Changes since becoming a swinger?

[des1re06]

We've been doing some reflection lately, and talking about changes since we began.

1. Sexually - more frequent and hotter
2. Communication - much more open and sexy talk increased
3. Teeth - thousands spent on cosmetic dentistry (him), obsessive about white teeth (her)
4. Travel - sexier places, more often
5. Dress - sexier clothing, no underwear usually
6. Friends - whole new set of friends
7. Body - waxing (ouch) is normal, hair removal (everywhere)
8. Overall grooming - hubby gets manicures, hand softening and pedicures (like never before), removed mustache, and shaves twice a day. She goes tanning, obsesses about every pound gained, and everything must be very clean.
9. Hair - he changed his hair color, and she gets hers done more often.

After re-reading what I'd typed, I see where I've become overly obsessive about everything being "perfect". I'm probably driving him nuts.

What changes do you see in your life?

Mrs. D

[Tybee Swing]

This one is very true for us, too:
2. Communication - much more open and sexy talk increased

We do travel to sexier places, though not really often. When we do travel, it's likely to be swinger related now.

Clothes: Certain sexy things that are swinging-only outfits (where else could I wear them??)

Mostly, a lot of changes happened for us more as a result of getting in better shape and having more confidence from that. This changed the way I dress overall, not just the few outfits for swinging. Even my underwear choices are based more on that, rather than swinging per se.

Our hair/grooming choices aren't really about swinging, either. It's mostly for ourselves and each other. I love Mr. Tybee's trimmed beard on him. We both keep ourselves smooth down below for each other, even when we're on break from swinging.

When we are getting ready to meet with swingers or go to an event, we definitely do make sure we're groomed and we dress our best, but still, it's basically what we do even when we're going out with each other.

In #8, you mentioned watching your weight....Swinging does have an impact on us wanting to maintain and stay as fit as we're able to. If we slip up and gain, we're very aware of wanting to get it back off, more than we would if we weren't swingers!

[Tia Vampire]

Yes, the cummunication between us is much better also. Plus there are no jealousy issues. Anything he says or does no longer bother me like before. He still has his moments, but more tolerant than before.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

This one is very true for us, too:
2. Communication - much more open and sexy talk increased

We do travel to sexier places, though not really often. When we do travel, it's likely to be swinger related now.

Clothes: Certain sexy things that are swinging-only outfits (where else could I wear them??)

Mostly, a lot of changes happened for us more as a result of getting in better shape and having more confidence from that. This changed the way I dress overall, not just the few outfits for swinging. Even my underwear choices are based more on that, rather than swinging per se.

Our hair/grooming choices aren't really about swinging, either. It's mostly for ourselves and each other. I love Mr. Tybee's trimmed beard on him. We both keep ourselves smooth down below for each other, even when we're on break from swinging.

When we are getting ready to meet with swingers or go to an event, we definitely do make sure we're groomed and we dress our best, but still, it's basically what we do even when we're going out with each other.

In #8, you mentioned watching your weight....Swinging does have an impact on us wanting to maintain and stay as fit as we're able to. If we slip up and gain, we're very aware of wanting to get it back off, more than we would if we weren't swingers!

That's us, exactly (only Mr. Sweet is sans facial hair)!

=)

[lustylearning]

We have an active social life... who knew?

[likkit69]

Originally Posted by des1re06

7. Body - waxing (ouch) is normal, hair removal (everywhere)
8. Overall grooming - hubby gets manicures, hand softening and pedicures (like never before), removed mustache, and shaves twice a day. She goes tanning, obsesses about every pound gained, and everything must be very clean.
9. Hair - he changed his hair color, and she gets hers done more often.
Mrs. D

"These days there's dudes gettin' facials
Manicured, waxed and botoxed
With deep spray-on tans and creamy lotiony hands
You can't grip a tacklebox
thank god..i'm still a guy"

sorry not being mean, just reminded me of that song

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by likkit69

"These days there's dudes gettin' facials
Manicured, waxed and botoxed
With deep spray-on tans and creamy lotiony hands
You can't grip a tacklebox
thank god..i'm still a guy"

sorry not being mean, just reminded me of that song

Sounds like a country song....

[likkit69]

yup...... Brad Paisley - I'm Still a Guy, kind of a funny song.

[Chris&Amelia]

I'm reading your list, and I've noticed several of these changes now that we've decided to "get back in the saddle".

1) Sexually - We have always been touchy-feeley with each other, but this has since gotten much more intense. We are constantly groping each other... it's like we're newlyweds again. While we were in hiatus, the actual act was more of a "by the numbers" routine, but there is a definite spark and passion back into our lovemaking.

2) Communication - We've always been honest with each other. I've never hidden anything from her, and she has always been open with me as well. Sometimes I have to coax her thoughts out of her, but it's not because of any dishonesty, but just because she was hesitant to "burden" me with her thoughts.

Every since we've started back up, we communicate much more openly with each other, and we're happier for it. I mean, heck, she has sex with other guys and I have sex with other girls. Why bother keeping secrets at that point?

3) Dress - Up until recently, her wardrobe consisted of a bunch of t-shirts and sweat pants, and a single pair of jeans, as well as some lingerie used for special occasions. She's recently upgraded her clothing selection and gotten some stuff that shows off her figure.

4) Friends - We're new to the local scene, being out for so long (and even then we used to go to a club that was rather far away). But we used to have the usual circle of "work friends" and a limited number of "purely social" friends that were usually people who used to work where I did but since moved on. We're now making new friends and it feels great. In particular, we've met one couple who we consider not just playmates, but real friends who we can interact on a more intellectual level. And, speaking strictly for myself, I enjoy the fact that, other then Amelia, I have somebody I can actually talk to on a meaningful level.

5) General Satisfaction - Simply put, we're just happier. It seems life is much more interesting and exciting. It's no longer the same drudge of "go-to-work, then go-to-home, get-a-weekend-of-doing-nothing, go-back-to-work" anymore. We now look forward to different events and activities.

And there's a certain satisfaction from knowing you're a member of a card-carrying secret society...

6) Personal fitness - I'm a big guy. Always have been, always will be. Even in the prime of my physical fitness, I was 220 lbs.

I'm now looking into ways of shedding some of this excess pounds and trim up a bit. I will never be thin... simply not how I am built. But I can be thinner, and now I have incentive to do so.

Because, let's face it, there's nothing that's quite a mood killer as your playmate looking up at you and saying "Hey, um, I'm having fun and all... but could you get off me? I can't breathe."