get a clue

[socolais]

Screaminggood said something in another thread I thought was interesting. Rather than hijack that one, I'll ask here:

Originally Posted by screaminggood

It's not always difficult to find the playmate, but it is sometimes difficult to find the playmate that rocks your socks off! The difficulty for me is that sometimes what looks and acts good on the dance floor changes dramatically in the bed. On the other hand, the conservative, quiet person on the floor turned into one of my best experiences in the bed!!!

What clues do you look for in potential playmates to indicate they are likely to be fun in bed? And are those clues reliable for you?

I look for happy, flirty women that look aware of what's happening around them. I look for actions that indicate self-confidence, I also look for communication skills and general maturity. But it's not a "more is better" kind of thing, there can be too much or too little for my preferences. I think my system works OK for me although I did have one quiet lady that turned wild in the bedroom.

so, how do you pickem???

[havefuninsun]

Wow! What a great thread!

As Socolais said -- I like happy flirty people ... I love self-confidence in people, and just folks that seem fun. So does Mr. Fun. But women who seem a little more shy he finds attractive because he has found that those women seem to be tigers in the bed. He said that these women have some built up tension that sometimes comes out in a most wonderful way in bed.

For me, it's just attraction. I just can't get into you if I'm not attracted. And the attitude, fun, folks are those I just gravitate to.

[lustylearning]

I look for partners who communicate with subtlety - I hold a belief that if you can communicate with the eyes or with a well-timed smile, you're likely to respond to subtle physical cues, which would make for a quality sensual experience. I also gravitate toward those that are unafraid to approach and those that make me laugh.

[good times]

I look for partners that I find attractive, both physically and mentally, that are willing to play with me.

I have yet to find any correlation for how they act before we get to the play room to how fun they will be when we get there. One of the most flirty, sexually inspiring women I have ever met in the social setting of the club, switched off like a light once in the play room, and turned out to be more of a project than a good time. I have also met several woman that didn't seem to be all that inspiring in the social setting yet they set my world on fire once we got to the play room.

[Cpl2share]

I look to see if they are female! LOL

Seriously though: For us the biggest thing is that they have a sense of humor and some intelligence. Neither one of us is into bedpost notching, so there has to be some physical attraction as well as mental stimulation before we find someone sexually attractive. No way to know though. So far the one big thing that we have noticed is that neither of us has "zeroed in" on someone who is physically simliar to us. Is that so that we are not comparing, or is it because we want variety? Who knows, but it is working for us.

[screaminggood]

Glad to see I inspired you, Socolais!

I do look for people who are self-confident and flirty, too. I don't remember ever being wrong in the Houston area when we lived down there with either sex. Here, in Dallas, I've never been wrong about a man, yet! But I've been misreading some women...or some in cases, I should say, misled. When a woman tells you she's bi, acts flirty on the dance floor, but only kisses me in the bed and does nothing else woman to woman....Well, I have more expectations than that for bi experiences.

[Bama0468]

I being the quiet one do sit and quietly observe the room, am told I silent flirt ( have no idea what that is, sorta like when they say i have bedroom eyes, still no clue lol) anyhow, I look for personality, ability to banter back and forth playfully, I CAN if I have to push more out of my shell, but I still ask before the first kiss, Ask if they want to go play... Am from the south, raised Fundemental Baptist so for me I still have to work on occasion to overcome YEARS of misconception and mental brainwashing on some subject.

Now I can't dance, slow dance some, but dance... not verticaly. Have had no complaints about Horozontaly, and had return visits. I have found that some of the quieter ladies were more.... frisky shall we say when we played

[jnbsmokin]

Facial expression, which is funny because I hide my own unintentionally at times.
And the look in the eye, do you know what I'm talking about?
Of course the way they dance, are they on beat? do they hold me in their arms and gently rub this or that, that sort of thing..

[sweet_tna]

I look for people who are FUN, flirtatious, have a sense of humor, and are reasonably intelligent. And of course, there has to be the whole physical attraction/chemistry thing going, too. So far, I've found those "clues" to lead to positive encounters.

=)

[Tia Vampire]

I look for guys that dance well on the dance floor. I look at the way they move thier bodies. If they can wind their bodies to the beat of a song well, imagine what they can do in bed when making love. When a guy winds well, he has my full attention. For him, he look for someone that is attractive, good conversationist, pretty teeth and girls with that sort of goth look is his weakness.