Lifestyle Friends and Family Events

[SCcpl40]

We've been in the lifestyle now for some time and have made some very close friends. On our daughters wedding, we invited three couples and a single bif that are our closest friends. We don't openly advertise we're in the lifestyle, nor do we expect everyone to condone it.

Do other couples have close enough relationships that their playmates are invited to family events?

[rpu3]

Yes. We do mix our vanilla life with swinging friends if it makes sense to do so. When we thought we were friends with one particular couple we regularly attended cookouts at each other's homes, and we did invite them to parties at our home in which we had our very good vanilla friends in attendance. That friendship did end, but we didn't exactly regret including them in some of our regular life activities.

While that couple is no longer in our lives, we still wouldn't have an issue of mixing the two worlds as appropriate, if we truly considered the person or persons truly a friend or friends, and not just a casual swing relationship or acquaintance, of course.

Since nobody is exactly advertising what the exact relationship is with the other(s), it's certainly feasible to just be and say what you are in any social context - friends.

[SAMnTINA]

We recently celebrated the Bar Mitzvah of our youngest son, as we had the traditional over kill party afterword we of course mixed our employees, friends, family and swing friends at the party. Of 75 people in attendance 5 couples were long time swing friends. The only way to tell the swingers at the party is they were the ones having the most fun on the dance floor, socializing and visiting none of the couples knew any of the other couples we were the one link at the party went off without a hitch, and the after party was also a blast.

We would not invite every swinger we know but there are couples we are close too, most have met our kids and are close friends who we also happen to get naked with. One couple was even included in the presentations as they have developed a special relationship with not only us but also with our children and our son feel like they are like an extra set of grandparents to him.

This was not the first mixed party we have had and I am sure it will not be the last. We have also attended the wedding of our friends son where once again you could only tell how the swingers were if you looks for who was on the dance floor, and who seemed to be having the most fun socializing and meeting new people.

[sweet_tna]

Yes, we've invited lifestyle friends to a family/vanilla friend gathering. Of course, the ls friends were folks we feel close enough to include (and would likely be friends with if we met outside of the lifestyle).

=)

[Dagney]

Absolutely. As a matter of fact most of our closest friends now are LS friends, and our kids have even become very good friends. Our families don't know we swing, but they do know we have a group of friends and we all like to have parties and go dancing, so we just introduce them as our party friends and say we all met through friends of friends.

[avid]

I think that, while we are not THAT close to every couple we know, we still COULD invite them to a vanilla event. Some of them we do invite to our regular parties, and to go camping.

Originally Posted by SAMnTINA

The only way to tell the swingers at the party is they were the once having the most fun on the dance floor, socializing and visiting

This is exactly what happened at a formal 40th birthday party for a lifestyle friend. We walked in just before the party officially started (it was a surprise), and we just co-incidentally sat beside the only other lifestyle couple in attendance. Could it be that they were the most confident, attractive, and fun, so we were naturally attracted to them? When the party got going, there were pretty much 3 couples consistently up on the dance floor - us and the two other couples. We kept that party revved up!

[TNT]

Originally Posted by SCcpl40

Do other couples have close enough relationships that their playmates are invited to family events?

Over the years there have been four couples who have actually met our children, they've came and spent the weekend with us doing vanilla stuff.

Of those four couples, one lives in the same town and they are a permanent fixture around our house, they've been to many family events with us as well as us attending numerous of their family events...there's rarely a week that goes by that we don't see them and have become some of our closest friends.



Teresa