Are you GOOD at dirty talkin?

[socolais]

Do you reserve the dirty talk for your spouse or do you enjoy it with your playmate?

When you are talking dirty, do you "hold back" to keep from offending them or someone else within hearing range?

How do you read the vibe and decide which things would be erotic and what might be a turn-off?

Have you ever asked a playmate to talk dirty with you?

What do you think when your playmate tells you they're not good at dirty talk?

Do you feel comfortable using possible trigger words like bitch, cunt, slut or do you use descriptive phrases like "MMmm, your pussy tastes so good it makes my cock throb"?

If you don't talk dirty, do you talk at all?

Would it likely concern your spouse if they heard you talking dirty with a playmate?

Have you ever laughed out loud when a playmate tried some dirty talking and said something unexpected?



Every playmate I've asked to talk dirty with me has said they're not good at it. I like lots of talk unless our mouths are busy with other tasks (don't talk with your mouth full). It doesn't have to be explicit dirty talk but at least a few moans and an occasional grunt, maybe throw in a "oh yeah!!" every now and then. I'm not especially good at dirty talk either, but I'm not going to let lack of expertise stop me from having fun with it. If we can hear the crickets chirping, I'm probably not having a great time....

[TNT]

Interesting questions socolais

Originally Posted by socolais

Do you reserve the dirty talk for your spouse or do you enjoy it with your playmate?

When you are talking dirty, do you "hold back" to keep from offending them or someone else within hearing range?

How do you read the vibe and decide which things would be erotic and what might be a turn-off?

Have you ever asked a playmate to talk dirty with you?

What do you think when your playmate tells you they're not good at dirty talk?

Do you feel comfortable using possible trigger words like bitch, cunt, slut or do you use descriptive phrases like "MMmm, your pussy tastes so good it makes my cock throb"?

If you don't talk dirty, do you talk at all?

Would it likely concern your spouse if they heard you talking dirty with a playmate?

Have you ever laughed out loud when a playmate tried some dirty talking and said something unexpected?

I pretty damn good at talking dirty to Ted...I know what his triggers are and when it's him and I there are no holds bared when it comes to what we say or how we say it. We aren't concerned with each other taking offense so there are no words off limits...if we can think it, we can say it.

With playmates, it's a bit different. I'm definitely on guard with what I say and with what I want to hear. Unless you really, really know your playmate you can never be sure what would or would not be offensive. For example: If a playmate were to call me a 'cock sucking bitch', I might (depending on my mood) take offense...If Ted were to call me that, it would only fuel the fire...the difference being I know the feelings behind it when Ted says it and wouldn't if a playmate said it.

With playmates I like to keep it, and like it kept, to more of the descriptive terms...I've often had playmates talk dirty to me in that form and I to them. Verbal responses are a turn-on. Someone who is very quiet and never makes a sound always makes me wonder if they are enjoying it...I like hearing I'm doing a good job and in return I like letting others hear they are doing a good job.

It doesn't bother Ted or I when we hear each other talking dirty to a playmate and, I don't think I've ever laughed when a playmate talked dirty to me, that just seems rude. I have laughed when Ted's talked dirty to me but, he was being silly and a laugh was the response he was looking for.


Teresa

[SCcpl40]

She likes to role play so it may lead to any type of discussion or situation, he's all man and tends to take control and handles the woman mentally and physically, but passionately.

[Tia Vampire]

He does little moans once in a while, but I let it all out. Only with him though. He do like for the females he's with to be vocal, but she is not going to get much from him. I have played with this guy before that seemed to love to dirty talk. If the playmate starts it, then it's on. What a turn on for me the female half to find someone like this. I'm not into the name calling though. I'm only his bitch, cunt, slut, whore, dirty little girl, and nubian queen.

[jnbsmokin]

The male half loves dirty talk, very graphic dirty talk, and she actually likes being called a nasty little whore/slut/..... I think that talk is something to mention during the emails if it makes you hot.

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by socolais

Do you reserve the dirty talk for your spouse or do you enjoy it with your playmate?

I enjoy it with playmates as well as my spouse. I am very vocal during sex. Mrs. WS even tells me "shut the fuck up and just fuck me will you."

When you are talking dirty, do you "hold back" to keep from offending them or someone else within hearing range?

I do hold back since I'm not sure what is a turn-on to them and what isn't. I'll stick to the basics like "oh, that is good" or "you are delicious" and an occasional "you are a naughty girl, aren't you?" If they respond well to that maybe I'll get a bit raunchier. But I have to be careful that their husband doesn't get offended by it either.

How do you read the vibe and decide which things would be erotic and what might be a turn-off?

That's a hard one because so many won't tell you if you are doing something right or wrong, including your dirty talk; they'll just complain about with their spouse in private later.

Have you ever asked a playmate to talk dirty with you?

Come to think of it... No, I haven't.

What do you think when your playmate tells you they're not good at dirty talk?

That they're just shy or not comfortable talking dirty or saying those words. Nothing more.

Do you feel comfortable using possible trigger words like bitch, cunt, slut or do you use descriptive phrases like "MMmm, your pussy tastes so good it makes my cock throb"?

I'm comfortable using both depending on what my partner is comfortable with.

Would it likely concern your spouse if they heard you talking dirty with a playmate?

No.

Have you ever laughed out loud when a playmate tried some dirty talking and said something unexpected?

Hmmm... If I did I can't remember.

Mr. WS

[sereneiders]

I consider myself pretty decent at dirty talking (well... if there exist such a thing like a "decent dirty talker"), and I love to hear dirty talking as well.

