They might be bringing drama if....

***JustAskJulie*** · 06-19-2008, 03:42 PM

What are some obvious signs that you have seen that a couple you have met might not be ready to swing, or might be bearing drama.....

1. One partner talks down to the other
2. One partner talks badly about the other to you
3. They always seem to sit an armslength away, never touching each other.
4. One of them looks pissed off just to be there

What other signs can you think of that a couple might be bearing drama?

alphaplaycpl · 06-19-2008, 03:57 PM

1. The other couple never looks at or touches one another
2. One partner speaks for the other
3. They bring up past stories of jealousy and say "but we're past that now"
4. They initiate new rules "on the spot"

***JustAskJulie*** · 06-19-2008, 04:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by alphaplaycpl

4. They initiate new rules "on the spot"

Have you actually had this happen? I gotta hear this story!

alphaplaycpl · 06-19-2008, 04:49 PM

It has been known to happen...

We were gathered at a friend's house for a Christmas Party. The hosts are mutual friends of another swing couple we are close with. To understand the social dynamic, you need to understand that we met our close friends through the hosts. We hit it off with our new friends in both friendship and play, but both couples decided that playing with the hosts was not in the cards. We are all still friends, but its a little touchy when the 6 of us are together.

S&C are the hosts
P&G are the close friends
We are Mr. and Mrs. Alpha

The evening began with P&G, Mr. Alpha and I, making it clear to the hosts (S&C) that this was going to be a vanilla evening - no play. While we are all flirts, we made it clear up front that the flirting was in no way to be an indication of an interest to play.

I happened to say that my feet were cold, and C gave me his slippers. S went crazy. She wouldn't look me in the eye, and demanded that I give the slippers back. She declared a new rule "no sharing slippers."

I think you can understand why we decided to keep things on a vanilla level. S wants to be open to sharing, but I am afraid she has some jealousy issues to overcome, first. Great people, though, and great friends.

***JustAskJulie*** · 06-19-2008, 04:54 PM

LMAO! That has got to be filed under "craziest rules I've ever heard"

If someone gets jealous over sharing of slippers, coats or other non-sexual objects... they might be bringing drama!

alphaplaycpl · 06-19-2008, 05:55 PM

You think? lol

funcpl4life · 06-19-2008, 06:16 PM

Long silences erupt in response to the strangest things.

Mr. FC4L

Hot Raleigh Cpl · 06-19-2008, 06:35 PM

1. One of them has to get drunk before the fun can begin.
2. He says my wife wants to do this, but you never hear from the wife.
3. They are married, but not to each other.

S and L, Hot Raleigh Cpl

***ownerspet*** · 06-19-2008, 06:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hot Raleigh Cpl

3. They are married, but not to each other.

S and L, Hot Raleigh Cpl

I've been told this at the club before, along with "my wife thinks I'm in Tunica." I was just waiting for the spouses any minute to walk in pistol in tow. Needless to say, we weren't playing with them.

**ncmd_couple** · 06-19-2008, 07:17 PM

They are married, but not to each other, oh yeah, have a "couple" who has been trying to get us to meet for a while, no way!

S

Tia Vampire · 06-19-2008, 09:24 PM

You can tell the drama causing couples when.....
1.) they can't take no for an answer.
2.) they are not on the same page.
3.) you catch them in alot of lies.

***JustAskJulie*** · 06-19-2008, 11:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by funcpl4life

Long silences erupt in response to the strangest things.

Mr. FC4L

Ok, you gotta expand on this?

likkit69 · 06-20-2008, 12:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Ok, you gotta expand on this?

i agree!

jennandjamesinm · 06-20-2008, 03:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ownerspet

I've been told this at the club before, along with "my wife thinks I'm in Tunica." I was just waiting for the spouses any minute to walk in pistol in tow. Needless to say, we weren't playing with them.

Hey - I work in Tunica

(small world, heh) And I bet that those are the people that put in their ads that they wil be in Tunica for the weekend, and to contact them ASAP too.

two42lovers · 06-20-2008, 01:51 PM

1. Too many rules - especially rules intended to control their partner sexually, rather than about sexual preferances.

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06-19-2008, 03:57 PM	#2 (permalink)
alphaplaycpl Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 43 Location: Alpharetta, GA Status: Couple	Re: They might be bringing drama if.... 1. The other couple never looks at or touches one another 2. One partner speaks for the other 3. They bring up past stories of jealousy and say "but we're past that now" 4. They initiate new rules "on the spot"

06-19-2008, 04:49 PM	#4 (permalink)
alphaplaycpl Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 43 Location: Alpharetta, GA Status: Couple	Re: They might be bringing drama if.... It has been known to happen... We were gathered at a friend's house for a Christmas Party. The hosts are mutual friends of another swing couple we are close with. To understand the social dynamic, you need to understand that we met our close friends through the hosts. We hit it off with our new friends in both friendship and play, but both couples decided that playing with the hosts was not in the cards. We are all still friends, but its a little touchy when the 6 of us are together. S&C are the hosts P&G are the close friends We are Mr. and Mrs. Alpha The evening began with P&G, Mr. Alpha and I, making it clear to the hosts (S&C) that this was going to be a vanilla evening - no play. While we are all flirts, we made it clear up front that the flirting was in no way to be an indication of an interest to play. I happened to say that my feet were cold, and C gave me his slippers. S went crazy. She wouldn't look me in the eye, and demanded that I give the slippers back. She declared a new rule "no sharing slippers." I think you can understand why we decided to keep things on a vanilla level. S wants to be open to sharing, but I am afraid she has some jealousy issues to overcome, first. Great people, though, and great friends.

06-19-2008, 04:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,307 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Re: They might be bringing drama if.... LMAO! That has got to be filed under "craziest rules I've ever heard" If someone gets jealous over sharing of slippers, coats or other non-sexual objects... they might be bringing drama! __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

06-19-2008, 05:55 PM	#6 (permalink)
alphaplaycpl Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 43 Location: Alpharetta, GA Status: Couple	Re: They might be bringing drama if.... You think? lol

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funcpl4life Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 133 Location: NW Arkansas Status: Couple	Re: They might be bringing drama if.... Long silences erupt in response to the strangest things. Mr. FC4L

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Hot Raleigh Cpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 151 Location: Raleigh, NC Status: Hot couple, deeply in love	Re: They might be bringing drama if.... 1. One of them has to get drunk before the fun can begin. 2. He says my wife wants to do this, but you never hear from the wife. 3. They are married, but not to each other. S and L, Hot Raleigh Cpl

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ncmd_couple Julie's Helper Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 964 Location: Maryland Status: Couple SLS Name:ncmd_couple	Re: They might be bringing drama if.... They are married, but not to each other, oh yeah, have a "couple" who has been trying to get us to meet for a while, no way! S __________________ Try anything once, twice if it is fun, three times if it is real good!

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Tia Vampire Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 772 Location: Florida Status: couples SLS Name:tiavampire Blog Entries: 1	Re: They might be bringing drama if.... You can tell the drama causing couples when..... 1.) they can't take no for an answer. 2.) they are not on the same page. 3.) you catch them in alot of lies.

06-20-2008, 01:51 PM	#15 (permalink)
two42lovers Luv seeing friends quiver Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 298 Location: California central coast Status: couple SLS Name:two42lovers Blog Entries: 2	Re: They might be bringing drama if.... 1. Too many rules - especially rules intended to control their partner sexually, rather than about sexual preferances. __________________ Tell the people you love how you feel, and do what your heart tells you.

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