Choices Choices

***JustAskJulie*** · 06-01-2008, 08:56 PM

Ok, so you are at a swinger club and you meet a couple that you had been talking to online and discover there is a 4way connection. During the course of the evening you also meet a very attractive single female that you are interested in.

What do you do? Or rather who? Would you pass up the opportunity to be with a SBF (assuming the female half of your couple is bi) to be with another couple?

Dynamar · 06-01-2008, 09:01 PM

My first thought? Introductions all around and go for a big naked pile. (But that's just me...)

rpu3 · 06-01-2008, 09:09 PM

Honestly, I don't know which one would be more the holy grail of swinging for me/us - a four-way match, or the so-called unicorn.

Tough one theoretically, but easy personally since I'm not very bi. But if she didn't care and wanted to do a FMF, boy, I don't know!

ncmd_couple · 06-01-2008, 10:23 PM

I would introduce everyone and play it by ear.

sweet_tna · 06-01-2008, 10:39 PM

Introductions all around, and see where things go. You can always set a date with whomever isn't up for play that night. I myself would go for the couple, as I'm not full-on bi and would prefer to "lose the training wheels" in a non-group situation.

=)

ktimephoenix · 06-02-2008, 01:28 AM

at this very point in time, we'd go the couple, because we've had two FMF's at the last 2 parties we've attended, so it'd be something different.

JustMrJ · 06-02-2008, 02:55 AM

I think the wife and I would decide to introduce everyone all around and see if the 'unicorn' would be willing to play with everyone. My wife is not bi or bi-curious at this point.

If the other couple's female was bi or bi-curious, it could turn out to be a VERY interesting naked pile indeed!

I also kind of have a fantasy of FFMF for me... no hurry... it will happen some day.

**TNT** · 06-02-2008, 09:35 AM

That's a tough one.

We've been in similar situations before and usually just play them by ear.

There have been times where it was two couples we had to choose from where we did, like others have said, just got everyone together.

There was one time at a social we were with a single male friend of ours and a couple that we had played with before was wanting to play again...her and I really hit it off and were really into each other so it was killing me to have to think about telling them that we were with someone else that night. It was going to be the first night with our male friend and we had waited for years to be able to be with him so I knew we weren't going to leave him to play with the couple. But, I was definitely wanting my cake and to eat it too that night. What happened was I just told the couple what was up. Her and I decided to play, let the three men watch (I assume they watched I honestly didn't pay much attention to them

) and once her and I had our fun, they made a polite exit and allowed us to enjoy the rest of the evening with our friend. It turned out to be one of the best nights we've ever had.

I guess what I'm saying is that things like this, usually work themselves out.

Teresa

Vjklander · 06-02-2008, 11:49 AM

menage 'a five sounds good.

***JustAskJulie*** · 06-02-2008, 02:09 PM

Here's the twist.... the female of the other couple is not full on bi and from all signs they tend towards playing with guys more.... so a 5some could lead to an odd-woman-out.

Dynamar · 06-02-2008, 02:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Here's the twist.... the female of the other couple is not full on bi and from all signs they tend towards playing with guys more.... so a 5some could lead to an odd-woman-out.

Which would make my choices (1) play stacking or (2) finding a wandering single male to join in.

Playful1 · 06-02-2008, 04:20 PM

I'd see if they were up for all of us playing...that way I don't have to choose >

Playful1 · 06-02-2008, 04:20 PM

ah, with the twist...I'd go for the couple

jimnjan · 06-02-2008, 05:14 PM

Single Bi-Female (if there was a 3 way connection). MY GOD, they really are the UNICORNS!!! LMAO! We would hope the couple would understand...

vasilie · 06-02-2008, 05:33 PM

personally i would go for the couple as they tend to be more fun. just more possibilities for everyone.

Swingers Ads	Swinger Pics	Swinger Stories	Shopping	Search Swingers	Swingers Clubs	Swinger Articles	Dictionary	FAQs	Swinger Links
Forums	Register	Swinger Events	Search	Today's Posts	Mark Forums Read	Chat Room [1]

06-01-2008, 08:56 PM	#1 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Choices Choices Ok, so you are at a swinger club and you meet a couple that you had been talking to online and discover there is a 4way connection. During the course of the evening you also meet a very attractive single female that you are interested in. What do you do? Or rather who? Would you pass up the opportunity to be with a SBF (assuming the female half of your couple is bi) to be with another couple?
	__________________ Julie - your hostess The Swinger Manual - all the info from the Swingers Board in one convenient book

06-01-2008, 09:01 PM	#2 (permalink)
Dynamar Ready-Willing-Able Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 746 Location: A flyover state Status: Single Swing Lifestyle Name:Dynamar	Re: Choices Choices My first thought? Introductions all around and go for a big naked pile. (But that's just me...)
	__________________ ~Dynamar

06-01-2008, 09:09 PM	#3 (permalink)
rpu3 Doing it our way... Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 3,273 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female Swing Lifestyle Name:rpu3	Re: Choices Choices Honestly, I don't know which one would be more the holy grail of swinging for me/us - a four-way match, or the so-called unicorn. Tough one theoretically, but easy personally since I'm not very bi. But if she didn't care and wanted to do a FMF, boy, I don't know!
	__________________ I'll give up my bad habits as soon as equally satisfying good habits become available. A. Brilliant

06-01-2008, 10:23 PM	#4 (permalink)
ncmd_couple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 2,252 Location: North Carolina Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ncmd_couple	Re: Choices Choices I would introduce everyone and play it by ear.
	__________________ Try anything once, twice if it is fun, three times if it is real good!

