Alias Names

[JustAskJulie]

Do you use an alias name online when you talking to people you are considering meeting? If so, what point do you give them your real name (or do you)?

And on the other side of that, have you ever been talking to a couple and thought... "That's gotta be an alias... "?

We use our real names when we are talking to people we are interested in meeting. When we first make contact we will usually use our initials, but once a plan is made to meet we give them our first names.

Twice in my 10 years of swinging, I've had situations where after the fact I've found out that people were using fake names. Once with a single guy, years ago. And then recently we met a couple and talked with them and after we went home the first night I even commented do you really think those are their real names? But we left it at that. Then we met them again and they fessed up that they use fake names on initial meet and would have told us last time but the opportunity just didn't present itself.

[JustMrJ]

Nope... so far we have used our real first names and no thoughts of changing.

[kittyscave]

I have a pretty unusual first name, so we usually go with initials until we feel comfortable with someone. I would be pretty easy to track down just based on my first name, here in Kansas City, so I want to e-mail a few times before I divulge that. Having been stalked in the past has made me a little more reticent about giving out my name right away.

[TNT]

Oh hell, some days I have a hard time remembering my own real name, I'd never be able to remember an alias one....On first contact e-mails, I do use my initial and then, if the correspondence keeps going, I'll start signing my name.


Teresa

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

We use our real names when we are talking to people we are interested in meeting. When we first make contact we will usually use our initials, but once a plan is made to meet we give them our first names.

That's the same approach we use.

[good times]

We pretty much use our real first names right from the first contact.

[likkit69]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

they fessed up that they use fake names on initial meet and would have told us last time but the opportunity just didn't present itself.

I can just imagine a woman stopping in the middle of a BJ and saying, "Oh BTW my name isn't really Kate, it's Susan, nice to meet you." LMAO

That's assuming something were to happen on the first meeting.

[theflamekasters]

nope we dont, i use flamekaster on everything, Swing Lifestyle, my space, email, all of it even on some guitar forums, if u know me, u know me, and if people i know shouldnt be lookin at this site find me they wont say anything to me


and as far as talkin to people, i am not going to start out a relationship with a lie!!!

[N&G]

Over the years we have met a few couples that used fake names and at some point in the evening they always screw up and call their partner by a different name. Then they have to give us some kind of explanation. My personal feeling is if they can't give us their real names, what else are they hiding. I find dishonesty to be a major turnoff as far as deciding whether they are people that I would want to play with.

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Do you use an alias name online when you talking to people you are considering meeting? If so, what point do you give them your real name (or do you)?

And on the other side of that, have you ever been talking to a couple and thought... "That's gotta be an alias... "?

When we first start to email, we use our real initials. When a plan to meet has been cemented, we use our real first names. We've told our real last name to one couple and that's it. I don't think last names are a need to know. First ones for that matter aren't a real need to know either. Just a name to put with a face is fine. If they used a used names like Betty and Barney or Fred and Wilma, I'd probably guess they are using an alias.

[shymxcpl]

To us it depends how far away from home we are. We stay away from swinging in-town (we're shy!). I would be worried to use our names with new like minded acquaintances. But since we usually do our fooling around in different countries we don't feel so paranoid. I guess the basic question is: if you don't have the confidence to tell the other couple your real names, how can you have the confidence to have sex with them?

[slevin]

Originally Posted by likkit69

I can just imagine a woman stopping in the middle of a BJ and saying, "Oh BTW my name isn't really Kate, it's Susan, nice to meet you." LMAO

That would seriously crack me up. If someone did that I would totally forgive them hiding their real names because their sense of humor would be right up my alley lol.

When it comes to us, we follow the trend of using our initials for a while until we're comfortable then we share our real first names. Don't give out our real last name to anyone really, no one needs it I don't think. If we developed a real friendship outside of the swinging with a couple then I wouldn't have a problem giving them our real last name too. As for whether it bothers me if people give me a fake name, I can't say because as far as I know it hasn't happened. I know that a few couples have lied about things like their age, what part of town they live in, whether they have kids or not etc. I never really cared until we ran into a couple who lied about their age, which was funny because I still found them attractive and would have met them regardless, but the age thing really irked me. In that case though they had stretched the truth on a few things and on top of that were really aggressive so everything added together just turned us on.

All that rambling basically boils down to: lying about one thing probably wouldn't put me off, but if it becomes a pattern (lied about a few things) then I'm out of there. Once I discover the first lie my ears will perk up and pay attention, start looking for anything else I should be wary about and we'll probably take more time 'getting to know them' than we would have otherwise.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by theflamekasters

nope we dont, i use flamekaster on everything, Swing Lifestyle, my space, email, all of it even on some guitar forums, if u know me, u know me, and if people i know shouldnt be lookin at this site find me they wont say anything to me


and as far as talkin to people, i am not going to start out a relationship with a lie!!!

Hmmm... so your real name is flamekaster? Man your parents had a sense of humor.

[sbjr3]

Originally Posted by kittyscave

I have a pretty unusual first name, so we usually go with initials until we feel comfortable with someone. I would be pretty easy to track down just based on my first name.......

Ditto....I have an unusally spelled first name, so I use a well known variation of it for all online activity regarding swinging and when we travel with lifestyle groups. Our friends at the club we attend know the correct spelling. If we were to form a long term relationship with people we meet online then I would eventually tell them the correct spelling and pronunciation.