soft swinging

carolinachic · 04-19-2008, 07:06 PM

exactly what is this??
we are new to all of this and i always thought soft swinging
was me with another woman, not a full swap!!
this is what we want to do. i want to be with a woman
while my man watches and maybe join!
so is this soft swinging?
we dont want to full swap.
i have no desires of being with another man nor does my man
want to be with another woman.
any suggestions out there???

Chris&Amelia · 04-19-2008, 07:24 PM

Soft Swinging is usually defined as performing sex acts with the other partner except intercourse (so, manual stimulation, oral sex, etc.) When it comes time to actually have intercourse, you switch back to your spouse.

I think you're thinking of a threesome... in this case, a FFM (female-female-male). Unfortunately, the "demand" for single unattached females, especially bi-sexual single unattached females who will partake in a FFM, is extremely high, and they are something of a rarity.

Hope this helps.

**good times** · 04-19-2008, 11:02 PM

I guess it could be called soft swinging but when someone says "soft swinging" that usually isn't what comes to mind. As Chris&Amelia said, most swingers consider soft swinging to be two couples swapping for everything up to but not including actual intercourse'

What you are looking for seems to be the popular thing right now, whether you will have much luck finding it depends on what your limits are. If you will only accept an unattached female to join you, then you are in for a long wait and a bit of luck. On the other hand, if you are willing to hook up with another couple and just the women play while the men watch, you can find that pretty easily I would think. Especially if you go to the swingers clubs, we see people looking for this a quite a bit lately at the clubs.

two42lovers · 04-21-2008, 06:01 PM

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two42lovers · 04-21-2008, 06:08 PM

The label soft verses full swap usually means sex short of intercourse verses sex with intercourse. Soft swing could mean just about anything except intercourse.

We have to agree with good times. You might find other couples with the same desires, but we think you'll have a difficult time finding a solo woman willing to go along. We'd reccomend you consider expanding your parameters to include other couples like yourself.

***JustAskJulie*** · 04-22-2008, 01:37 PM

What you described would be included in soft-swinging. Soft-swinging includes a lot of things, basically anything short of a full swap (with intercourse).

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04-19-2008, 07:06 PM	#1 (permalink)
carolinachic Registered User Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 1 Location: north carolina Status: couple	soft swinging exactly what is this?? we are new to all of this and i always thought soft swinging was me with another woman, not a full swap!! this is what we want to do. i want to be with a woman while my man watches and maybe join! so is this soft swinging? we dont want to full swap. i have no desires of being with another man nor does my man want to be with another woman. any suggestions out there???

04-19-2008, 07:24 PM	#2 (permalink)
Chris&Amelia Don't poke an eye out! Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 1,450 Location: Pennsylvania - The Poconos Status: The C of C&A Swing Lifestyle Name:PA_Panache	Re: soft swinging Soft Swinging is usually defined as performing sex acts with the other partner except intercourse (so, manual stimulation, oral sex, etc.) When it comes time to actually have intercourse, you switch back to your spouse. I think you're thinking of a threesome... in this case, a FFM (female-female-male). Unfortunately, the "demand" for single unattached females, especially bi-sexual single unattached females who will partake in a FFM, is extremely high, and they are something of a rarity. Hope this helps.
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04-19-2008, 11:02 PM	#3 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: soft swinging I guess it could be called soft swinging but when someone says "soft swinging" that usually isn't what comes to mind. As Chris&Amelia said, most swingers consider soft swinging to be two couples swapping for everything up to but not including actual intercourse' What you are looking for seems to be the popular thing right now, whether you will have much luck finding it depends on what your limits are. If you will only accept an unattached female to join you, then you are in for a long wait and a bit of luck. On the other hand, if you are willing to hook up with another couple and just the women play while the men watch, you can find that pretty easily I would think. Especially if you go to the swingers clubs, we see people looking for this a quite a bit lately at the clubs.
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04-21-2008, 06:01 PM	#4 (permalink)
two42lovers Luv seeing friends quiver Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 298 Location: California central coast Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:two42lovers	Re: soft swinging ... see next
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04-21-2008, 06:08 PM	#5 (permalink)
two42lovers Luv seeing friends quiver Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 298 Location: California central coast Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:two42lovers	Re: soft swinging The label soft verses full swap usually means sex short of intercourse verses sex with intercourse. Soft swing could mean just about anything except intercourse. We have to agree with good times. You might find other couples with the same desires, but we think you'll have a difficult time finding a solo woman willing to go along. We'd reccomend you consider expanding your parameters to include other couples like yourself.
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04-22-2008, 01:37 PM	#6 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: soft swinging What you described would be included in soft-swinging. Soft-swinging includes a lot of things, basically anything short of a full swap (with intercourse).
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