What does it take to get you in bed?

[lustylearning]

Originally Posted by Malachista

I'm the odd cookie in the jar.
I decide by the first touch. (on arms and legs not people who grope tits and between my legs)
I really have problems with people who I talk first to for 30 minutes, and then just ask to play, without ever having touched me - I rather have someone come up behind me and stroke my back first... if that feels fine, we can talk or play without a problem for me

Funny you should say that - you can tell a lot about a potential partner by the way they touch your back

[cubnamy1995]

Good thread.

Originally Posted by lustylearning

I love this question. For me it doesn't take much, but it does take something. I don't need a strong "connection," but I need to hear some kind of words uttered - something witty and/or sincere and/or intelligent and/or meaningful - some kind of minimal mental hook. It's tough for me to want to please someone if I don't, at least superficially, like them.

I agree with this too, but you know, my position has changed over time. Me being the dude of the couple, at first it was "if I like what I see, I'm there." Amy now says I'm evolving as a species. Now, I have to click with someone on personality too. I once played with a woman who I truly did not like as far as personality goes, and didn't have much fun. I think a good personality out of bed says a lot about what the experience is going to be like in bed. Now, unless we lock eyes and just have to tear each other's clothes off right then and there, I want to talk to you first. Even if just for 5 minutes.

Oh...but those moments when you do lock eyes....my goodness....sweetheart, I don't even want to know your name. I just want to f&@K the s^&T out of you!!!!

Sorry. Had a moment.