A Couple With Nasty Bodies,how 2 Let Them Know Your Not Interested?

[SEXYCUBANCOUPLE]

We have a couple(M.F.) that we are freinds with, they have been to our club severl times with us, they have also expressed interest in swiinging with us,they are the nicest poeple in the world , they are both good looking but our probelm is with there bodys,they are both fat!, there boddys arent the nicest out there , no shape what so ever , we are both good looking & in great shape we do take excellent care of our bodies ,if you were in our shoes wouldnt you want the other couple to be as good looking or better than you? ,looks is extreamly important to us as it is with most humans, tho many wouldnt admit it & tell you that the real beauty is under the skin, which we think & know thats B.S. ... This couple keeps hitting on us for a swap, so far we havnt built up the corage to tell them that there bodies are nasty, we dont want to hurt there feelings unless we have no choice...What woul you guys do about this situation? any suggestions would help......thank you

[JustMrJ]

You might just let them know (honestly) that you just don't think you two (couples) click quite that way. Don't be harsh, just let them know that they are good friends, but it just doesn't click that way.

Nothing else really needs to be said in my opinion.

My wife and I are not knockouts, but we try to take care of ourselves. So if someone doesn't want to swing with us (when we reach that point) they don't have to say why, just let us know it doesn't all click and we will happily stay friends and just hang out.

Good luck!

[Tantra]

Nasty? Really?

There's nothing wrong with not being attracted to another couple because of whatever reason, but to repeatedly call them nasty is ... well nasty.

That being said - just let them know that you don't feel a sexual connection and no hard feelings.

[wewannabebad2]

I agree with everyone above. There's no need to be mean, just tell them that your not interested in them in a sexual way. There's no need to go into detail.
As far as being "nasty", I think it's a relative term. What you consider "nasty" maybe someone elses cup of tea. Hell, other ppl may consider you "nasty" for some off the wall reason. I guess I'd rather be with a so called "nasty" bodied person who has a beautiful soul then a supposedly "hot" bodied person whose soul is down right FUGLY.*comment not meant to reflect on OP*
I'm sorry if you feel that beauty is just skin deep because it means your going to miss out on ALOT of beautiful people.

[Thomas333]

AS well as my experience tells me from German couples and their information about solving such a problem.
You say that they are good friends and what so ever. I would never ever get close with one of my friends as this would kill the relationship.
Maybe thats a good starting point without hurting them.

best regards

Thomas

[two4youinswva]

Based on your previous thread, your response should be easy.
Just tell them that you find swinging to be boring and sex isn't exciting for you anymore because of your porn-biz lifestyle.

[fun4Ds]

Perhaps you should just take off your mask. Let them know the real you, and how you feel about everything.

Wouldn't ya think.

End of problem !

Why do you have to degrade others ?

Why can't you just say, "were not interested " ???

Why do you need (courage) to tell someone they look (nasty) to you ?

[Thron&Thor]

Some "bodies" can be a real surprise sometimes, BUT the visual is hard to overcum at times...we all have had at one time or another a couple pursue us that is not quite the type you want to have where you have to look hard to find the spot to put your favorite toy into...and even a very skinny person who reminds you of those concentration camp photos is just as bad as a turnoff...where you can see your penis stroking inside her and pushing her starved stomach up like an alien wanting to emerge...and such a skinny dude that Thorn thought she would crush him between her powerful legs if she had an organism...

A particular bad night was when we had to leave the party because such a couple became totally fasinated with us and ruined the entire night for us with anyone else...

So we have learned to just turn off all our "signals" totally to such couples and not even make eye contact, avoid any close body contact language and use me as the bad guy to say Thor is not interested at all. Otherwise, it does seem that some of these couples do know what they are doing and are enjoying the fact thay are intentionlay interrupting another couple's fun play by constantly trying to hoard in oo someone else's action.

All this is why we prefer private house parties where we know who is cumming.

[VegasLee]

In reading many of your posts your not that interested in Swinging and your not full swap anyway so why not just tell them the truth and tell them you are not interested because it is not your thing?

You can be harsh and tell them the truth like you seem to want to or you can just let them know you have no interest in swinging.

Keep it simple.

[daisy girl]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

Based on your previous thread, your response should be easy.
Just tell them that you find swinging to be boring and sex isn't exciting for you anymore because of your porn-biz lifestyle.

Sing it!!!

First, it seems like the original poster needs to take a step back and remember that we all have flaws and strengths. If someone isn't your cup of tea, just say it. But...say it respectfully! From the tone of the original post, it sounds like he or she may need to work on their communication and problem-solving skills. There is never a reason to demean and degrade others, especially since they mentioned that they are the nicest people.

[JustAskJulie]

We've definately had situations where we are friends with couples that we just don't find attractive and don't want to see naked. But to call them NASTY is definately a bit harsh and if you talk about your friends that way, I'd hate to see how you refer to those you don't care about.

As others have pointed out, after reading your previous thread I have to wonder why you are even asking this question unless you are just here to incite and rile people up (as I would almost guess from your two recent threads).

Just go to your friends and be honest and tell them that you are better than they are, that swinging sucks and you don't want to be a part of it with them or anyone else.

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

We've definately had situations where we are friends with couples that we just don't find attractive and don't want to see naked. But to call them NASTY is definately a bit harsh and if you talk about your friends that way, I'd hate to see how you refer to those you don't care about.

As others have pointed out, after reading your previous thread I have to wonder why you are even asking this question unless you are just here to incite and rile people up (as I would almost guess from your two recent threads).

Just go to your friends and be honest and tell them that you are better than they are, that swinging sucks and you don't want to be a part of it with them or anyone else.

What she said!

[Tia Vampire]

Tell them you do not fuck for free like swingers do at their boring parties. If they want you, they have to pay for all of your sexiness and since they are so nasty, the price will be higher. That is the what I think your real grudge is about swingers and swing parties. Plus most of us swingers are too real and down to earth and you can't stand it.

[lovinher]

Boy could I have fun with you.
You are....
Why do you......
What did you....
Why would.....
Who do you....
Awe, nevermind I....just.....can't.....do....it.

SHIT!

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by SEXYCUBANCOUPLE

we are both good looking & in great shape we do take excellent care of our bodies ,if you were in our shoes wouldnt you want the other couple to be as good looking or better than you?

No, we wouldn't. What we do want is there to be chemistry all the way around, regardless if we are a 6 and they are a 5, or however the hell you want to try to rate it. If the sexual chemistry isn't there, for whatever reason, just politely decline. It's called manners and respect, and it will get you far in life.

Speaking as a male, I don't know how I would even determine if the other male was more or less in the looks department to meet the "just as good-looking as us" requirement. Not something I care to waste my time evaluating. More or less to who? If Mrs feels the chemistry with him and him with her, that's good enough for me, so that half of the equation is met.

Nor do I score potential playmates versus my spouse. They could be "better" or "worse" to my eye and there still be plenty of sexual chemistry. Granted, physical appearance does play some role in initial attraction, but for many people, the "and then they opened their mouths" factor plays a lot bigger role. If that doesn't compliment and enhance the initial physical attraction, then it isn't going to happen.