Bed Hoppers & Post Notchers...

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by Edison Carter

'meet and mate'

I love it! You have inspired me.

[ALilOEverything]

I always veiwed bed notchers to be about quantity and not quality. When I would read "no bed notchers" in people's profiles I would believe them to be people who only play with those who they truly hit it off with and they don't take one for the team. I don't believe this leads into poly because I've had enough "one night stands" as a swinger that was total quality. A repeat adventure with the same couple would have been great but it just never happened for whatever reason.

So when I would read "no bed notchers" I would look for them to qualify that in their description to make sure they we looking for a truly exhilerating time and not a poly relationship. I was totally one who liked to make friends in the lifestyle to add to the excitement but for me I didn't see the point of swinging if I became exclusive.

[MikeandDawn]

Since we now only play MMF with a long term partner, I'd say anything that strays from that would be "bed hopping" for us.

[SCcpl40]

When meeting couples online or through swinger sites, the question has come up from time to time, "How long have you two been involved in the lifestyle?" We try to answer, for a while instead of the actual number, because the experience thing tends to drive away or scare new couples who are entertaining the thought about getting involved in the lifestyle away. We say in our profile that we're not professional swingers nor bed hoppers, but people tend to label. Do we swing on the first date? If we're attracted to the couple, yes. Do we make friendships through the lifestyle? Yes and we maintain them. Have we been with a couple only once? Several times, usually it's because the distance is too great to meet again after meeting up at a convention. I heard once that what people say about you behind your back, defines you to the world. There is no emotion through emails or profiles, just words, that's why we like to meet for dinner and drinks. We approach the lifestyle like dating, so for us a little romance, flirtation goes a long way. Will we meet a couple just for sex? Give us a shout and see.

[JandCMI]

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

I think the folks that do use that phrase...have been burned by a couple they thought they had hit it off with and ended up not hearing from again.

This.

We specifically state in our profile that we are most interested in "repeat performances" but, at the same time, aren't looking for exclusivity. It sucks getting ditched by people you thought you hit it off well with.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by JandCMI

This.

We specifically state in our profile that we are most interested in "repeat performances" but, at the same time, aren't looking for exclusivity. It sucks getting ditched by people you thought you hit it off well with.

Haven't seen you guys in a while! missed that flying dog! Glad to see you back

[JandCMI]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Haven't seen you guys in a while! missed that flying dog! Glad to see you back

Thanks And to think I was thinking of getting rid of the dog. We are known by it now!

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by JandCMI

Thanks And to think I was thinking of getting rid of the dog. We are known by it now!

I've always thought icon was cool and cute. Gotta keep it!