that Position is Reserved!

[JustAskJulie]

Ok, I was just reading through the thread What intimate acts do you reserve just for you and your partner?
and saw this:

No woman gets a mustache ride. I can go down on a woman, but no woman gets to straddle my face cowgirl style and grind one out. This is reserved just for her.

This is something I haven't run into before and it made me wonder, are there others who reserve specific POSITIONS for only their partner? In this case it was a specific position for oral sex... but I wonder if there are others who reserve any specific sexual positions (of sex acts they will do with others) for their partner only.

[sweet_tna]

Interesting question . . . Mr. Sweet and I will do/try pretty much any position our partners are up for. I can't see reserving any of them just for us, but we don't have a lot of rules/boundaries/limitations to begin with.

=)

[slevin]

Interesting thing to come up. It's certainly not something that we've encountered and not a rule we have ourselves (for any position). When we first started talking about this we decided to only do softswap and girl/girl, but after doing that on our first time Katrina said she thought it was silly to do oral with a guy and not fuck him. To her it wasn't a very big step from soft to full swap. Of course, when we were growing up people didn't have the same distinction between oral sex and actual sex that they seem to now, so I guess it makes sense to me.

So for us, there is no position or act that we reserve for each other, not even kissing.

[MN hotdish]

This could change, as I'm sure that a lot will once we have our first encounter, but anal sex. This is one of those almost "taboo" things for us already, like only once in a great while will I invite him to do this & he does NOT ask. . It's not my favorite thing, so it's ONLY done on my terms, so sort of a special treat for him but since it's so rare that I "let" him do it...I'm pretty sure I'd not ever let a playmate do it. Then again, if the guy was a lot smaller than my lover, maybe it wouldn't be such an invasive act.

[Chris&Amelia]

Short of anal sex (which really isn't a position, per se), we don't have any "reserved positions". I mean, we've decided to have sex with other people. Exactly how Tab A goes into Slot B is pretty academic at that point.

[fun4Ds]

We are open for all positions, just bare in mind we are not acrobatic

[socolais]

I guess the closest we get to reserving anything for ourselves would be anal or maybe actually sleeping. Not because we've specifically reserved those activities but we'll need some extra communication between us when the opportunity arises. We're pretty secure in our relationship and we know neither one of us are going anywhere. It would be interesting to find a playmate to explore some of the trickier positions we enjoy together occasionally.

[cupl4fun]

Nope, for us all positions are open.

[realcplub2]

For us its all on the table...

With one caviet, It needs to be at least discussed first before the KINKY shit gets popped up..

[bryanlee]

I could be completely wrong here, but it's just my thought. It would seem that by holding back certain acts/positions etc that some people feel that they are maintaining a certain bit of control over the whole situation. Sort of like holding back the reins on a horse out of fear that it may run away out of control.

We are new to this, but I know when we first started to talk about it the first impulse was to set lots of rules and boundaries. After a little more talking we decided that it just didn't make a whole lot of sense for us. We have established a few things, but leave the rest to just happen.

We have nothing reserved except for our hearts.

Bryan & Sharon

[DarkenFreaky]

We have heard of others that do that for mostly missionary, but we do not see much reason for restricting a position and we have no real restriction acts.

[cvcple]

For us it would be anal. That only happens on "special" occasions. Not so sure on the actual sleeping with a play partner, it hasnt come up yet.

[Tia Vampire]

I would like to try DP some day, but the back door is only reserved for him. That is the only sex act that we keep for ourselves.

[2inVT]

The only stuff we reserve for ourselves is things like paying bills, cleaning the house, dealing with the kids.

Come to think of it, maybe we'd LIKE to have someone else do all that.

[Playful1]

I won't swallow with others and some of the more "intimate" positions, like spooning, etc. I really have no interest in doing with folks at parties, etc. because for me, they are too intimate for that kind of sex. That's for someone I really care about/love. Also, anal.