When is it time to throw in the towel?

[toycple]

I wish we would have known what was going on, we would have tried to help some way.

[theflamekasters]

Originally Posted by toycple

I wish we would have known what was going on, we would have tried to help some way.

It is people like these two that make us not want to walk away!!

[Alura]

Yep! They're out there and it's worth the hassles to find them.

Mr. Alura

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

When you are not having fun and enjoying your life and you are adding drama then it is time to move on and find what works for you in your life.

what Lee Said!

I think too often people make swinging much harder than it should be. It should be fun, if it's fun less often than it is fun, it's time to take a break and figure out what you can change to make it fun again... if it's always seemed to be unfun more often than fun... it's a good sign you should quit altogether.

[At.Both.Ends]

Originally Posted by theflamekasters

We have been in the lifestyle for about a year, and have had some great experience and some horrible experiences. I know drama, and all kinds of shit come with the ls, but why is the hell is it so hard? Last night a cpl came over we had been hanging out with, and really enjoyed. We had done some soft swap, but not full swap yet. THat was the plan for last night, we watched a porn, had some drinks and the girl went out side to the hammock, a few min later we went out side to see what was going on, a few minutes later we came inside, to make a long story short, somthing very small made the other man upset, then it was over, then the wife and i got into and fought until sun up.This was the final straw,so she deleted our sls profile and said we are done. This is fine with me becuase i love my wife and only need her. So my question is this, when do you throw in the towel? What makes you know that it is time to get out the the lifestyle? I really need some input on this thanks

You stop when it's not fun any longer. As with everything in life you got to take the good with the bad. Can't avoid it. Learn to roll with it. Maybe a break will do you some good. We wish you guys all the best!

[theflamekasters]

Originally Posted by At.Both.Ends

You stop when it's not fun any longer. As with everything in life you got to take the good with the bad. Can't avoid it. Learn to roll with it. Maybe a break will do you some good. We wish you guys all the best!

thank you, and after much discussion between us, we are just taking a big step back, we still want to see the few couples we really enjony, and have had no issues with. We have freinds from the ls we dont play with too and we dont want to part with them, but we jsut needed to readjust are scope on what we wanted from this, and we realized, by no ones fault, that we had just gotten off the same page about what we want, we do have more good times then bad, but we needed to have a heart to heart about what this meant to us and what we wanted to us, and in no way has this damaged our marriage, we will quit all together before we let it, cause like everyonekeeps sayin this is suppose to be about having fun and enhancing our sex life together!