With my wife, I know what sort of things thrills her, what she can take even when it does nothing to her, and what dislike her.

As for other couples, it's much the same way than when you meet someone new: you just don't have a clue until you get to know each other. Plus, you're not sure of the respect boundaries with BOTH the other parties. For example, at the club we've meet couples where the guy call his wife (and she calls herself the same) a slut or a whore... as you meet couples where they may dirty talk to each other but they dislike other people calling her names just to "point out" the fact they're picky (or whatever reason).

As for myself, I am extremelly polite. For example, at the club, I don't even dare to touch women I know for sure they enjoy being grooped by anyone unles I get the ok from her and her husband (even if a nod or a sight). The same happens with dirty talking: I wouldn't call her names or so, and definatelly I wouldn't do that in front of her husband even if they both aproves. I usually let her know I like dirty talking, asking for her oppinions and feelings about the subject, then I stick to the rules (well, it may happen that rules changes as we get to trust each other some more, but again, it's something spoken out loud).

[Additude]

Hummm,

Well I don't know if I consider myself good at dirty talking or not....but I do know when it happens with me dirty talking or with the wife dirty talking (which is very seldom) we both orgasm quickly.....

[screaminggood]

I'm very good at it with my husband, but I get shy around new people...but I do love to be talked dirty to, and would do it if the playmate at all hinted that he/she would like it.

[lustylearning]

Hehehe... Nice thread topic. I suck at dirty talk. I have laughed when I've heard it. I tend to not talk much unless I'm close to orgasm, in which case it sounds like I'm alternately in church *oh god* or about to die *oh fuck*. I am not quiet though. I respond with plenty of moaning and groaning. I'd like to think I'm not boring just because I prefer non-verbal communication... I say more with an increase in the pressure of my grab than I do by trying to credibly mouth the words, "Ooh yeah, baby, fuck me with that hard cock."

[sweet_tna]

Do you reserve the dirty talk for your spouse or do you enjoy it with your playmate?

I don't do much of this anyway . . . always sounds silly coming from my little-girly voice. Occasionally, I'll get in a mood . . . but so far only with Mr. Sweet.

When you are talking dirty, do you "hold back" to keep from offending them or someone else within hearing range?

Nah, I don't worry too much about offending others. See above.

How do you read the vibe and decide which things would be erotic and what might be a turn-off?

When in doubt, ask.

Have you ever asked a playmate to talk dirty with you?

Yep, and I'm just fine with that.

What do you think when your playmate tells you they're not good at dirty talk?

Since it's not something I do much of myself, I don't ask anyone to do it for me.

Do you feel comfortable using possible trigger words like bitch, cunt, slut or do you use descriptive phrases like "MMmm, your pussy tastes so good it makes my cock throb"?

NEVER "cunt". That word rubs me the wrong way. I'm fine with hearing the rest, and occasionally use the others . .. again, has to be when I'm really in a mood.

If you don't talk dirty, do you talk at all?

You know, it's funny. I talk all the damn time, except during sex. But I make plenty of noise . . .

Would it likely concern your spouse if they heard you talking dirty with a playmate?

Nah, I think he'd be totally turned on by it.

Have you ever laughed out loud when a playmate tried some dirty talking and said something unexpected?

YES, I've had full-blown giggle fits before--but not so much because of dirty talk.

=)

[perkygl]

I like the dirty talk..it turns me on. I don't initiate it but am always willing to participate once it starts.

[rpu3]

Do you reserve the dirty talk for your spouse or do you enjoy it with your playmate?

I don't talk dirty really; I've tried it with my spouse but it's not comfortable for me. I enjoy hearing it in certain moods.

When you are talking dirty, do you "hold back" to keep from offending them or someone else within hearing range?

N/A. Actually, I don't think anyone would hear me if I did. I tend to think I'm speaking in a loud tone, and in reality, no one can hear me.

How do you read the vibe and decide which things would be erotic and what might be a turn-off?

n/a for me. As far as my spouse talking dirty to me, he's hit or miss with reading my mood, but I do help out when I'd like to hear it by outright telling him.

Have you ever asked a playmate to talk dirty with you?

I've not asked a playmate to do so, but I have asked The Spousal Unit to talk dirty to me. It's that comfort thing again - I'm comfortable asking my spouse; it would take a while for me to be comfortable to ask a playmate to do so.

What do you think when your playmate tells you they're not good at dirty talk?

I don't push the issue, since I say the same thing and feel the same way.

Do you feel comfortable using possible trigger words like bitch, cunt, slut or do you use descriptive phrases like "MMmm, your pussy tastes so good it makes my cock throb"?

No, I don't feel comfortable right now talking like that. It's on the to-do list for things to work on, right after initiating, being more assertive/aggressive.

If you don't talk dirty, do you talk at all?

I do talk a little.

Would it likely concern your spouse if they heard you talking dirty with a playmate?

It might surprise him, as it's outside my nine dots; I don't think it would hurt his feelings any.

Have you ever laughed out loud when a playmate tried some dirty talking and said something unexpected?

No. But the spousal unit outright laughed my first attempt. I think it startled him.

[bc_him]

my partner and I are very good at 'dirty talking'...we talk about her 'cunt' and my 'cock' all the time during sex...we talk about how good the other tastes, looks, and feels...we certainly do enjoy this kind of talk..

[newmajor00]

Oh, yeah. I'm the same way, a klutz at "dalking dirty". I'm just not comfortable doing a 180 from "the Gentleman" to "the Caveman". My best defense is to keep my mouth busy. Mrs. NM, on the other hand, is extremely vocal during sex with everyone. A huge turn on for anyone within earshot!