk, or things just didn't click that night. We aren't looking for love here, so I don't see any situation being one where we go home and say "oh I can't wait to see them again". Yes, we may meet some that we would like to see again, but all in all swinging is a small part of our lives and many other things take priority over it.

[two42lovers]

You have two choices. Either you don't want to play with them again, or you are open (albeit mildly) to playing again - what you should do depends on whether you want to burn your bridges or not.

If you do want to burn bridges, say something like "We're not feeling we want to pursue an ongoing connection - hope you are cool with us being straight forward about it. You two are a lot of fun, and we do wish you the best sexy adventures!"

As to what our reasons might be, we never go there. We won't justify our choices or give reasons (as IF the reason has to be "good enough". We have no interest in someone judging our preferances. )

There are plenty of people we've played with once who were only marginally fun. Would we play with them again? Maybe - depends on the situation. If there are other people to play with who seem more interesting, we might never get back to someone who was only marginally fun. Even so, no reason to burn your bridges unless you are sure you don't want to see them again. Maybe we just got them on an off day?

[sweet_tna]

Yeah, we've been in that situation before. Sometimes it's because we've met someone else that we're more anxious to play with, and sometimes it's just that it was good but something was just . . . missing.

In both cases, our schedule was really crazy around that time, and we genuinely weren't available for awhile after. And in both cases, the other couple disappeared on us . . . it wasn't our intent to blow them off, but that may well be what they thought.

All you can do is be honest, or decide to give them another chance.

=)

[fun4Ds]

Are they asking you to meet again ?

Why dont you feel like you would want to meet them again ?

[lustylearning]

I can only think of a couple of situations when we've had a good time playing but then decided that playing again was not on the table. In both of those cases, drama came up from the other couple after the fact.

We have had situations in which we've played, had a good time, and then not felt a strong desire to pursue further contact - not that we'd object, necessarily, just that we're not eager. I'm not sure why, exactly. Perhaps it's because we know there's higher potential with others, so we're not keen on committing our time to what we perceive to be limited play potential. We've met plenty of perfectly nice folks and had a good time with them, but the personal attraction just wasn't high enough to compete with everything else in life. It's tough to boil down though, because on the other hand, there are friends we know we'll probably be with again - maybe not now, maybe not next month, but someday

What do you say? If you're not asked, nothing If you're asked, and you're not wanting to meet again, there's probably something else you're feeling the need to do, even if it's just catching up on alone time. If you already know it's a "never" again, you could try a sincere, "we like you and had a good time, but we just don't think there's enough chemistry." Most couples will take the hint before getting to the "push" point, but even if they don't, honesty is still likely the best policy.

[bellissima]

Thanks for all of the responses! They did ask us to meet again. He was super excited about the night and really has made it clear that they want to meet again, but because of how quiet she was we just weren't sure if she was "along for the ride". I think that the last post kind of summed it up with the chemistry thing. I'm not sure that the chemistry was there enough with her with either of us. But at the same time she was a little shy. It was at a club too. So if we met them again to give it another try we would definitely want it to be in a more comfortable setting for all of us. Sometimes it's hard to wrap your head around all of the feelings and not over analyze things!

[Malachista]

If I had fun with someone why should I not want to play with them again?
And from the way you explain your situation I don't get the feeling that you really had fun with that couple
I'm sorry, but I don't see your point

[realcplub2]

Ok.. two questions, was this the FIRST time you played with them?
&

What were you EXPECTING, that didnt come to pass? or was it something else that occured that left you feeling .. out of sorts?

If you can answer Yes to the first one, and have a so so answer to the second.. so long as the first evening didnt cause severe emotional or physical damage, why not give it another try.. It could have been anything.. Jitters can ruin a evening , and usually only occur the first time, so that by the scond evening, things will be much better..

I might have been a personal issue between them both, maybe a lack of communication .. Who knows..

In any case its your choice..

And to answer your question yes we have had the same circumstance, and we relented, and went for a second date.. and things were FANTASTIC.. that night there was nothing like the second cumming.. let alone the third, lol

but seriously as was said before, the choice is ultimately yours to make