06-01-2008, 10:39 PM	#5 (permalink)
sweet_tna Being good is overrated Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 4,221 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet Swing Lifestyle Name:Sweet_tna	Re: Choices Choices Introductions all around, and see where things go. You can always set a date with whomever isn't up for play that night. I myself would go for the couple, as I'm not full-on bi and would prefer to "lose the training wheels" in a non-group situation. =)
	__________________ I'd rather go to hell for doing something I enjoyed than heaven wondering what it's like.

06-02-2008, 01:28 AM	#6 (permalink)
ktimephoenix Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 280 Location: Adelaide Australia Status: Couple	Re: Choices Choices at this very point in time, we'd go the couple, because we've had two FMF's at the last 2 parties we've attended, so it'd be something different.

06-02-2008, 02:55 AM	#7 (permalink)
JustMrJ Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 491 Location: San Mateo, CA Status: M. Male Swing Lifestyle Name:JustMrandMrsJ	Re: Choices Choices I think the wife and I would decide to introduce everyone all around and see if the 'unicorn' would be willing to play with everyone. My wife is not bi or bi-curious at this point. If the other couple's female was bi or bi-curious, it could turn out to be a VERY interesting naked pile indeed! I also kind of have a fantasy of FFMF for me... no hurry... it will happen some day.
	__________________ My opinion is just that... take it or leave it. Enjoy the "Now" nothing else exists.

06-02-2008, 09:35 AM	#8 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 5,003 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312	Re: Choices Choices That's a tough one. We've been in similar situations before and usually just play them by ear. There have been times where it was two couples we had to choose from where we did, like others have said, just got everyone together. There was one time at a social we were with a single male friend of ours and a couple that we had played with before was wanting to play again...her and I really hit it off and were really into each other so it was killing me to have to think about telling them that we were with someone else that night. It was going to be the first night with our male friend and we had waited for years to be able to be with him so I knew we weren't going to leave him to play with the couple. But, I was definitely wanting my cake and to eat it too that night. What happened was I just told the couple what was up. Her and I decided to play, let the three men watch (I assume they watched I honestly didn't pay much attention to them ) and once her and I had our fun, they made a polite exit and allowed us to enjoy the rest of the evening with our friend. It turned out to be one of the best nights we've ever had. I guess what I'm saying is that things like this, usually work themselves out. Teresa
	__________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

06-02-2008, 11:49 AM	#9 (permalink)
Vjklander Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 834 Location: VA Status: Couple, Straight M, BiFem Swing Lifestyle Name:Vjklander	Re: Choices Choices menage 'a five sounds good.

06-02-2008, 02:09 PM	#10 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Choices Choices Here's the twist.... the female of the other couple is not full on bi and from all signs they tend towards playing with guys more.... so a 5some could lead to an odd-woman-out.

06-02-2008, 04:20 PM	#12 (permalink)
Playful1 A slut who likes to read Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 229 Location: Maryland, US. Status: Single Female Swing Lifestyle Name:Sebastiane	Re: Choices Choices I'd see if they were up for all of us playing...that way I don't have to choose >

06-02-2008, 04:20 PM	#13 (permalink)
Playful1 A slut who likes to read Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 229 Location: Maryland, US. Status: Single Female Swing Lifestyle Name:Sebastiane	Re: Choices Choices ah, with the twist...I'd go for the couple

06-02-2008, 05:14 PM	#14 (permalink)
jimnjan Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 104 Location: Shoemakersville, PA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:jimnjan	Re: Choices Choices Single Bi-Female (if there was a 3 way connection). MY GOD, they really are the UNICORNS!!! LMAO! We would hope the couple would understand...
	__________________ Jan

06-02-2008, 05:33 PM	#15 (permalink)
vasilie Active Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 27 Location: north west Status: couple	Re: Choices Choices personally i would go for the couple as they tend to be more fun. just more possibilities for everyone.

LinkBacks (?) LinkBack to this Thread: http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/general-swingers-stuff/40031-choices-choices.html
Posted By	For	Type	Date
Play parties - forum talks \| BoardReader	This thread	Refback	06-11-2008 03:19 AM

Similar Threads
Thread	Thread Starter	Forum	Replies	Last Post
Five Choices in a Marriage... What do you think?	LetsParty	Why we Swing	26	10-06-2006 03:58 PM
Do you "make love passionately" when you swing?	flassh	Separating Sex & Love	10	04-16-2005 12:29 PM
Swinging vs Monogamy, are they not equal choices?	AnonDude	What Is Swinging	19	03-31-2005 05:12 PM

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Email this Page
Display Modes
Linear Mode Switch to Hybrid Mode Switch to Threaded Mode