I'd rather masturbate than have bad swinger sex

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

I don't know how other women feel about this, but for me, masturbating keeps me more up for sex, and I've mentioned before on this Board that masturbating right before having sex with a man is something I've discovered heightens my sex with him.

People are wired different ways. For my purposes here, I will divide my orgasms into 2 categories: self-gasms and partner-gasms. When I masturabate, my orgasms aren't particuarly intense...saying it elevates my arousal level to wait on my sweetie to get home isn't quite right...but that leads neatly into the next category: partner-gasms.

Even if I have masturbated and orgasmed say 5 times before he gets home, on some level I am seriously not satisfied. It kind of scratches the itch so to speak, but doesn't quite take the edge off for me.

Part of that I think is just the fact that I know my most powerful orgasms are from being stimulated by a partner, oral or even manual stimulation. The only exception I've found to this is if he is going in from behind and I have easy access to my clit, those are a 50/50 shot of being high intensity.

I think that could result in some overly aggressive males drooling on their shirts as they chased women around the room with a wide-eyed crazy look on their faces.

The mental image of that is just too funny.

Altho I will have to agree with the title of the thread...I know I'm a sure bet for an orgasm, but can't make the same statement about any partners. lol

Socolais...I don't think the two needs to be mutually exclusive (masturbation or swinger sex). My attitude is good going into a situation, I actually have exceptionally low expectations for a swing encounter...it's the other person's reactions that will tend to color my response to how the evening played out. So even though I might be thinking, 'eh, that wasn't great...but it wasn't horrible'....if my partner stalks away or acts oddly after the fact or any other number of negative type reactions, then that will affect my overall evaluation of the evening.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

I don't know how other women feel about this, but for me, masturbating keeps me more up for sex, and I've mentioned before on this Board that masturbating right before having sex with a man is something I've discovered heightens my sex with him.
LM

AMEN!!! Maybe it's because unlike the guys, we have little to no downtime. In my case, the more times I orgasm, the more I want to keep going.

=)

[socolais]

Originally Posted by sexcupid

... My attitude is good going into a situation, I actually have exceptionally low expectations for a swing encounter...it's the other person's reactions that will tend to color my response to how the evening played out. So even though I might be thinking, 'eh, that wasn't great...but it wasn't horrible'....if my partner stalks away or acts oddly after the fact or any other number of negative type reactions, then that will affect my overall evaluation of the evening.

that's interesting,,, I'll have to think on it for a while

[graygo98]

Let's see now, what was my most memorable masturbation??? Hmmmm, can't say any really stand out.

On the other hand, there have been a few bad sex scenes, oh yeah. Most of them, over time, get truly hilarious to recall. And know what? I remember them all. Even bad sex with another human being is a memorable experience. I want a whole footlocker full of vivid experiences, good and bad, for the time when I am in some nursing home and the big moment of the day is that attendant asking, "Will that be in the sun or the shade today, Mr. G?" Even a great orgasm is just meat and friction. Not likely to make the footlocker.

Sex with others is too much work? Yeah, I know that co-ordinating schedules, getting ready and showing up for meets or whatever takes some effort. (And I know its a lot more work for J than me!) But its all part of the game. Its all fun and exciting to me, sort of a mini-adventure, even those times you meet another couple and its a total flame out.

[Malachista]

I think that sometimes it is a case of wanting what you don't have.
If I masturbate I wish I had a guy in bed with me. If I do have sex with a guy but it turns out less satisfing then I hoped I wish I were alone at home having more fun with myself.

[Tia Vampire]

I also know how the sex with my SO is going to be. We have never had bad sex. Which is a good thing, but alot of quickies which get boaring at times. I like swinging for the various ways people have sex. There are things that my SO is not willing to do. Makes for a fun night. If the sex is bad with one couple, we don't look for seconds round with them and will go look for another couple that same night if we do not find what we are looking for.

He: rather masturbate than have bad sex.
She: rather not have sex or masturbate if it's not good.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

I don't know how other women feel about this, but for me, masturbating keeps me more up for sex, and I've mentioned before on this Board that masturbating right before having sex with a man is something I've discovered heightens my sex with him.

I recall a similar conversation in another thread and I agree with you completely. Whether sex with another person or masturbation, the more I get it the more I want it.